What's the hardest thing in the world to guess?
It's the human heart.
Oh, yes! People always want to meet someone who knows what they're thinking. But is there really a "spirit in the heart" in this world?
It's really hard to do this, because two people are different people, and it's really hard to do it, not that we don't want to, but there is no way to do it.
Because the education and family environment received by two people are different, it is impossible to achieve the same heart. It was as if there were no two identical leaves in the world. The same is true of people. Especially two people who have received different educations and have different experiences.
As someone once said, "Two hearts are two different hearts, and it is impossible for the hearts to be imprinted on each other." "It's true, especially in relationships. How many feelings there are because of communication problems.
Sometimes it's really easy for us to make mistakes like that. Thinking we've been together for so long, I don't say you should know and should know.
But I ignored that the two people were originally different! Genders are not the same, ideas are not the same, and the three views are not the same. Therefore, the view of a thing is also different. So, if there's something wrong, the best way is to say what you want or say.
1, communication is a must for feelings
A good relationship, there is a good way to communicate. Communication is like a bridge that connects the hearts of two people, but communicating is easy to say, but it's not so easy to do.
Communication can be said to be an important part of the relationship, whether it is family, friendship, love needs to communicate. Having good communication can make our relationship more solid.
I remember watching the TV series that had such a passage:
Boy: "I did it for one night, what are you doing?" ”
Girl: "You don't understand me at all." ”
Boy: "You don't say how I understand you." ”
Girl: "I really don't need to say it." ”
Boy: "Don't you understand when you say it?" ”
Girl: "What does it mean to say it, I don't say you should understand it." ”
So they started arguing about the issue. In fact, this kind of quarrel could have been avoided. Just do a good job of communication.
Indeed, if both people can do it, the quarrels in the relationship will be much less. It's just that sometimes we just know, but we can't do it.
It's as if someone has said, "I understand the truth, but I can't do it." Yeah, so how do we communicate well? The first is to consciously change yourself. Speak half a beat slowly, don't blurt out. Find a communication pattern that suits both of you, so that your communication will be smoother and your relationship will get better and better.
2, the mind is not guessable
You know, everyone thinks differently, as if you are thirsty, what you want to drink is water, you move your mouth, and you may think that you have something to say.
After all, everyone's thoughts are different, and everyone's thoughts are different. Sometimes we don't even know what's in our hearts, let alone others.
So, in a relationship, if you always let the other person guess, then it is easy for the other party to guess a hundred and eighteen thousand miles away from what you want. Just as someone likes summer and someone likes autumn, two people's minds are different. It's just the goal that can be the same.
It's like two people with good feelings, if they don't express or act, then they can only be a crush, just like Zhang Wansen in "A Flash and a Shining Crystal", his love for Lin Beixing is deeply hidden.
If it weren't for Lin Beixing being able to return to the past because of an accident, Lin Beixing might not have known what his intentions were in this lifetime. Because he uses so many secret ways that the other party can't find out at all, you like her mind.
So, if you like someone, don't always give silently and wait for others to guess your thoughts. If you just wait for the other person to guess what you like about his mind. Maybe the relationship will never bear fruit.
Therefore, if you like a person, don't let the other party guess, and boldly say and express it. It's easier to let the other person know exactly what you're trying to say.
In short, in the relationship between two people, more often, we should have a good way of communicating. Instead of thinking wildly in your heart, it is better to express your thoughts directly.
In this way, many misunderstandings will be solved, just like the common routine in the TV series, two people who were originally in love, because they hid the problem in their hearts and refused to say it, and finally led to problems in the feelings of the two people. It wasn't until the last two people spoke out that the truth came out.
In fact, looking back, those problems that have occurred can be solved as long as they can communicate well. Unfortunately, we didn't do that at the time.
I feel that because of love, I don't say that you should also understand. But people don't know how to read minds after all. It is impossible to know 100% what the other person has in mind.
Therefore, in the relationship, if there is a problem and you want the other party to know, you may wish to say it. This will make it possible to solve the problem better.
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