Recently, in the Hangzhou Traffic Radio's open bar APP, a post by Mr. Li (pseudonym) triggered a message discussion among countless bar friends.
Mr. Li mentioned in the post: "I am 36 years old this year, my family has been urging marriage, or the old reason, what a family to start a business ... But it really bothers this set.
Mr. Lee
My dad wanted to hold his grandson and always urged me, but I personally didn't want to. In the past, it was a state of compromise, thinking that his old man was also old, and tried to talk about it, but in the end it still didn't work.
Feel that marriage is not good, and there is no future in sight.
My annual salary in Hangzhou is below average, with a car and a house, but I can spend enough alone. Again, I am a medicine jar, there is no big problem, but the body is not very good, my personal idea is that it is good to live to 60.
I think I am still relatively comfortable alone, if one day I really get married, it will be sooner or later.
What is the reason why Mr. Lee is so reluctant to marry? During the chat with the Reporter of Hang Bangxia, Mr. Li confided his true thoughts in his heart.
Reporter: Do you think your parents' marriage is...
Mr. Lee: Very failed. (I) was sandwiched in the middle for so many years, it was dad who said mom was bad, mom said dad wasn't good, dad was stubborn, and mom was particularly sensitive.
Reporter: They have you, it is a very successful thing!
Mr. Lee: I'd rather not have me! My sexuality is still normal, in high school, I had a very fond person, but later it still didn't work, the reason for the separation, well, I considered that I might hurt her later. Alone, at least I will not hurt others.
Mr. Lee said here,
Many bartenders said: Understandable
Some bartenders also said:
Still think more about your parents' feelings!
Dr. Song Haidong, Director of Hangzhou Psychological Crisis Research and Intervention Center
There is a process to the development of a person's psychology. In the case of the man 36 years old, the personality is already a relatively fixed state, obviously the original family may have a certain impact on his ideas, but there is such a thought (not married), I think it is also a relatively normal phenomenon.
In society, there are unmarried people and there are also married and infertile Dinks, and this phenomenon may become more common in the future. Some people even predict that from a psychological or sociological point of view, marriage may even die, and the union of men and women is more about the pursuit of a harmonious and consistent state of feelings. I think that the elderly should choose to learn to accept such phenomena.
Source: Hangzhou Jiaotong 91.8 original manuscript
Reporter: Wang Xin