Yesterday, another celebrity couple divorced.
The whole network celebrates together.
The last time such a grand occasion was when Ya Ya and Chen Sicheng divorced.
They picked the time of the official divorce on Valentine's Day, and Wu Qian posted on Weibo:
The couple ended their marriage, but the style of painting in the comments section was very different.
Under Wu Qian's comment area, it is all congratulations on the return of beautiful women to singleness. On the contrary, it is the "sneering" of netizens to Zhang Yujian.
Why do netizens have this reaction?
Many people may not know Zhang Yujian, but I think everyone has heard a little about his high-cold personality.
The previously broadcast "The Next Stop is Happiness" also really made him a big fire, active in major domestic variety shows.
Since then, the straight personality of people who do not talk much has made Zhang Yujian quickly out of the circle.
People are on fire, and his feelings with Wu Qian have also been pulled out.
Wu Qian, everyone should know, the little princess of Huace who is praised by the company, is remembered by the audience for the role of Zhao Mosheng in "Why Sheng Zhen Mo".
In the new generation of small flowers, Wu Qian is considered to be more outstanding in appearance and strength, and the prospects are considerable.
It is reported that Wu Qian and Zhang Yujian had a love affair because of the drama when filming "I Only Like You", not only sweet interaction in the tidbits, but also often photographed together in private.
The woman eventually chose to marry and have children during the career upswing period because of love.
She posted a video story that hadn't appeared for a long time, with her eye sockets sunken in full of old age.
It seems to make sense, but it doesn't make sense.
Between the lines is to complain that netizens pay too much attention to his private life.
However, the point of controversy among netizens is that married people are still creating their own single image in the entertainment industry and speculating with other actresses.
It caused netizens to feel sorry for Wu Qian.
To be honest, the privacy of the star, the parties have the right to decide whether to publish it.
But children like Zhang Yujian are one year old, and as a father, he still tells others in front of the camera that "I am single", which is really a bit unspeakable.
Who would have thought that this conversation would take place during the time when the wife was pregnant, the wife was pregnant, and he was alone.
It seems that the marriage with Wu Qian has been nominal from beginning to end.
But if you really love a person and be responsible for a person, how can you hide it on the inside and have no measure to the outside world?
There is a very poignant sentence in "Strange Story":
Marriage doesn't give you a sense of security, but people can.
With people who know how to "sense of proportion", it is easy to have a proper sense of security to be protected, and the love that does not suffer from gain and loss can often achieve the best appearance of each other in the marriage relationship.
Love is not only an understanding, but also a respect.
People who really love you, without saying more, know how to avoid suspicion.
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mutual respect,
It is the foundation of a good marriage
In the marriage between Wu Qian and Zhang Yujian, we only see that the wife gave up the bright future for the sake of the family.
But such a payment can not be exchanged for a trace of respect from the husband.
He ignored the sacrifices made by his other half for the family, and did not reflect the responsibilities and responsibilities that should be a husband when the other party was pushed to the cusp of the storm.
Such a marital relationship is undoubtedly an internal friction.
Zhang Ailing once wrote a sentence on the back of the photo sent to Hu Lancheng:
Seeing him, she became very low, low into the dust, and flowers blossomed out of the dust.
In fact, there are no flowers in the dust.
Humble flattery and blind sacrifice may be exchanged for the other party's intensification.
Before the TV series "Shangyang Fu" was popular, everyone expressed their true fragrance to the "greasy CP" pair of Monday Wei and Zhang Ziyi.
However, the tacit cooperation between Zhou Wei and Zhang Ziyi on the set made Zhu Dan, who went to visit the class, somewhat out of place.
Zhu Dan said in an interview: Every time he went to the crew to visit the class, Monday Wei would say in public that he was a "puppy peeing".
It's extremely ugly and ruthless.
And Monday's disrespect for his wife is not once or twice.
She often laughed at Zhu Dan's love and respect for acting in the show:
"It's true that she's not acting professionally."
"Her filming is not my standard sense of filming."
After saying that, he laughed unashamedly, and did not feel inappropriate at all.
In his career, he did not support his wife.
In the face of the family, he also gave up.
Once the host asked him: The child is so small, you can't accompany him, is this a kind of helplessness?
He shook his head:
"I will not affect my career because of this kind of individual and small family."
"Boy, he brought his own script, this is his life."
This father is obviously unqualified, he does not participate in the child's childhood, and his wife balances the dilemma of family and career, and he never tries to understand.
In the marriage relationship between Zhu Dan and Zhou Zhouwei, who dominates and who prevails is clear at a glance, but is such a marriage relationship really reliable?
Psychologist William James said that the deepest need of human beings is to feel appreciated and respected.
What about in an intimate relationship?
When I watched "The Man Who Did Housework" before, I was moved by the couple Yuan Hong and Zhang Xinyi.
Yuan Hong is distressed about his wife's difficulty in becoming a mother, and Zhang Xinyi understands her husband's love for his career.
This respect and understanding permeates every aspect of life.
Get up early every day to make breakfast, always feed the child, and then ask your wife to get up;
Watching the ball game is fascinated, as soon as I hear Zhang Xinyi say a sentence of "neck discomfort", I will go to help her massage her shoulders;
......
Many people are envious of whether Zhang Xinyi saved the galaxy in his previous life to have such a considerate and careful husband as Yuan Hong.
As everyone knows, this payment is a two-way street.
Zhang Xinyi will also silently support her husband's career and love.
Later, when Zhang Xinyi shared the secret of love preservation with Yuan Hong, he said: "Mutual respect, do not hesitate to praise." ”
Isn't this exactly what is needed in the relationship, and do not take the other party's efforts and sacrifices for granted.
Support each other and achieve each other.
What could be more comfortable with each other than this state of being together.
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In just one year, the entertainment industry has undergone too many points and combinations, some people feel sorry for those separated couples, and some people lament that they no longer believe in love.
But only the parties themselves know that continuing to be together without love is a torture to each other and a kind of harm to themselves.
Some people are together because the other person can make themselves better.
In the same way, some people are separated, instead of seemingly separated, barely living together, maintaining the appearance of happiness in the eyes of others, it is better to let go of themselves and pursue true happiness.
In a rational and dignified way, end the lost feelings.
When you love, you can afford to take it, you can not love to put it down, and choosing to get along in another way is the best end of the moment.
I hope that the goddess Wu Qian can find her own happiness as soon as possible!