There are many admirable old people in the grandmother group in "Know it or not", they have all the skills, wisdom and means, casually say a word, that is, the philosophy of life, casually use a little means, you can easily put the difficulties to rest.
For example, the wise old lady Sheng, who used her wisdom to educate two outstanding granddaughters, married high and rich, can still rely on the wisdom given to them by her grandmother to settle the difficulties in life.
For example, the transparent and open-minded Grandma Kong, who served several generations of emperors in the palace, was safe and sound, learned the skills of the whole body, was invited to her home by many high-ranking households to be a female official, respected by everyone, and faced with the difficult white lotus forest cream, a few words destroyed Sheng Hong's decades of preference for her.
Another example is the cheerful and optimistic old lady He, who never puts her heart on her face, no matter what she encounters, she can think of everything, and quietly solves a large number of beautiful concubines and concubines in her husband's house, and her children and grandchildren are full of halls in her old age, and she has a very good relationship with her husband.
Among these excellent old ladies, what I admire most is Grandma Chang, who has the wisdom of a commoner, she can be elegant and vulgar, she can scold the difficult shrew Aunt Kang, she can help Gu Tingye to identify the Zhu Manniang, she can also choose to leave gracefully when Gu Tingye flies Huang Tengda, and pay diligently when Gu Tingye needs it.
Grandma Chang was born into poverty, but she never violated her own heart in the poor days, she should be among several wise old ladies, the process and the ending are the best.
Mrs. Sheng still has the pain of losing her son, Grandma Kong has no love and no sex in her life, Mrs. He has harmed people's lives for her status, only Grandma Kong, no regrets in her life, life should be experienced, she has not fallen, Sun Tzu became a talent, married Gu Tingye's eldest daughter Rong Sister, the couple took care of Grandma Chang to enjoy her old age, such a life, is a perfect life.
And this happy ending, not chang mama's good luck, but Chang mama is smart, full of wisdom of the people at the bottom, every time Chang Mama appears, it is a wonderful good play, noble character reveals tacky, low status to maintain dignity.
1. At a glance at the, he advised Gu Tingye to stay away from Zhu Manniang
Although Grandma Chang is only gu Tingye's mother's dowry, for Gu Tingye, she is a little more arrogant, and she loves her as her own son, and every mother should hope that her son will marry a virtuous and generous wife and live in peace of mind.
Chang Mama's expectations for Gu Tingye are the same, when the Bai family lord had grace for her, saving her from the water and fire and letting her serve around the White Family Miss, Chang Mama is a grateful person, a lifetime of remembering the kindness of the Bai family's father and daughter, after the death of the White Family Miss, leaving Gu Tingye alone in the world, Chang Mama is very distressed.
The only thing she could do was to do what she could for Gu Tingye, Gu Tingye was young and crazy, clumsy, and left a notorious reputation as a wanderer in Beijing, and later left home for thousands of miles, and did not forget to get involved with Jianghu Geji, Chang Mama did not dislike Gu Tingye like others, and did not half a word of scolding.
What she thought in her heart was that Gu Tingye, a concubine of the Marquis of Hou who was rich in gold and jade, was forced to leave home and wander outside, not knowing how much suffering she had suffered, if the big miss knew, she didn't know how much it hurt, Chang Ma ma thought, she couldn't help but shed tears, and she was doubly kind to Gu Tingye.
But Chang Mama's love is not black and white, tolerant and accepting of Everything Gu Tingye, she is considerate of Gu Tingye's difficulty in wandering outside, and she is grateful to Zhu Manniang for accompanying Gu Tingye in difficult times, but this does not mean that she has to accept Zhu Manniang, and when she first sees Manniang, she can see at first sight that she is not a good person.
Manniang from head to toe is ChuChu pitiful, there is nothing wrong with it, respectful and courteous to Grandma Chang, but Grandma Chang is not pleasing to the eye, unwilling to drink her respectful tea, and even more unwilling to accept her, many times advised Gu Tingye, Zhu Manniang is not a good person, it is better to drive her away as soon as possible.
But the child is innocent, Chang Mamao carefully took care of Gu Tingye's two children, watching Gu Tingye plead bitterly, Chang Mama also reluctantly took in Zhu Manniang, seeing this restless woman firmly and not letting her go out to make waves.
Hearing that Gu Tingye wanted to go to the Yu family to propose to her relatives, Grandma Chang was overjoyed, the big girl of the Yu family was famous for her virtuousness, and what Grandma Chang wanted most was for Gu Tingye to marry a virtuous wife and control him.
Grandma Chang repeatedly persuaded Gu Tingye to leave Zhu Manniang, but Gu Tingye still had feelings for Zhu Manniang, not only did not leave, but also quarreled with her father many times for her, but Manniang was not a woman who was willing to be a concubine, she ran to the Yu family to destroy Gu Tingye and Yu Yanran's affair, and pretended to be innocent.
Grandma Chang had already seen this, but because Manniang was Gu Tingye's heart meat, she couldn't do anything with her, so she had to silently look for an opportunity to dispose of her, and finally after Gu Tingye was driven out of the house by the Gu family, Grandma Chang caught the opportunity, and she let Gu Tingye test Manniang, saying that she would no longer be the concubine of the Gu family in the future, and might have to live on hard work.
After Manniang listened, she began to play the idea of leaving Gu Tingye, she stole all the valuable things of Gu Tingye to sell, and gave the money to her brother, at first she lied to Gu Tingye that her brother was dead, Chang Mama was very clever, and did not go out to expose Manniang herself, but after collecting the evidence, let Gu Tingye go and arrest herself.
After Zhu Manniang left, Grandma Chang helped Gu Tingye take care of Sister Rong, and every day like a mother, she worried about Gu Tingye's safety and looked forward to his early return, and later Gu Tingye not only returned safely, but also became a red person around the new emperor, adding officials to the knighthood and becoming a new upstart of the dynasty.
This can make Chang Ma ma happy, the person who came to propose to Gu Tingye almost broke through the threshold, and Gu Tingye chose Sheng Minglan, the concubine of the Wupin small official family, Chang Mama did not say anything, there was no dislike for Minglan, in chang Mama's eyes, as long as the other party's family is innocent and has good character, it is a good girl, that is, she is satisfied with the housewife.
2. Angrily scold aunt Kang and protect Minglan for Gu Tingye
After Gu Tingye returned to the capital and became a zhengerpin official, it is reasonable to say that it was the time when Grandma Chang stayed to enjoy the blessings, and those people in Beijing who could not beat the eight rods came to climb and kiss, but Grandma Chang chose to leave at this time.
She moved from the capital with her widowed daughter-in-law and grandchildren to live in an alley in the countryside, when Chang Mama's son died, and it was still within the three-year mourning period, and Gu Tingye was still two months away from the mourning period when she got married, so as not to rush to the joy of the newlyweds, she has been avoiding coming.
When Gu Tingye flew Huang Tengda, Grandma Chang did not run to dip his light, maintaining the wind and bone that a poor person should have, and when Gu Tingye needed her, she never shirked, when Minglan was pregnant, Gu Tingye went out again, Grandma Chang was not at ease with Minglan, and specially came to Gu's house to visit Minglan.
Minglan was tormented by morning sickness all day long, but the relative Kang Aunt who had turned dozens of bends with Minglan often ran to the Gu family to entrust the big, and every time she came, Minglan had to accompany her, without the slightest understanding of the hardships of a pregnant woman going back and forth, when Minglan did not come, Xiao Qin also let xiang mother to force Minglan.
Grandma Chang looked at this scene, really couldn't stand it, ran to Xiao Qin's place, to Aunt Kang and Xiao Qin's is a stinky scolding, can be described as a big happy ah, see Chang Mama is still there to put up a shelf, said that women under the sky are going to have children, Minglan has goods in her belly, to take Joe, disrespect the elders.
Grandma Chang listened to the breath and did not hit a single place, and suddenly burst into a big anger and rudeness:
Ha, elders, which door of the elders! I respect you as Madame's mother's family, only to honor you as an aunt, and really treat yourself as a dish! Open your eyes and look carefully, this family's surname is Gu! Family name Sheng! Your Kang family is a close relative of the Sheng family, and we Gu family are even more close to each other! What an elder to come here!
There are three filial pieties, and no queen is greater. Nowadays, no one inside or outside knows that the lady is pregnant, that is, the old lady and the wife of the family are not very good to disturb the wife's raising of the fetus. Now it is good, here comes an aunt who does not know the face of the dog's head, and two ends of the three days to set up a shelf to fill the boss! I yawn, if our Marquis's flesh and bones have a good villain, can your three or two bones afford to lose?
...... What is it! If someone dies in his own home, he is not so diligent in mourning! Not half of the appearance of everyone's wife, three days and two ends to run to this, do not know how close to the relatives, do not come to fight the autumn wind! ...... Go down and ask. Which decent person will let the belly of seven or eight months run back and forth all day!
Some people poured well, and also kicked their noses in the face, and there were even more stupid people who pretended to be stupid. How! Looking at Hou Ye if there is no queen, who can be cheaper! ...... I told the black heart and liver that my brother ye did not fulfill your wish, and now that it is difficult not to die, there will be a blessing!
Aunt Kang is even a famous shrew, from childhood by Mrs. Wang used to lawlessness, never put others in the eyes, the whole Wang family, no one let Aunt Kang, from childhood only she sprinkled and rolled and scolded others, no one dared to say that she was not, Chang Mama's scolding, can be said to hurt Aunt Kang's self-esteem, for a long time did not go to the door of the Hou Mansion.
Grandma Chang was born in the people at the bottom, from childhood to adulthood, she had seen all kinds of people, she was not like those noble ladies with status, even if she hated it in her heart, she had to pretend to be dignified, and she did not even dare to say a word of rudeness, and it was not appropriate to deal with people like Aunt Kang with courtesy.
Aunt Kang's shamelessness has no bottom line, Minglan has already shaken out all her ugly things, but it did not play much role, if there is no appearance of Chang Mama, Minglan will continue to be difficult by Aunt Kang, and even have to inch forward, pointing fingers at Minglan, Chang Mama is a small person, but can put the big people can not be leveled things, this is the really powerful person.
3. Scold the daughter-in-law and maintain simple affection with Gu Tingye
Grandma Chang, an elderly old woman, who died her husband and only son, she alone took her short-sighted daughter-in-law and a pair of young grandchildren, and despite this, she never asked for anything from her understanding of kindness to Gu Tingye.
But Chang Mama's daughter-in-law is not so smart, seeing that her younger daughter Chang Yan is about to grow up, she is eager to give her to Gu Tingye as a concubine, so as to climb the Houfu family, and the three generations of the Chang family's grandchildren will have a better life, but her proposal was strongly refuted by Chang Mama.
Daughter-in-law Chang Hu felt that Gu Tingye's officials were getting bigger and bigger, and the wealth of heaven was in front of her, and she could get rich with her daughter son, and Chang Mama remembered that when her daughter-in-law did business for her son in order to be rich and noble, and as a result, the family was ruined, and her anger could not stop rushing upwards:
You're a loser! Something that can't be on the countertop! I was really blind in the first place, so I would ask you to come in and be a daughter-in-law! You eat a lot and you wear, but you have to get sick and kill my son! If it weren't for the face of Swallow and Brother Nian, I would have kicked you out of the house early in the morning, and you still don't know the sky is high! You think Ye Ge'er looks good at you? He already knew what kind of goods you were, so he didn't bother to take care of you!
In fact, Chang Hu's desire to take his daughter to Gu Tingye as a concubine is not empty, but at the beginning, Chang Mama had such a plan, but at that time, Chang Mama was looking after Gu Tingye alone, no one to take care of, surrounded by some tigers and wolves who wanted to swallow him alive, before sending their granddaughter to serve Gu Tingye, good villains are their own people, it is also reassuring.
But then Gu Tingye married a good daughter-in-law Minglan, Chang Ma gave up this idea, since Gu Tingye treated Minglan as a treasure, then naturally there is no need for any confidant, in such a situation to send Chang Yan over, that is not equivalent to ruining her life, instead of sending her to the Hou Mansion for a lifetime of cold life, it is better to find a good family for her, happy and ordinary life.
Speaking of Gu Tingye, he did not have a good life, the Chang family sent Chang Yan over, it was a charcoal in the snow, he would certainly be able to take this as Chang Mama's kind concern, but he already had Minglan, the husband and wife feelings are so deep, and then send Chang Yan over, even if Gu Tingye does not say that the Chang family is a clinging magnate, treat Chang Yan kindly, this kind of affection between Chang Mama and Gu Tingye will also be diluted.
Grandma Chang is a smart person, will not do the kind of stupid thing that loses the wife and folds the soldiers, scolds the daughter-in-law, cut off her stupid ideas, Gu Tingye saw Chang Hu's thoughts, but Grandma Chang did not do that, in order to compensate the Chang family, Gu Tingye planned to send a house on the outskirts of Beijing to the Chang family, but was rejected by Grandma Chang, and what Grandma Chang wanted was not a small profit in front of her, but a big profit related to the future of the Chang family.
4, do not argue, but get the best kind treatment
To say that this Chang Mama, is also a strange person, she died prematurely after the birth of a daughter and then went to the Bai family to be a nurse, very dedicated, the white old lady proposed to accept the Chang family couple, who knows chang Ma ma would rather fall less benefits, but also politely refuse to follow.
As Old Lady Bai became more and more popular, Grandma Chang was valued for her loyalty, and her family gradually improved, and when Lady Bai got married, many slaves rushed to follow her to the Hou Mansion to "enjoy happiness", but she did not follow, but returned to her hometown to run her own small family.
After Gu Tingye Qingyun went straight up, Grandma Chang still did not rush to cling to it, but was very determined to continue to be a free flat-headed people. Even when Chengyuan was first established, she came to the mansion to help rectify for a while at the request of Gu Tingye, and when Mr. Gongsun came from the south, she returned to her home.
Even coming to see Minglan, Grandma Chang also explained that she came in the afternoon. This thing is worth playing, in ancient times, most of the guests who went to other people's homes were in the morning, and Minglan secretly speculated about Chang Mama's considerations: first, the possibility of coming to the door in the afternoon, meeting Gu Tingye was higher; second, if he came in the morning, the main family would inevitably stay for dinner.
Grandma Chang has a decent generation, in the end, she has been a white family's wet nurse, and she always loses the identity of half a servant, so she refuses to come to the table to eat with the main family. But if she really wanted to clearly say this layer of meaning of "the servant does not share the table with the Lord", she seemed not to want to be contemptuous and self-deprecating, so she simply came in the afternoon.
This wisdom is comparable to Grandma Liu, but this is not the smartest place for Grandma Chang, and the smartest thing about her is that although she has no money to go to the Bai family as a nurse, she has not been enslaved all her life and has maintained her status as a commoner.
Ancient slaves were not free, and Grandma Chang went to the Bai family as a nurse, but in order to meet the urgency of the moment, she was a person who considered the long term, and did not give up the future of future generations because of a temporary financial temptation.
She is an elderly old man, to manage the confused daughter-in-law, but also to manage the young grandchildren, life is not easy, but he still misses the old feelings, always cares about Gu Tingye, and does not ask Gu Tingye for a momentary return.
Gu Tingye is a person who has a vendetta and can not repay, but there is a person who must repay Chang Mama, Chang Mama has not accepted, the more he owes, the more Gu Tingye is grateful, Chang Mama is not desireless and undesirable, she knows that temporary help can not solve the poverty of the Chang family, if the Chang family wants to turn over, it must rely on future generations.
It was because when Gu Tingye repeatedly proposed to improve the living conditions of the Chang family, Grandma Chang refused, but at the right time, asking Minglan to find a good gentleman for the perennial who was studying and enterprising, Grandma Chang knew that the descendants of the Sheng family all had meritorious names, and there must be a good husband, this matter, Qiu Minglan was more effective than gu Tingye.
Minglan often heard Gu Tingye say that when he was in the most difficult time outside, he had received a lot of help from this Chang Mama, and took good care of him, not a relative who was more like a relative. Compared with those relatives who are at odds with each other and only know how to take advantage of the autumn wind, this Chang Mama is much more respectable. Gu Tingye instructed Minglan not to slacken off.
Minglan looks at the perennial but is a very talented child, very much like this small age on the humble and courteous child, entrusted his big brother Changbai to help find a good private school for many years, perennial and Changdong became the same window, but also became a good friend, perennial reading and self-motivated, excellent character, got the mr. classmates unanimously liked.
Later, he was admitted to the new branch for many years, married Gu Tingye's eldest daughter Rongjie' sister, and became the only son-in-law of Gu Tingye and Minglan, the official fortunes were shared, the future was bright, the couple was very filial to this wise grandmother, and Grandma Chang had to enjoy the happiness of the world.
Chang Mama is a very far-sighted person, she once said that Gu Tingye is what she grew up watching, Gu Tingye thinks everything she knows, the truth is the same, Chang Mama knows human nature very well, more understand Gu Tingye's humanity, she is never afraid that her efforts will be forgotten, so she has always saved her kindness.
Her family lived a hard life, if she wanted, they could have lived a comfortable life long ago, but if that was the case, she would not be able to ask for anything again, then even if the Chang family was rich for a while, she could not guarantee that she would always be rich, so she saved up her kindness, and when it was time to find Mr. chang for the first time, Grandma Chang asked Gu Tingye and his wife for the first time, so that it was difficult for them to think hard.
The ending of the Chang family is so good, all because of the careful planning of the clever Chang Mama, as a woman, in ancient times, tied hands and feet, can support a family in such a difficult environment, Chang Mama is the most powerful person.