"It was my father who used his two fingers to change my life in art school for four years."
Every time he talked about his father, Liu Hegang would show his vulnerable side and burst into tears.
It was the father who, in order to fulfill his dream of singing, got up early and went to work greedily, accidentally injured his finger, and his 3,000 yuan itself could be picked up, but for his own tuition, his father was fiercely based on his fingers.
In 2003, Liu Hegang's "Father" was not only dedicated to fathers all over the world, but also to his father.
After becoming famous, Liu Hegang never forgot his origins, and the first thing he did was to take care of his parents in the countryside.
Knowing that their parents loved farm work and were not accustomed to leisure time, they rented a field for them in the suburbs of Beijing for their parents to cultivate.
After marrying his wife, Liu Hegang knew that his wife could not rest assured that his father-in-law and mother-in-law were alone at home, so he took the initiative to propose that the second elder be taken to his side to take care of him.
A couple, both parents, four elderly people, one child.
A family of seven, living under the same roof, everything made him miserable.
So is Liu Hegang's "421 family" constantly contradictory or happy and harmonious?
How did he resolve the contradiction so that the four elderly people could enjoy their old age in peace?
In 1997, with his excellent voice and innate talent for singing, the 20-year-old Liu Hegang was admitted to the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts.
After that, Liu Hegang was like a galloping horse, singing all the way and ushering in the highlight moment of his life.
While his career was developing steadily, Liu Hegang never forgot his original intention, and without hesitation, he took his parents to Beijing, thinking that his parents, who had worked hard for half a lifetime, could enjoy the happiness.
But I didn't expect that after a period of time in Beijing, my mother's health was getting worse and worse.
Not only suffering from high blood lipids, high blood pressure, even the quality of sleep is declining, which makes Liu Hegang very distressed.
It wasn't until he took his mother to the hospital that the doctor's words completely made Liu Hegang suddenly realize:
"Your mother is used to farming life, all of a sudden let her idle, at first it is difficult to adapt, even if you exercise every day, there will still be symptoms of reduced sleep and physical discomfort." 」
This can make Liu Hegang fall into a tangle, if his mother has been living with himself in Beijing, his health will only get worse and worse every day, but if he sends his mother back to his hometown, he will definitely not be at ease, how is this good.
During those days, Liu Hegang thought about it every day, and in order to solve this problem, he was not less worried.
As the saying goes: there are always more ways than difficulties, and with this concept, Liu Hegang rented a piece of land directly to his parents on the outskirts of Beijing.
In this way, the second elder can not only do the farm work he loves, but also get better, and most importantly, he can stay by his side.
After renting the land, as long as Liu Hegang did not have a job, he would work in the fields with his parents and plant crops in his spare time.
Unexpectedly, after working in the field for a few months, my mother not only slept better, but also lowered her high blood pressure and high blood lipids.
This made Liu Hegang's inner stone fall to the ground, but another problem appeared in front of him.
When I was young, I only cared about fighting for my career, and after my career improved, I had the ability to support my parents, but the emotional world was always a blank piece of paper, which could make Liu Hegang's parents break their hearts.
It wasn't until October 9, 2009, that Liu Hegang met a girl named Zhan Yang in Beijing 11 that ripples rippled in his heart.
Just saw the first glance of Zhan Yang, Liu Hegang was deeply attracted by her, Zhan Yang not only has exquisite facial features, white skin, even the figure is tall and outstanding, concave and convex.
Because it was love at first sight, Liu Hegang, who had no emotional experience, launched a fierce offensive against Zhan Yang.
They are both from Heilongjiang and have also taken classes with the same vocal teacher, which makes the two of them very close to each other in conversation.
For Liu Hegang, Zhan Yang is no stranger, he is the pride that the teacher often hangs on his lips, is he a singer who has been on the Spring Festival Gala four times in a row, or an idol that his mother likes and worships a little...
Zhan Yang, who was a full 10 years younger than Liu Hegang, also seemed to see his thoughts, but she did not dare to respond positively, but chose to escape.
For Zhan Yang: he is not deeply involved in the world, even if he takes a wrong step, he may fall into the abyss, not to mention such a big thing as marriage.
However, just when Zhan Yang was thinking about it for a long time, Liu Hegang confessed to her, which made Zhan Yang suddenly panic and whisper:
"It's so sudden, I haven't thought about it yet, do you have to let me think clearly?"
Zhan Yang's answer made Liu Hegang understand very well, so he did not say anything, but he did not give up, and still pursued Zhan Yang relentlessly.
Slowly, Liu Hegang's sincerity and love were finally felt by Zhan Yang, and the two naturally talked about love.
In order to reassure the future mother-in-law to hand over her daughter to him, when she first visited Zhan Yang's mother,
Liu Hegang told his mother-in-law all his inner feelings without reservation, and the two of them chatted for nearly 12 hours.
His honesty and steadfastness also made the future father-in-law and mother-in-law affirmed, and he was completely conquered by Liu Hegang.
So, after knowing each other for 103 days, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang received a marriage license, but because of their work, the two did not hold a wedding, but the parents of both sides had a meal together.
What is not known is that when Zhan Yang and Liu Hegang discussed the residence of their parents before marriage, they made a request that was out of common sense, but it was difficult to open:
"My parents are such a daughter as me, they have suffered a lot for me since I was a child, I can take care of them now when I grow up, but I am married, they are in my hometown I really don't feel at ease, if we get married, can I bring my parents to live with us?" 」
Hearing his girlfriend's words, Liu Hegang understood her feelings very well, in fact, he thought of these even if his wife did not open her mouth, he would take the initiative to propose:
"Of course, no problem, I have also considered this problem before, and then your parents are also my parents, it is best to take care of them, when our family of six lives together, happy and harmonious, happy and harmonious is my most yearning life." 」
Liu Hegang's answer made Zhan Yang more determined that he did not look at the wrong person, and secretly vowed in his heart that he would be a good wife and mother in the future, and he would be at ease with his husband and son at home.
At the end of the first month of 2010, Liu Hegang discussed his and his wife's ideas with his parents, and his parents also had no opinion and agreed very much.
Therefore, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang immediately got up and returned to the home of their father-in-law and mother-in-law together, ready to take them to live with themselves.
But before Liu he and the newlyweds could finish speaking, their father-in-law and mother-in-law knew their intentions and declined:
"He Gang, I know your and Yang Yang's kindness, we have lived here for most of our lives, suddenly let us change a strange situation, in fact, we have some resistance in our hearts, besides, your family does not still have a father-in-law and a mother-in-law, we live in it again, then it is not a mess, although we are not a good person, but living together for a long time will definitely produce contradictions, you just need to come back to see us often." 」
After the Second Elder finished speaking, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang looked at each other, and then he said his views from the bottom of his heart:
"Mom and Dad, I can understand that you have these concerns, although we can promise you to go home often, but there are many practical problems, our work is busy, we can't come back a few times a year, and you zhan yang such a child, I also married him, zhan yang want to do filial piety can not be satisfied, this kind of separation of family affection is a kind of pain for us, besides, I believe that the four parents are very simple and reasonable people, even if they live together, there will be no contradictions, Zhan Yang and I will also take care of the emotions of each of you at all times, rest assured. ”
But even if Liu Hegang explained the reasoning more clearly, his father-in-law and mother-in-law still insisted on their own ideas and did not waver in the slightest.
In this way, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang came with great interest and went home with a lost face.
After returning home, Liu Hegang's mother, Yi Yanqin, looked at her son's ghostly appearance and carefully asked:
"Son, why didn't you take your father-in-law and mother home?"
After learning the reason for this, Yi Yanqin dialed the phone of Zhan Yang's mother Anya Hui:
"Mother, we are all parents, I also understand your concerns, but their little couple's usual work is very busy, you can also share some for them when you come, and then you can't adapt to moving back, and this is all a piece of filial piety to us by children, and when you come, our two old sisters can dance square dancing, nagging, shopping, and the two old men can sneak around, play chess, raise birds, so that no one is alone, you should come to me as a companion." 」
Yi Yanqin's words really touched Anya Hui, and she also began to yearn for the life of the future 6 people, so she agreed.
In this way, Liu Hegang took Zhan Yang's parents to his home.
In September 2012, the crystals of Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang's love were born, named: Liu Muxuan.
Liu Muxuan's birth has brought a lot of joy and laughter to this family of six, and the family is very happy and harmonious.
The four elderly people also understand that although they can't help their children at work, they are first-class experts in taking care of their families and taking care of their children.
Therefore, whenever Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang were busy with work, the four elderly people would take the initiative to take the responsibility of taking care of the children.
Every day after breakfast, Liu Hegang's father and father-in-law went out for a walk, and they ran to the farmer's market to buy all the vegetables back.
The mother and mother-in-law took care of the housework at home, took care of the grandchildren, and took good care of the family and the family.
Every day, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang returned home to greet them not with an empty house, but with fragrant meals and the innocent smiling faces of the four old people.
When the weather is good, my mother and mother-in-law will go shopping in the mall, and my father and father-in-law will play chess at home.
On weekends, a family of seven will also meet to visit the park, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang walk hand in hand in front, and four elderly people are pushing strollers behind them, carrying bottles, and carrying diapers on their backs...
The setting sun shone on their backs, frozen into a beautiful picture of family affection.
But slowly, all the contradictions are slowly accumulating, quietly walking to this harmonious home.
Liu Hegang's parents only had primary school education, and before coming to Beijing, they only worked in various places in their hometown, while Zhan Yang's parents were intellectuals, and before he retired, his mother-in-law was an accountant in a shipyard, and his father-in-law was an organ cadre.
The four old people's life concepts, ways, habits and consumption concepts are different from the beginning, and slowly they will always have different views.
Liu Hegang's parents live very frugally, and the meals they eat are always reluctant to throw away, waiting for the next time they cook, they will mix the leftovers into it.
But for Liu Hegang's father-in-law and mother-in-law, this is not exquisite or unhygienic, but they also did not say it directly.
Until one day in November 2013, Yi Yanqin was breastfeeding her grandson, and somehow her grandson suddenly coughed.
Originally, the usual trivial matters, the mother-in-law can not care about it, but this is his precious grandson, as soon as he sees it, he blurts out straight and fast:
"How can you feed like that, how can you not do anything, come and come, let me come."
After saying that, he snatched his grandson to his side, which made Yi Yanqin feel very uncomfortable, so he replied with two sentences.
Since then, the atmosphere in the home has become very stressful, and there has been little communication between the mother and the mother-in-law.
The relationship between the parents of the two sides is not harmonious, and the direct impact is Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang, and gradually Let Liu Hegang have a bitter word.
Not only is I upset every day, but even at night, I have insomnia, and my work and life have been affected.
However, after learning the reason for the incident, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang United Front decided to be the lubricant between the two mothers and resolve their contradictions.
In this way, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang first went to persuade the two fathers, and with them as helpers, everything was like a fish.
During that time, they took the initiative to create opportunities for the two mothers to be alone from time to time, and when they ate together, they would also let the two sit together, and also take their mother and mother-in-law to travel alone...
When the time was ripe, Liu Hegang wasted no time in doing his mother's homework, while Zhan Yang went to do his mother-in-law's work.
Finally, under the repeated attacks of Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang, both mothers finally regretted it.
On the evening of December 16, Yi Yanqin thought deeply about what her son said, thought for a moment, and then went directly to the bedroom of her mother, knocked on the door and walked in.
The mother-in-law saw that it was the family coming, and also showed a long-lost smile, beckoning Yi Yanqin to sit down, and after a long silence, the mother-in-law opened her mouth first:
"Old sister, some time ago my attitude was not good, you must not go to the heart, I also realize my mistake, things have developed like this, it is definitely not what you and I want, we came to take good care of the children, and now let them worry about us, saying that the bottom line is all my fault, you have to forgive me." 」
The mother-in-law's heartfelt words made Yi Yanqin very moved, and she also understood that it was all for the good of the child, so she said:
"We are all at fault, this time is actually I also uncomfortable, in the future I can point out what I did wrong, it's okay, we treat each other, understand each other, we have a conflict can make our whole family restless, from now on, we can't quarrel, we have to get along well." 」
As they spoke, the two mothers unconsciously got closer and closer, holding each other's hands tightly, and the contradictions were completely touched at this moment.
After experiencing this contradiction, the relationship between the four old people has become more and more harmonious and harmonious.
Of course, this is indispensable to the credit of Liu Hegang and his wife Zhan Yang, and the "getting along" of their parents is indeed worth learning.
This storm also made Liu Hegang more attentive to the relationship between the parents on both sides, not only telling them about each other's preferences and living habits, but also deliberately enlarging the advantages of the parents-in-law in front of their parents, and every bit is good.
In front of their parents-in-law, Liu and Gang also told the past of their parents' experiences, so that they knew each other better.
In their spare time, Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang will also take the four elderly people out to travel together and witness the great rivers and mountains of the motherland.
Although the Liu and Gang families are typical of the "421" family, there were also contradictions, but under the careful management of Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang, any contradictions will be resolved, and the "421 family" will be very happy and harmonious.
The harmony of the family makes Liu Hegang's career better and better, and living between 7 people under the same roof can also be very happy.
So, what do you think of Liu Hegang's filial piety?