A person who doesn't care about you really understands it.
It's just that many times, girls in love always like to treat themselves as exceptions.
When the other party does not reply to your message, you will find countless excuses for the other party in your heart;
When the other party says that they are busy, they will obediently stop bothering;
When the other party disappears while chatting, he will also smile and comfort himself, he must be really busy.
But some feelings, you take the initiative more times, you will find;
He's not really busy, he just doesn't want to pay attention to you.
Everyone is an adult, and some of them really don't have to be too blunt.
Not replying is actually a disguised rejection.
Here are 3 ways a person doesn't want to pay attention to you.
Often don't reply to your messages for a long time
Someone said:
"It's impolite to knock on a door that doesn't open, and not replying is a kind of reply in itself."
Indeed, for a person who does not go over the road, the green light is useless no matter how long.
A man who does not have you in his heart, no matter how active you are, will not get a warm response from him.
As this saying goes:
"People only pay special attention to what they care about."
If you are for a person, it is just an insignificant part of life.
Well, your frequent messages are a distraction and a burden for them in themselves.
And he often does not reply to your message for a long time, which is actually the answer he gives you.
The purpose is to make you retreat from difficulties.
Sure, he may reply to you out of courtesy, but he will never reciprocate with you.
At this time, you don't have to make excuses for him in your heart.
He really doesn't love you, so he will reply to your messages every long time.
Because people who really care about you and have you in their hearts will respond positively to your every message.
Ta will make you feel a strong sense of love and security.
Always look for various reasons to stop chatting with you
I have seen such a question on Zhihu:
"People who are always looking for various reasons to stop chatting with you, is it necessary to talk?"
There is a particularly heartfelt answer at the bottom:
"In this era of eating and sleeping well, if a person always finds various reasons to stop chatting with you,
It only means that you are not so important in his heart. ”
Yeah, no one is so busy twenty-four hours a day that they don't even have time to reply to messages.
Even if you are really busy, you always have to eat and go to the toilet.
In such a gap, replying to a message does not take much time.
There is a plot in the movie "Green Book" that impressed me deeply:
The protagonist Tony looks five big and three thick, no culture,
But on the way to the tour, he has been squeezing the time to write letters to his wife.
Sometimes late at night, sometimes in between meals.
You see, when a person likes you, he must have a lot to say to you.
So, no matter how busy you are, you will not rush to terminate the chat with you,
Instead, they will find ways to talk to you all the time.
Always busy with you
Zhang Ailing wrote in "Red Roses and White Roses":
"If a person is not available, it is because he does not want to be free;
If a person can't walk away, it's because he doesn't want to go away;
A man who makes too many excuses for you is because he doesn't want to care about you at all. ”
People who are always busy are just not available for you.
The person who really has you in his heart will always be more active than you.
No matter how busy he is, he can always think of you, for fear of missing your news.
On important days, he will also accompany you and will not let you suffer from gain and loss.
He will gradually respond to you, and everything will be in his heart.
He knows your uneasiness and will give you the security you need.
Time is a precious thing, and people will always leave it to the people they cherish the most.
And he's no exception, never skimping on his time with you.
Will try to do it, never busy for you, always have time.
Many people are not cherished in an unhappy relationship.
I worked hard but got a very bad ending, torturing myself over and over again, and letting myself sink into the mire.
If that person is not worthy of your love, you should stop giving and humbly please the other person.
What you have to do is get out of this bad relationship and wait for someone who is willing to work on it with you.