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There is an emotional topic on the Internet: Is there a moment in marriage that makes you feel like you have lost your eyes?
Even if two people are together at the beginning, you and I, two people are intimate, after entering the marriage, the feelings of two people will change. As Qian Zhongshu said in "The Siege": "Marriage is a besieged city, people in the city want to go out, people outside the city want to come in." "Once you enter the marriage, the trivialities in the marriage will become a sharp weapon to destroy the freshness of love, and the troubles caused by marriage will quickly cool down the feelings between two people, and also make the feelings of two people face a test."
Among the many emotional topics, extramarital affairs are the most conspicuous, and when it comes to the causes of extramarital affairs, the most common example of abandonment in daily life is a woman being a full-time mother. Obviously full-time housewives are the hardest profession in the world, 365 days a year, all year round, no salary, hard work and complaints, but there are still men who do not understand the good of women, just do nothing at home to do a hand-throwing treasurer, but also in their wives for the family when cheating, the practice is really chilling.
Xin Hui took her two-year-old daughter back to her mother's house, originally afraid of her parents' worries, she wanted to turn a blind eye and just pass it, but Wei Ming's attitude was too chilling for her, obviously Wei Ming had extramarital affairs first, but he did not sincerely repent, and even said to Jian Hui: "Which man has not made such a mistake, I just made the mistake that other men will make, no big deal, and we are divorced, what good do you have, are you willing to let your children become single-parent families?" ”
Ji Hui could not stand Wei Ming's threat, so he returned to his mother's house with his two-year-old daughter, and when the two people fell in love, their parents did not approve of the feelings between the two people, but at that time, Ji Hui was overwhelmed by love and had to marry. Because of this, when the two people got married, The criminal Hui family also suffered a big loss, but the criminal Hui never felt that she had done anything wrong, until now she regretted it, regretting that she had looked away, and regretted that it was better to talk about it directly because of the bride price.
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Xin Hui and Wei Ming met working outside, but the two of them were not far apart, and because of this, after Ji Hui fell in love, her parents went to ask someone about Wei Ming's family and inquired about the character of Wei Ming's parents. At that time, Xin Hui's mother told Ji Hui that the reputation of the Wei Ming family in their village was not too good, especially Wei Ming's mother, who was notoriously strong and spoiled Wei Ming, the son of three generations of single transmission.
But Jian Hui couldn't listen, she had also been to Wei Ming's house several times, and although the mother-in-law seemed to be relatively strong, she was also very enthusiastic about her, and the mother-in-law assured her: "I only have one son, how can I not be good to my daughter-in-law?" Although you can rest assured, you have married into our family, and you will certainly not suffer losses. ”
The mother-in-law's words were like this, but when it came time to talk about marriage, they encountered differences, originally the bride price proposed by The parents of The Criminal Hui at that time was 60,000, and in their place, 60,000 was the most ordinary. Moreover, The family lineage of The Criminal Hui is not good, they think that when the dowry is added to 40,000, 100,000 is just for the daughter to bring back, when the decoration, the Criminal Hui family will accompany them with some furniture, which is also very good.
But the mother-in-law said that her family did not have so much money, and she was still crying in front of The Punishment Hui, and finally the Criminal Hui family took a dowry of 40,000 yuan and accompanied the furniture, but the Wei Ming family only gave a dowry of 30,000 yuan.
According to the meaning of The Parents of The Criminal Hui, even the bride price was withheld, so they did not want the Criminal Hui to marry, but the Criminal Hui was willing, and the parents had no choice but to agree. Fortunately, after marriage, at the beginning, The life of The Criminal Hui in the mother-in-law's house was still very good, especially when the Criminal Hui was pregnant, the mother-in-law took care of her meticulously, and also ran from her hometown to the city to send her a variety of specialties to supplement the body, just the old hen, during her pregnancy, the mother-in-law came to send one or two every month.
The mother-in-law was very touched by these actions, and also made The criminal Hui feel that she was really the right person to choose, however, after the birth of the child, The criminal Hui was dumbfounded, and when she was pushed out of the operating room, as soon as she saw that it was a daughter, the mother-in-law sat in the corridor of the hospital, crying, and hurting the old hens that had been eaten. In the end, the mother-in-law returned to her hometown sadly, and even Yuezi was unwilling to serve her, or The mother of The Torturer Hui ran to the city and helped the torturer Hui serve for two months, helping her with the child.
At that time, the daughter was not yet one year old, the mother-in-law urged The criminal Hui to give birth to a second child, the criminal Hui looked at the mother-in-law's attitude and was unwilling to give birth, the relationship between the two people was very stiff, the mother-in-law rarely came to the city, and the criminal Hui could only become a full-time housewife. Their family's family situation is average, can not afford to hire a nanny, so after becoming a full-time housewife, Ji Hui has also become thrifty, has not bought new clothes for herself for a year, although she is at home every day, she can watch her children do housework, and nothing has fallen.
However, even so, Wei Ming actually had a woman outside, that woman was from a small mountain village, the two people were chatting on the Internet and met each other, that day Ji Hui took the child to the shopping mall near Wei Ming to buy things, just saw Wei Ming and the woman shopping together and watched a movie, when The criminal Hui held the child, did not have a seizure, took a photo back home. When Wei Ming returned in the evening, when Ji Hui questioned Wei Ming, Wei Ming had a look of disdain on his face, he said, "We are just ordinary friends, and you haven't seen what we do, have you?" ”
Ji Hui enlarged the photo, Wei Ming's hand on the woman's waist is not at ease, a look at the relationship is not ordinary, Wei Ming only admitted, he admitted that he was still reasonable, did not feel that he did wrong, Ji Hui could not argue with him, so he returned to his mother's house. What made Ji Hui even more speechless was that a few days after she went home, her mother-in-law came to visit, and the mother-in-law actually came to her and said, "My son is also incompetent to find a woman outside, he let you go back, you go back, if you don't go back, you will never go back." ”
The tone of the order irritated Ji Hui, who was also planning to divorce Wei Ming.
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Emotional writer Lu Qi said: "When you marry, you are not married to a certain person, but to marry all the social relations of this person." So what kind of family you marry, what kind of marriage will you have. ”
Because of this, many women's mother's family will keep an extra eye, before marriage will have a lot of considerations for their daughter's marriage, and judge the character of the son-in-law and the daughter's in-laws one by one; that parents, as people who have come over, will naturally pay more attention to the marriage of their children.
Marriage is a big thing, for the opinions put forward by our parents, we can not completely listen, can not not listen, since it is an opinion, we should pay attention to it, can not be obstinate, blinded by love.
That when their marriage suffered betrayal, how to choose is another problem, for some women, full-time for two years, but encountered the betrayal of their lover, the pain may only be known to themselves, plus women are soft-hearted, may not be willing to divorce for the sake of children, that heartache must be a lifetime.
The former Soviet educator Bella Leonidova once said: The basis of marriage is love, attachment, and respect.
So I hope that women can understand that for lovers who know that mistakes can be changed, they may be able to forgive, and you can still have a happy home in the future, but on the contrary, if the other party does not repent, and even intensifies, even the other party's family does not respect you, then you can not be merciful. Instead of waiting for others to give you happiness in such a family, it is better to stay away as soon as possible and stop the loss in time.
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