Respect is the most authentic presentation of a person's heart.
How to respect others, how to respect oneself, how to respect one's lover, if a person can do enough respect, then he is a kind person.
If even the most basic respect cannot be given to others, then no matter how well he hides, it will reveal the evil side of his nature.
What exactly are we talking about when we talk about love?
The current marriage market, the "blind date corner" in many places, is basically like this model:
Show the conditions of boys and girls in every detail, show their best chips, and then go to the price and sell.
Meet the right, do not rush to determine the relationship, but also "shop around", and finally determine the next one.
When the absurdity exists in love, that love will only float on the surface, become a carrier of interests, and there is no human touch to speak of.
When choosing a mate, don't just stare at whether the other party has money, whether there is education, and whether there is a stunning appearance.
The most important thing is to see if he can achieve enough "respect".
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What is respect?
I thought of a line from the movie "No Questions Asked":
"What we lack is a kind of justice, sincerity, fearlessness and compassion from the heart."
From the perspective of "idealism":
Respect for others is the reverence for life, the thoroughness of human nature, and the acceptance of all things.
"There is no other way outside of my heart," Wang Yangming said.
How is this sentence understood?
Only by understanding our own hearts, strengthening our own ideas, and having our own values can we maintain our reverence for life and maintain our love for life.
What others do has nothing to do with you, you have to have a heart of acceptance;
The goodness of others is what you need to learn; the evil of others is what you need to be wary of.
Not doing it in the small of evil, not doing it in the small of good, this is also a kind of respect.
Do not do to others what you do not want, this is a kind of respect.
Respect for the weak, respect for their timidity, imperfection;
Respect for the strong, respect for their bravery and achievements;
Respect for the lover, respect for each other's efforts in the relationship.
No matter who you get along with, you should maintain the most basic respect, because this is not only a person's upbringing, but also a person's heartfelt kindness.
If a person is not kind enough, then he does not know how to respect others at all.
What kind of partner doesn't respect you in the process of male-female interaction?
It's roughly:
Disrespecting your ideas, always imposing his ideas on you; forcing you to do things you don't like, always disrespecting you and dictating to you.
Respect is not only spiritual, but also includes the aspect of life.
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A person who is good to you is not an advantage
For example:
Girls will always be soft-hearted because boys are good to her, and they are easily moved by boys' efforts.
The boy bought her a supper in the middle of the night, picked her up and dropped her off at work in every cold and rainy weather, tolerated her bad temper, and was willing to spoil her.
In fact, this can only say that this boy is willing to pay for this matter in order to pursue you.
It doesn't say how deeply he loves you.
in other words:
When he no longer likes you and turns around and likes another person, he will be so good to others as well.
So don't always stare at each other:
Whether you have money, whether you have high education, whether you look good, whether you are good to you; these are only auxiliary conditions.
The most important measures are:
Look at whether his nature is good and whether he respects others.
So, how to judge?
It depends on his attitude towards the weak.
What is the weak?
People who are inferior to him in terms of income, social status, cultural level, etc. can be called weak.
The attitude towards those who are inferior to oneself reflects the truest character of a person.
Some time ago, I saw a story on the Internet, which is more old-fashioned, but it is very suitable.
The company's leader interviewed a returnee student, and the student's resume was very rich and excellent in all aspects.
But in the end, the leader still did not hire him.
Here's why:
The boy was arrogant and arrogant, went to the company for an interview, and had a particularly poor attitude towards the reception staff and cleaning, which was just seen by the leader who interviewed him.
The end result is that a person with a lower education and less ability than him has taken on the post.
In fact, this clearly illustrates the problem:
It doesn't matter how well a person is, what matters is his attitude towards others.
When looking for objects, we should not always focus on "objective conditions".
The most important thing is whether you can find someone who shares your values and respects each other.
You will find that it is a very fortunate thing to be with respectful, polite and cultured people.
Today's Topic:
Do you think it's important to respect the quality of others?
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