The family is a very important environment for a child, and this environment will also have an impact on his life.
Parents are the child's first teacher, so in family education, a good family atmosphere can make children have a healthy and optimistic personality, and a bad family atmosphere may create a child with character defects, so the family atmosphere is a very important factor for the formation of children's personality, let's take a look at which family atmosphere will affect children.
Parents love to lose their temper
Parents are always arguing, or scolding their children or even punching and kicking each other when they disagree. First of all, children are in a stage of growth and development, and they cannot understand some social information like adults. Developmental psychology believes that children generally cannot understand abstract truths when they are young, and can only understand concrete images and concrete stories.
Therefore, if parents want to discipline their children, they should take into account their cognitive level at this age, rather than blindly accusing and reasoning. It's not that they don't listen to you, and they may indeed be incomprehensible. In this case, blind accusations will make them feel more incomprehensible, and feel that their parents do not love them anymore, and feel sad, inferior, and insecure.
This lack of security makes them lack the courage to explore the various environments and new things around them, and they are prone to form a cowardly personality, and it is difficult to establish a close and trusting relationship with their parents. The lack of such a good relationship will even generalize to the establishment of their future relationship with their partner, and they will feel difficult to trust and rely on each other.
Parents divorced
Once the parents divorce, the normal life of the family is destroyed. This blow is often heavier on young children than on adult parents. Coupled with the lack of care in life and the unmet emotional needs, the child's young spiritual world seems to collapse, often manifested as low mood, depression, low feelings, unsociable, and declining academic performance.
Parents who are absent from their child's education
Neither father nor mother should be absent from their children's education because they are too busy at work.
No matter how busy we are, we must take time to spend more time with our children, and children can learn gentleness, thoughtfulness, and family management in their mothers.
At the same time, there are some things that cannot be learned from mothers, and fathers can teach their children to be strong, persistent, and protective and considerate of mothers.
Children who grow up with their parents feel more secure and more confident.
Parents who are absent from their children's education are also unqualified, and parents must take more time to accompany their children in the process of children's childhood and growth.