Although each family has its own unique rules in the family, it is not possible to set some strange and unreasonable requirements after the new daughter-in-law enters the door, which is not purely to let the daughter-in-law have a bad feeling in this family.
As a mother-in-law, don't pretend to be a posture at home. Don't think that your daughter-in-law must admit her unique position in the family and say something strange. In particular, some particularly unreasonable rules are specially set so that the daughter-in-law can not be truly integrated into the family.
Family communication is actually very important, and any contradictions can be resolved by the family sitting down and communicating calmly. Husband and wife must also know how to support each other, and know how to pay for each other in the family. Also know the efforts that the other person has made in the family.
There are indeed some many difficulties in life, but you can't bring some bad tempers to your home from the outside because of these pressures.
After Wang Li got married, she met a very unreasonable mother-in-law. But because Wang Li's own personality is relatively strong, she does not have any tricks in her eyes, and she pays attention to her mother-in-law's tricks. After getting married, he fought with his mother-in-law at home, and finally won his own good life.
01. The mother-in-law is not willing to buy a new house for the child, so the routine is for the daughter-in-law to buy at home
When Zhao Heng and Wang Li were in love, Wang Li followed Zhao Heng back to his home. I met Zhao Heng's mother at home, and when we first met, the two had a very unpleasant quarrel. The two people can't look at each other, but Wang Li herself can also see it, after all, she will live with Zhao Heng in the future, and the time to meet her mother-in-law is not long.
Later, the two people have decided to get married. At home, the two pondered how this new house should be purchased. After all, Zhao Heng's family situation can only be regarded as average, if you want Zhao Heng's family to take money to buy this house, there is definitely no way to do it at 1:30.
The mother-in-law also knew about this matter, and she was also going back and forth in her heart. Later, a direct phone call came over, saying that her family really did not save any money over the years, and she was also a flat-headed ordinary person, let alone buy a house, so that she could not take out thirty or fifty thousand yuan now.
The mother-in-law said tears at that end, and Wang Li also felt that this matter could not be too difficult for the Zhao Heng family.
Wang Li said that the money had to be paid by their family. Zhao Heng also said that he really did not have the ability. But I will definitely work hard in the future so that Wang Li can live a good life. The last house was Wang Li's family, the dowry house bought for Wang Li.
02. The mother-in-law has to live in the accompanying family room, but also has to make unreasonable demands
The mother-in-law looked at Wang Li and seemed to have compromised herself. So after the two got married, the mother-in-law called and immediately asked to live in the family room.
"I haven't had a good life all these years, and now my son is married." I should always enjoy the blessings of living in a new big house, and you, as a daughter-in-law, can't drive me out, right? And we still have a lot of rules in our house, and I'm going to talk to you about it. When you come to our house, you can't be like before, like in your own home. ”
Before Wang Li could say anything, the mother-in-law on the other end of the phone continued to speak.
"And we have all kinds of rules in our house, those little rules, let's put them aside." Let's say that the most important rule of our family is that the daughter-in-law cannot sleep in the master bedroom of the marriage room. I'm definitely going to live in the master bedroom, no matter what, I'm also the elder of the family, not, you make room for me as soon as possible, just call me. ”
Wang Li saw that her mother-in-law just wanted to find a sense of existence here. When his family agreed to buy a house, he looked at his mother-in-law as if he had succeeded in his treacherous plan. I don't want to worry about this with my mother-in-law, after all, I married for him to live a life. But I didn't expect that one of my tolerances actually made my mother-in-law have a tendency to become more intense.
03. The daughter-in-law strongly refused, and did not show mercy to the shameless mother-in-law at all
After listening to these requests from my mother-in-law, I did not regard myself at all as an elder who deserved to be respected. Instead, he was holding his own attitude as an elder, trying to suppress Wang Li here.
Wang Li directly refused.
"I think that this house was also bought by our family, don't forget that your family didn't pay a penny." Now the name on this property deed is only me, so now you think about whose home is this? Want to set the rules, trouble back to your home, this is my home. ”
After the mother-in-law said this on the other end of the phone, she jumped directly in anger. Opening her mouth is an insult to Wang Li, some say that Wang Li is a steak inside and outside, and say that Wang Li is a snobbish eye. It is not that he does not look at the poverty of his family, and he also says that he wants his son to be angry with himself.
Wang Li was not at all afraid of her mother-in-law's tricks. The relationship between himself and Zhao Heng can be said to be quite stable. Before they got married, the two had already planned their future steps. The two people are now also working towards the goal they have set together, and Zhao Heng is not such a person who does not know how to defend himself.
Sure enough, when the mother-in-law called her son to cry, Zhao Heng directly said that this was the mother-in-law's problem. Speaking out to defend Wang Li, he even told her mother directly to let her not disturb the lives of the two people. After all, young people still have their own usual work pressure, don't put more trouble on Wang Li here.
04. Husband and wife work together to win a good future
The mother-in-law was reprimanded by her own son last time. It is true that he has been at home for a long time, after all, the words spoken by his son are indeed reasonable. Although the mother-in-law still has a lot of dislike for her daughter-in-law, the son has put his words on the surface, and he does not dare to make any big moves recently.
After the mother-in-law stopped for a few days, she felt that her son was not too restrained. The mind rises again. I felt that I would definitely give my daughter-in-law a dismount this time, and my son was now taught by this daughter-in-law to dare to confront himself. If you don't say anything more, will you still have your place in the family in the future?
So the mother-in-law was at the door of Wang Li's company, and every afternoon she caught people saying that her daughter-in-law was not good, that was not good. At the door of the company, he began to discredit Wang Li. Wang Li simply felt that her mother-in-law's behavior was very stupid, and what good would her bad reputation do to her mother-in-law?
Zhao Heng also knew about this matter, and when he returned home, he first comforted Wang Li. Then later, he rushed directly to his own home to make love to his mother, and he knew it. It is indeed not easy to say that it is not easy to be young, and ask my mother not to disturb her life anymore.
After this matter was over, the mother-in-law really did not look for anything more. The lives of the two young people are finally on the right track, and with the continuous efforts of the two people, they have a good future in their work. Life has slowly improved, and the lives of the two young people have become more harmonious and beautiful.
Are there so many things in life that can't be done? In fact, sometimes the problem needs you to look back and look at it, you can think about it from another angle, whether you are doing it right or wrong. After all, the reputation of the family is very important, do not do something bad for a while.
There is no such thing as regret medicine in this world, and some mothers-in-law are just fighting for a breath at home. Saying bad things about her daughter-in-law everywhere outside, especially in front of neighbors, there is not a single good word.
In fact, they did not understand that the reputation of the daughter-in-law also affected the reputation of the entire family. It was not as simple as they thought, thinking that as long as the daughter-in-law received the instructions of others, she would be respectful to her when she returned home.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the main contradiction in many families, and sometimes both people do have some excessive places. At this time, two people need to sit down together and exchange feelings for each other.