In real life, I don't know if you have found such a phenomenon.
When many people are young, they are "my fate is up to me"
But once you reach middle age, you seem to feel that many things are "the destiny of each peace"
Some people think that people are old, their courage is small, and they are beginning to be afraid of things.
As everyone knows, people are old and experience more ups and downs and setbacks.
Understand better, some things will not be so true, but also know how to choose and let go.
Don't associate with some rotten people, don't get entangled with some rotten things.
This is like Sun Wukong in "Journey to the West", if he is not pressed by the Buddha under the Five Finger Mountain for 500 years, how can he do his duty and accompany Tang Sanzang to learn the scriptures in a down-to-earth manner?
Life is to fall once and grow once.
And the feelings between men and women, the same is true!
When you see through it, sometimes it is less sad and painful.
First: not what you want, you can be together
The feelings between men and women are a surreal existence!
Sometimes the will of man cannot be changed.
For example, your inner desire to be with one person does not change the actual emotional state of two people.
That is, no matter how hard you try and pull out your true heart, you may not be able to be with the other party.
I'm not trying to strike a blow to a person's confidence and courage in pursuing happiness.
It's just that people who have no share in the situation sometimes can't walk together.
Either the other person doesn't love it, or keeps missing it!
The end result is nothing more than, I married someone else, and you put on someone else's wedding dress!
Sometimes, even if you are married, you may not be able to let go of this feeling.
But reality is reality, not that you can be together if you want.
Second: there is no absolute fit
There is no absolute fit for the feelings between men and women!
Even if two people are happier, there will be quarrels and there will be differences of opinion.
The reason why we can feel the happiness of two people is only that two people tolerate each other.
Therefore, whether men or women, do not expect too much from the feelings of two people, and more importantly, the run-in problem of two people.
If the personality and temper of the two people are well tempered, the rest of their lives will be smooth.
If two people don't get along well, that's the biggest disaster.
At the light, two people are useless, and if they are heavy, two people can go their separate ways!
But no matter what kind of ending, it will be very painful.
Since Heaven has arranged for two people to marry, it is necessary to cherish this fate, rather than thinking about separation and separation.
Men and women, no matter who they are, but if they have such a thought, the collapse of the family is a matter of moments.
Third: just work hard, Heaven has its own arrangements
There is such a particularly inspirational sentence on the Internet, which is very suitable for common encouragement.
You can persuade others, you can also persuade yourself: you just have to work hard, Heaven has its own arrangements!
In fact, this principle applies to the feelings between men and women.
There is nothing wrong with loving someone, and there is nothing wrong with being alone!
As long as you figure it out, you want it, work hard, and don't regret it.
Between men and women, when fate comes, we must cherish it well.
When the fate is exhausted, don't force it.
Many times, we are not embarrassing others, but ourselves.