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Some people say: When I was young, I thought it was a cool thing to be alone. When I grew up, I felt that being alone was a very bleak thing.
Some people say that if you can forget your longing, the years are long and the clothes are thin.
Some people say: Young couples have always been companions, perhaps, the most desolate, is that the person who loves most has left halfway.
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The years are long, perhaps, in the hearts of many people, the most desired thing is to have a person around who knows cold and knows heat, asks for warmth, can understand themselves, and can talk.
Or perhaps, the so-called confidant, most of them are people who can talk with themselves, eat together, and play together...
But most people, not so lucky, can talk to a person for a few words, you can have a lot of common topics with each other, and have the determination to resist the future wind and rain together.
However, in the process of testing each other again and again, in the mutual exploration of each other, we know each other more and more, and we become each other's "soul confidants" more and more.
In other words, the germination of love requires initiative.
Women are always too shy for the person they like, expecting the other party to take the initiative to go to themselves, but if you don't understand the man's mind and don't know what to talk to the other party, then it is difficult to give him a good impression.
The man's heart is as deep as the sea.
In fact, most of the time, a woman with high emotional intelligence who can talk can touch his heart more than a beautiful woman.
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Remember a quote:
God gives women beautiful looks, but does not give them tongues to match.
This means that some women, always aggressive, habitually duplicitous, let people think that her beautiful appearance and inner chatter, there is some mismatch.
Therefore, women, must live out their own elegance.
Wanting the man you like to love you needs you to say "right" things, say "caring" words, and say "understand him" words.
For women, perhaps the most favorite topics to talk about are gossip, parental shorts, poetry and ideals, cosmetics, clothes, etc., while for men, their chat topics will be completely different from women.
However, a good man, his thinking will generally focus on these three topics, and also long for the future women who can spend the rest of their lives with him, can have the same three views and common ideas with him.
Therefore, when a man tries to talk to you about the following topics, you may as well try to discuss with him, first, you can give yourself a chance to know him more; second, if you can talk, it will definitely enhance the feelings between you; third, if you have some suggestions and ideas about him, he will definitely look at you and put you in your heart.
Talk to you about his career and you have to learn to listen
For a man, the so-called "starting a family" is the two most important things in his life events.
The first is that he hopes to find a beautiful person to accompany him for the rest of his life; the second is that he can have a career to support his family, can achieve his own life, and can bring good life to his family.
So, when he is with you, the most he talks about is his career, his future.
Women and men chat, do not let go of themselves, of course, it does not mean that you have to be cautious, but do not always blacken yourself, or talk about some meat paragraphs, after all, your relationship has not yet reached the step of letting go of each other, and a little careless, it is likely not to adjust the atmosphere, but will make him feel that he can't talk too deeply with you.
Chatting, the emphasis is on being able to say the bottom of each other's hearts, but also to properly guide the other direction to confess your heart.
What you have to do is to talk to him appropriately about future ideas, if he takes the initiative to show you kindness, then you must seize this opportunity to envision the future together, if he talks to you about his work and his current problems, then you listen well, give him some comfort, or give him some small advice.
Actually, to put it bluntly, you have to be a good listener, because for a man, talking about his job, career, relationships, dreams, etc., he will be eager to show himself to a woman who has a good feeling, hoping to get her admiration and approval, get her encouragement and comfort, so, that's enough.
The more love arises, the more it comes to fruition, the more it goes with nature, the better.
If he says anything, you can't listen to it, what you say, he is absent-minded, you are only superficial coping, then even if you appreciate each other's appearance at the moment, the future road will be difficult to go on.
Talk to you about his preferences, and you have to try to be inclusive
Two people who love each other, chatting together, should be pleasant and enjoyable.
Therefore, we must know how to avoid the minefield of chat.
Especially in the case of a good atmosphere, don't say something sad, or expose the other party's short, question the other party, to destroy the atmosphere.
You know, the more happy you can chat, the more he can find fun with you, the more he will enjoy talking to you, the more he will fall in love with you, and then he wants to spend more time with you, more contact with you, he will chat with you, develop a habit of his own.
And the most happy topic for two people to talk about is to talk about his preferences.
Because, in the man's heart, if the person he finds also loves the same preferences as him, he will immediately feel that he has met a confidant, and then want to have a further relationship with you.
Perhaps, some girls will say that I don't have the same preferences as him, and I don't quite understand what he says?
However, since you have a good feeling for him, you should have a deep understanding of the other party, even if you know half of it, even if the other party's life area is far away from you, but you must at least be prepared to integrate into the other person's life.
The closer the three views are, the more harmonious you will get along.
If you like to eat a stall, he feels unclean and always stops you; or, he likes to climb mountains, and you like to stay at home and read, he always laughs at you for being lazy; or, you always travel, just talk to him, he will say "how nice to watch TV, it's not safe outside, it's a waste of money"... So many and a half, it is difficult for you to walk together.
If you have different preferences and can't tolerate each other, then save it first, love is a lifelong thing, not a while.
Talk to you about his past, and you don't have to ask questions
Many girls always like to ask about a man's love history.
For example, where to play, I will ask in passing: Have you ever brought your girlfriend before?
If you are still in the ambiguous stage at the moment, then most of the men will feel a little embarrassed by this kind of chat, and it will also destroy the atmosphere of your time together.
He has not yet given you the identity of a girlfriend, you first substitute yourself, it will be difficult for him to let you rest assured.
At the same time, do not ask about his family situation, if he does not take the initiative to talk about it, then you should wait and wait for a suitable opportunity.
Women want a man to have a good feeling for you, want him to be interested in you, you have to show it, should have a sense of mystery, waiting for him to confess to you.
If you act too seriously, he will feel that you are already interested in him, and he will instantly lose his enthusiasm for being with you.
So, wait patiently, if he is interested in you, he will definitely talk to you about his past, his family situation, his love history, if he talks to you about this, you must also see the stitches to understand, know what he really is, and match you to whether you are suitable.
Love a person, you must be slower, and then love, remember not to suddenly, just throw yourself into emotions, otherwise regret is yourself.
-03-
Cai Kangyong once said: If you say well, the biggest gain is ourselves. The more you can talk, the happier others will be, and the happier others will like you.
So, the same is true for loving someone, the more you can talk about his heart, the more he will put you at ease.
The so-called "seductive", must be stirred, in order to succeed.
If he wants to talk to you and you can understand what he is saying, then the communication between you has already had color; if you can laugh freely and do not have to be forced to cater to each other, then there is already a soul knowledge between you.
At the same time, you must also know that the person who loves you will not tire of wanting to chat with you, and the person who does not love you, only you yourself continue to take the initiative to get close to him, so if you pay a lot, the other party is still lukewarm to you, and even show impatience, then you don't have to say anything more to the pole and the other party.
At this time, the more you talk, the more annoyed he will be.
Life is a long road, everyone is running and working hard for life, it is not easy to meet a person who understands each other, and it is difficult to have a person who can talk.
So, if you can all read each other's hearts and see each other's interesting souls, then you must cherish them.
Finally, may every woman be able to meet the good person who "accompanies you at dusk in her spare time, and smiles in front of the stove and asks if the porridge is warm".
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!