The Beijing Winter Olympics are in full swing.
Now the hottest female athlete, naturally not Gu Ailing.
She won the gold medal in the final round with a super difficult move, becoming the first freestyle ski women's big jump champion in the history of the Winter Olympics.
Gu Ailing is indeed excellent.
Whether it is hardware or software, this is an almost all-round genius: a good family, a beautiful person, a confident and sunny personality, smart and hardworking, physical and psychological qualities are excellent...
It's only natural that she'll be popular, but who doesn't like hard-working, beautiful, and powerful people?
However, there are many people who regard Gu Ailing as a standard template for struggle, and constantly study how Gu Ailing's mother has cultivated such an excellent daughter, which is a bit "too much".
Because Gu Ailing's "Purple Micro Star" cannot be cultivated in a few Haidian tutoring classes. She herself has won at the starting line in many ways, and it is a little unrealistic to use her as a reference for life.
△ Gu Ailing, who is attending a cram school
Moreover, although I admire Gu Ailing, I personally really don't like to praise her and then return to the success of heroes based on achievements.
Most of us, exhausted by our life's efforts, may not even achieve 1% of Gu Ailing's achievements. Are we born losers? Is our life meaningless?
So in my opinion, whether we can become "Gu Ailing" is not important, what matters is how we live this life of "ordinary people".
During the Spring Festival, I finished the "Ordinary Girl Cultivation 2" that I left behind last year. Like the first season, the story of Chen Jialing, a vulgar girl, still touches people's hearts. Although she is a completely different woman from Gu Ailing, she lives outside the definition of success and still "achieves nothing" by the age of 40. But in her, I found the above answer that belonged to ordinary people.
△ The first season scored 9.2 points, the second season 9.3 points, the story of the common girl still maintains high quality
Discard the inner volume
How did Chen Jialing, who returned to her hometown, live?
Here, first of all, to friends who have not seen "The Cultivation of Ordinary Women", I will tell you about the content of the first season. ("Vulgar Girl 1" review article poke here)
Chen Jialing, the protagonist of our story, a Tainan girl who is not very pretty but works very hard.
When she was in college, she came to Taipei to work hard, fought for 20 years, became the secretary of the chairman of a company, and emotionally had a boyfriend who had been talking about marriage for four years and was in the stage of talking about marriage.
Everything seems to be on the right track in the secular sense, a stable job, a stable relationship, and then marriage and children...
However, Chen Jialing felt very depressed. Work is not what she likes, saying that Dong Su is just a "close-fitting mane", not only to take care of the boss's living and eating, but also to accompany his little three.
Feelings have long since deteriorated. She no longer had any feelings of love for her boyfriend.
The boyfriend's mother's indiscriminate interference in even the choice of wedding dress has also made Chen Jialing extremely mad.
In the end, Chen Jialing, who could not bear it, resigned her job at the age of 39, retired from marriage, left the environment of the inner volume, and returned to her hometown in Tainan.
Because in Tainan, there is a life she is familiar with, a family that gives her a sense of security, and a "bamboo horse" that understands her better.
△ In the first season, Chen Jialing asked her mother this passage, and she burst into tears. The portrayal of family relationships has always been the highlight of lay women
Above, it is the content of the first season, mainly about why Chen Jialing left the "right track of success" and returned to Tainan.
The second season is about Chen Jialing's "second half of life" in Tainan after the age of 40.
In the words of director Yan Yiwen, "If the first season aims to present the cultivation of a common woman, then the second season allows us to see how 40-year-old Chen Jialing has done her best to start writing another chapter of life." ”
What about Chen Jialing, who has begun a new chapter?
Has life become smoother?
The answer is: no.
Her life in Tainan is still "a chicken feather in one place".
In the first season, Chen Jialing used all her savings to buy the "haunted house" she often went to when she was a child. In the second season, when she tried to renovate the house the way she wanted it, she found it difficult.
In order to save money, she tried her best to "personally fight" in each process, and as a result, because she had no experience in getting her own scars, she entered the emergency room three times a month, and was almost misunderstood by the doctor as domestic violence.
△ Chen Jialing's house has not been renovated for more than a year, which is too real. Anyone who has renovated a house knows that decoration is a disaster.
Seeing family often and being cosy.
But inevitably, there will also be friction with the family.
In the eyes of Chen Jialing's parents, 40-year-old Chen Jialing is still a child who has not grown up. Chen Jialing wanted a white sofa, but her mother felt that the color was not dirty, and she had to help her change a dark color.
After the age of 40, Chen Jialing inevitably has to face the problem of "aging".
His physical condition was not as good as before, and his dark circles were as big as the ice piers.
Ovarian function declines and is likely to be "earlier".
In the workplace, Chen Jialing began to change jobs at the age of 40, spent more than a year studying and obtaining a tour guide certificate, and stayed in Tainan as a tour guide.
However, in the same position as her, they are all young people in their twenties, all of them are energetic.
This is Chen Jialing's "new chapter", not dreamy, but also very messy.
However, this is the life of our ordinary people, where it is possible to change a place to start, it will immediately become "smooth sailing".
The problems and troubles are still there, but unlike before, Chen Jialing, who chose to stay in Tainan, has become determined.
When she got into an argument with her family, she insisted on her opinion.
Growing old, she was also afraid, but she was not going to hide it either.
After trying a failed medical aesthetic, Chen Jialing was very honest about her physical condition to the people around her and accepted the reality that she was getting old.
Working, middle-aged transfer is very difficult.
However, Chen Jialing is not discouraged, she knows how to use the advantages accumulated in the workplace in the past - good English, strong adaptability.
In the company, she became a performance star and received many praise from foreign tourists.
"Vulgar Girl 2" still continues the realistic style of the first season.
It didn't create a utopia, or write a middle-aged Mary Sue.
After the age of 40, Chen Jialing still stumbled, and then tried her best to kill a bloody road in this chaotic day.
Life is like this, and what grows over time is sometimes not our achievements, but the resilience we have accumulated from past failures.
Chen Jialing's life may not have gotten better, but she has become "stronger".
She didn't come here alone
Behind her were every generation of women who had longed for freedom
The reason why the first season of "Common Girl" was successful was because the family part was too delicately depicted.
Many people have fallen in love with the noisy "Chinese medicine family" behind Chen Jialing. (Chen Jialing's family opened a Chinese pharmacy)
The second season, too. The plot still spends considerable ink to describe Chen Jialing's childhood and her relationship with her family. However, this time, the focus is on the two female characters in the family - Grandma and Mom.
Because of the times, the grandmother and mother born in the countryside are traditional housewives.
They are not highly educated, they have not gone out to work since they got married, and they have dedicated most of their lives to their families.
However, they are not completely devoid of "self" or "feminine consciousness".
In the second season, both women had their own "moments of escape".
△ When Chen Jialing first came to menstruation, Grandma and her mother told her about the various pains as a woman, and in front of Chen Jialing, they did not beautify women's lives.
Concubine, Li Yueying, has been "in charge" of the Chen family for many years.
In that era when she needed the surname of guanfu, after she married into the Chen family, she became Chen LiYueying.
She had no name of her own and no life of her own.
Every year on her birthday, her birthday wishes are "the first hope that the family is healthy, and the second hope is that the children are very good at reading", always putting the family in front of herself.
But one year, Grandma finally made a wayward move.
She was moving into a friend's idle house for a while.
This frightened the whole family, and everyone thought that Grandma was going to divorce. But in fact, Grandma is just tired.
In a friend's house, she can be alone, cook her favorite dishes, eat the cream cake she wants, and leisurely enjoy the afternoon time that no one disturbs.
She also learned to write her name "Li Yueying" with Chen Jialing in order to help sign the registered letter.
Although that time was short. However, Ah Yan still did herself once for a long time, and found the forgotten "Li Yueying".
Her mother, Wu Xiuqin, ran away from home angrily when she found out that her husband had lent 300,000 (TW$) to her sister and hid her from "dating" her sister.
She got into Chen Jialing's car, holding 300,000 yuan, to come to a woman's escape trip.
This is Wu Xiuqin, who has been frugal all her life, the most extravagant one.
During the trip, Chen Jialing found that her mother had secretly learned a lot of life skills: she knew English.
She can also drive, even better than Chen Jialing and her father.
Although in the end, Wu Xiuqin also returned to the family like Li Yueying.
They have no way to break free of the responsibilities that have weighed on them, and they cannot do anything beyond their time.
However, they still pinned their desire for freedom and their desire for self on Chen Jialing's body.
When she was a child, Wu Xiuqin once forced Chen Jialing, who was in the middle of the country, to take a car alone to a cram school far away.
Chen Jialing felt very angry at that time, thinking that her mother didn't want her anymore, why did she change like a person when she went to the middle school.
But in fact, Wu Xiuqin is more worried about this daughter than anyone else, and she secretly follows herself in an electric car. When Chen Jialing gambled, Wu Xiuqin told the truth that he was so strict with her: "It is very difficult to get up in the upper middle school, because her mother only graduated from elementary school. If your grandmother could get me to school, I wouldn't be working as a woman at 13. ”
I don't have a culture, so I want my daughter to read more books and see the bigger world.
Grandma Li Yueying, the night before her death, also told Chen Jialing that in this era, there are many people who do not marry, and Grandma envies you and does whatever she wants.
Wu Xiuqin and Li Yueying can't change the times, but they both work hard to move forward a little, and it is with their little progress that she can go further in Chen Jialing's time.
Elite family backgrounds like Gu Ailing are a very small minority at the top of the pyramid, and most of us are more like Chen Jialing's family, there is no superior starting line, and we can only rely on generations of people to move forward slowly.
△ This paragraph of Auntie is the tear point of the first season.
What exactly is a vulgar woman?
What is an Independent Woman?
The biggest controversy of "Common Girl 2" is the ending.
After Chen Jialing became unexpectedly pregnant, she chose to give birth and proposed marriage to her boyfriend.
Many people feel that this is chen jialing's writing collapse. "Originally expected to see an independent woman who is unmarried and infertile live a different life, but instead entered a traditional family?"
Maybe everyone's life pressure is really too much, and everyone hopes to see cool people in film and television dramas. But Chen Jialing, who chose to return to a "common" path, is not independent enough?
First of all, I think it is very reasonable that according to the development of the plot, Chen Jialing will get married and have children.
The reason why she quit marriage in the first season was not because she didn't want to get married, but because she found that there was no love in that relationship.
When she was unexpectedly pregnant, she did not tell her boyfriend, but planned not to do it for the time being. Because she had just become a tour guide at that time, her career still needed to be fought, and she was worried that having children would affect her development.
However, when she was preparing to go for the operation, she hesitated because she heard the heartbeat of the fetus. Then, during the trip, in the conversation with her mother Wu Xiuqin, she slowly became clearer about her inner thoughts. Chen Jialing lives in a loving family, and she must yearn for family life more than she resists.
Therefore, her final decision to give birth to a child was not abrupt.
Secondly, Chen Jialing's decision to make this decision is her own choice.
Even though her boyfriend broke up angrily because she hid her pregnancy, Chen Jialing decided to give birth to a child.
Her decision to have a child, just as she decided to leave Taipei, was a path and a choice she wanted in her heart.
She wants to be a mother, it is her own will, she does not rely on this child to bind the relationship, or to find sustenance.
Even if she finally decides to get back together and proposes after having a child, it is because she really wants to start a family with the person in front of her. Her choice was: "I don't want to believe in marriage, but I believe in you, I believe in us." ”
At this moment, Chen Jialing already knows very well what she wants, and is no longer the Chen Jialing who was kidnapped by age anxiety and marriage anxiety.
Some people want a career, some people want a family, this is a very normal life option, there are no advantages or disadvantages.
The key to an independent woman lies in spiritual independence and financial independence, which has nothing to do with whether she is married or has children. Chen Jialing has done these two things, and all her decisions in career and life are in accordance with her inner self-will. Financially, she wasn't attached to anyone either.
If this is the case, why is Chen Jialing, who chose to marry and have children, not an independent woman?
The charm of the story of "Common Girl" is that it is about an ordinary woman.
She's average, not much better than you and me. Like us, she has all kinds of worldly entanglements, she has no way to be free to pursue herself at all costs, and she can't abandon the people around her to go her own way.
However, even if she is so vulgar and ordinary, she can still make you feel her unique, cute, and fierce.
She's not always so brave, but she just dares to quit and break up at the age of 39 and start all over again; she's not always so strong, but she can be someone else's backer in a critical moment; she's not always gentle, but she'll do her best to love those who deserve love...
△ When her mother was sad, Chen Jialing after the age of 40 became her mother's backing
Yes, she just has a lot of shortcomings, she is not good enough, not strong enough.
But she is us.
Each of us is stumbling and finding our own way. The result may not be so good, or it may even be true that nothing can be achieved, but so what? Each of us also lives very seriously and hard, doesn't it?
As Jiang Goose, the original author of "Common Girl", said: "Grasp the limited life, first shrug your shoulders together, stand up to this excellent and ordinary self, those things that need to be worked on, anyway, no one will steal it for a while." ”
You don't have to force yourself to be exceptional.
Being able to work hard to fall in love with the mediocre self is also a talent.
When everyone is looking up to "Gu Ailing"
Might as well say to yourself,
You're also remarkable.