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At 18:03 on the afternoon of February 17, Du Haitao and Shen Mengchen sent a Weibo message almost at the same time: The magpies in the sky are obedient.
They also generously posted the marriage certificate, officially responded to the rumors in the morning, and directly announced the marriage certificate.
February 17 is a very special day, just happened to be Shen Mengchen's birthday, the two people received the certificate specially selected on February 17 this day, it can be said that Du Haitao is also quite attentive.
One of the most interesting photos is the number of red and white roses: 3170, which should be the number of days the two of them have been together.
Counting the time, they have been in love for 9 years.
From the long run from love to two people finally officially announcing their marriage, this road is also very difficult.
I remember that from 2019, when Du Haitao and Shen Mengchen were mentioned, someone always urged them to get married quickly. Because they participated in the recording of "Daughters in Love" that year, the two people have been sprinkling sugar on the show, which is too sweet to be good, causing the audience to urge them to get married quickly. At the same time, there are reasons for Du Haitao, Du Haitao also said that he would marry Shen Mengchen quickly when recording the program.
Shen Mengchen herself also said that the label she most wanted to tear off was "Du Haitao's girlfriend" and wanted to post "Du Haitao's wife".
So you can't blame everyone for urging them, mainly because they both have revealed that they want to get married quickly, and as a result, from 19 to 20 years, until today in 2022, the two of them have officially announced their marriage. For so many years, when it comes to the love between the two of them, the most common word is "marriage".
Gradually, everyone was a little bored, Shen Mengchen himself said, Du Haitao could not move at all.
Because the two of them have been in love for so long, they have not gotten married for a long time, and some people say that they are going to break up. Isn't that what everyone thinks? Two people in love do not get married, so what is waiting for is not to break up? As people questioned more and more, I found that they were no longer as affectionate as before. Sometimes not showing love is not necessarily a breakup, but no longer want their love to receive too much attention.
Nowadays, it seems that Du Haitao's original response to Shen Mengchen's "urging" was very sincere. Du Haitao once responded in the variety show why they are not married, he said: "I think this matter is more or less a bit of a trouble for Mengchen, because the matter came out, she is also saying to me, 'Well, sorry, let you be wronged'. I think it's time to share this as soon as possible. First, I very much recognize her hard work and seriousness in the show; second, I hope you will look at the expression of Mengchen throughout the paragraph; third, the consensus that I have reached with Mengchen is that we are doing what we should do at each stage step by step at every stage. We did what we should have done last year, and we will do what we should do this year. I don't think it's necessary to share everything with you at the first time. ”
In short, no matter how much everyone urges, we have our own plans, and we will get married when it is time to get married.
I am very supportive of Du Haitao's approach, they are not not married, but in the face of everyone's urging, they have to be more cautious about marriage. Marriage should be slow, divorce should be fast, two people should solve each problem when in love, understand each other more thoroughly, so that you enter the marriage, so that you will not be too disappointed in each other.
Why do women always complain that they only found out that their husbands have changed after getting married? I think it's not that your husband has changed, but that you have too many love filters when you are in love, you don't see the person clearly and are in a hurry to get married, and when you are really married, you find that you are a bit in a hurry.
Don't enter marriage at any time during the climax of your relationship, the more you want to get married, the more you have to persuade yourself to wait.
When you get married, you may wish to slow down, maybe mature you enter the marriage, it is easier to be happy.
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Today, I borrowed du Haitao and Shen Mengchen's official announcement of marriage, and analyzed with you the reasons for the delay in obtaining the license.
Some people may say, isn't it just a license? Why is it so hard? But everyone has thought about it, yes, the certificate is a formality, but if you get the certificate, you are legally married, you can not regret it, if you repent is divorce. It is in line with the principle of being responsible for oneself and the other party, and in the principle of respect for marriage, is it necessary for both people to be cautious.
Obtaining a permit is a big thing, but it is not a small matter, not simply holding the hukou book to get the certificate, but whether you are ready to spend the rest of your life holding hands with the other party.
People who have talked about love know that two people who are in love are very eager to get married, and they are eager to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau with each other to get married immediately. At that time, you must not be sober, you are overwhelmed by the hormones of love, you are thinking all about each other's advantages, and you believe that as long as you are married, you will be happy.
But I want to tell you a truth: choose to get married during the hot love period, two people will not be happy, because your expectations of each other and marriage are too high, so you will only see each other's shortcomings in marriage, it is difficult for you to learn to tolerate and endure, when the trivialities of marriage increase, you can't help arguing, at that time, only divorce accompanies you.
Don't tell me anything, men change as soon as they get married.
If the two of you are in love well, you will definitely find out what kind of person he is, a person's nature is difficult to change, he can disguise for a while, but he can disguise for many years, which is very difficult. We can judge a person clearly and clearly by how we get along when we are in love, how he treats you when you argue, what his parents are like, how his friends are around him, and his ability to deal with problems.
Don't rush to get married, as I just said, the stronger your desire to get married during the climax of your relationship, the more you have to persuade yourself to think about it. There's never anything wrong with being cautious about marriage.
Two people are in love for a long time, and they are delayed in getting married without a license, and there are many reasons? The first is that two people are fighting for a career and are not ready to enter marriage; the second two people have some emotional problems that must be solved through running-in; the third two people have not thought clearly about marriage and want to be more cautious about marriage.
At any time, you can't get married because people urge you, you have to figure out why you want to get married, and whether you are ready to spend your life with each other.
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I used to want to get married in 2014, when I was 24 years old, but I felt liked my boyfriend and then I wanted to marry him. In fact, the idea at that time was very impulsive, love fainted, fortunately we did not get married immediately, otherwise we would not be able to get past the difficulties after that. Later, we encountered the obstruction of both parents, and I had a conflict with my mother-in-law before marriage, and it took nearly a year and a half of delay before we got a license to get married.
Now we have been married for five years, and we are very happy with both children and daughters.
Looking back now, I still feel that my original decision was correct, if the pre-marital contradictions are left in the marriage to be resolved, then this marriage will definitely be hell on earth for me, and we may not have patience with each other. But before marriage, we all know what kind of person each other is, and we are all mature, and when we encounter such a thing again, we know how to solve it.
Be cautious about marriage, there is never wrong, marriage is your own business, and the most important thing is that you are prepared to enter marriage.
Today's young people enter marriage too quickly, marriage is like a bet, gambling will be happy for a lifetime, gambling loses then leave again. Divorce is too casual. In my opinion, this is not the embodiment of being seriously responsible for marriage, because they regard marriage as a child's play, so they want to get married, and divorce if they want to.
Don't get married because people around you urge you, have you ever thought about the meaning of marriage? Do you really want to get married with him? There are a lot of questions about marriage, you have to think clearly. The more cautious you are about marriage, the more likely you are to be close to happiness in your marriage.
Du Haitao Shen Mengchen officially announced their marriage: On the 3170th day of love, they finally cultivated the right results.
They may not have gotten married so early, but at this time, choosing to get married is also two people who really think clearly.
I hope that more couples can be more cautious about marriage, to talk about a good relationship, there is no relationship with the longer, you have to experience and solve some things with the people you love, to see each other more thoroughly, and when you are relatively mature, you really want to be responsible for each other, and it is not too late to enter the marriage.
Do not regard marriage as a child's play, do not marry because of urging, and marry the parties to be sober and rational.
Today's topic: What do you think of the delay in long-distance running in love? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the cold and warm of the world, looking at the world.