What is dare to love and dare to hate? My understanding is: love to the extreme, decisive division.
So let's talk about what kind of characteristics people who dare to love and hate. Let me share a little story with you.
That's one of my college classmates, let's call her Xiaoying. Xiao Ying is a tall, thin girl, with a bit dark skin, a very outgoing personality, usually some big grins, but the heart is clear.
Xiaoying told us in the year she was about to graduate that she had a boyfriend, who was in the main city, and that the family was quite rich. Because the little shadow family is in the district and county, his parents divorced since he was a child, and he was brought up by his grandfather himself, so he has always longed to be loved. She said that the boy was still good to her, and would not be harsh on her with money, that is, his mother did not like her very much, and always felt that her son was very good and that she did not deserve him. We felt that as long as the boy was good to her, his mother did not live together, nothing, and did not say anything.
Later, Xiaoying brought the boy to our school and let us know, and we had a meal together. They are about the same age, the boys are a little fat, and they can't say much good to Xiaoying, nor can they say bad. But Xiaoying likes it, no way.
Because of Xiaoying's personality, she always takes out her things to share, and we know some things between them. The boy has been pampered since childhood, and every time Xiaoying goes to the boy's house during the holidays, she cooks and washes the house, cleans up the house, and she herself says that she is willing to do those things for him. His boyfriend plays games, and when he has nothing to do, he will accompany Xiaoying out to see the movie and go shopping. We asked her what his boyfriend was doing if she didn't do that. She always laughed and said, "He would order takeout, he would ask for an hourly cleaner, and sometimes his mother would come over and cook for him and clean up the house." "We all felt like she was carried away by love, what was this kind of man doing?" But she just liked it, and she felt safe with him (which we thought might have something to do with her boyfriend's body type).
Later, after graduation, Xiaoying also found a good job. They officially lived together, and her boyfriend's mom would go to them every three to five minutes. His mother did not regard Xiaoying as an outsider, and let Xiaoying do everything. Play with your phone on the couch yourself. Love House and Wu, Xiaoying has no complaints.
Time goes on like this day by day. Until one day, Xiaoying said that she was pregnant, still ectopic, and needed surgery. His boyfriend transferred money directly to her to go to the hospital with her. Who knew that his mother knew, and directly told Xiaoying to let her go by herself, her son could not take care of anyone. Then she said to her boyfriend, "If you go with her, then I won't care about you in the future, and I haven't let you take care of you..." In the end, her boyfriend really didn't go, because her family was in the district and county, and she didn't want her family to worry, so we went with her.
Later, Xiaoying recovered and was discharged from the hospital, she went directly to her boyfriend's house to pack up her things, and her head did not go back, and the money that his boyfriend transferred to her before, she also returned it. No matter how the boy kept him, she never replied to him with a message.
Love with your heart when you should love, and break apart when you don't love, leaving no regrets. Treat a feeling rationally, don't let yourself be blind and aggrieved because of love. We must be independent of ourselves, treat those who are not suitable, and be bold and decisive. This is the person who dares to love and dare to hate.