A person, busy studying and working during the day, and having simple or complex dreams at night, it seems that these dreams are always changing, and even in dreams there are things that have never been done before, and there is no way to trace them.
But Freud said that dreams are the satisfaction of subconscious desires and the disguised desires of childhood. It is not a vacuum, it is a spiritual activity that is completely meaningful.
My six-year-old nephew loved that I read The World's Fairy Tales to him. Because he himself could not read all the words on it, he would let me read it to him every day. One day, I read "The Daughter of the Sea" in which the little mermaid endured great pain, changed into human form, and stood in front of the prince, but she could not speak... When he stopped reading to him, he was very unhappy that I had interrupted him so cruelly, but the next morning he excitedly told me that he had dreamed of the little mermaid and the prince.
As the saying goes, "think about it in the day, dream about it at night", some dreams are to satisfy our unfulfilled wishes in real life. And some of these desires are already understood by ourselves, and some are indeed implicit in the subconscious.
L, a junior high school student who has to get up early every day to run exercises and read in the morning, in the cold winter, curled up in a warm bed is every child's desire, but the reality is that it is necessary to get up. So she slept a little more every morning after the alarm rang.
Once she was late and secretly talked to me about her dream: "She got up on time, washed her face and brushed her teeth, and then went for a run", but in fact, she kept sleeping. The real feelings in the dream made her wake up for a long time and not believe the fact that she was still asleep.
She acknowledged that the motive for the dream was nothing more than to make her sleep more peacefully.
Therefore, when you see a child's dream, you can probably see his appeal through his wishes.
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<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > as we have seen, dreams do not come out of thin air, and those dreams that we can remember are even more intensely eager to break through the inhibitions of the subconscious and nakedly show their motives to the dreamer. </h1>
And whether we are parents or children, reading dreams is also a key step in understanding children or ourselves.
During last year's summer vacation, I should have gone to visit my brother and sister-in-law and my little nephew who had not been born, but because my grandmother was not in good health, I could only return to my hometown. My mother and I would always argue over small things, and although there were fewer this year, we still had conflicts.
Since I didn't want to continue like this, I made an excuse to go to the county seat and live with a cousin there and didn't go home, and that night I had the following dream.
"In the house where we lived there were only two of us and my dad, and I couldn't cry, and my dad asked me why, and I didn't answer. Mom was cooking alone in the other room, and she seemed to know why I was crying but laughed triumphantly.
I went to her and said, "I'm willing to get along with you, I don't want to argue with you, but why can't you listen to my ideas and accept them with an open mind?" Why is it clear that it is your fault, but you are not willing to admit it? "Mom didn't speak, I ran away from home in a fit of rage...
Now I'm in the classroom and I'm talking to our class teacher, "I'm leaving, I'm not going to study anymore." "The class teacher gave me a lot of thought work and sent me home.
On the way, I ran to my grandmother's house and slipped behind the big curtains of her house. Later, she was caught by her mother, and her face was still very happy..."
I choked on this dream until I woke up. All of this is clearly tied to what happened before. However, I myself did not fully understand the contents at first, but I always gave myself the feeling that "I have expressed my dissatisfaction with my mother, expressed my desire to escape, and even made my behavior of not wanting to study and wanting to take revenge on my mother by dropping out of school" that I did not realize.
Through this dream, I saw all my wishes, hoping that my confusion would be solved, and the actual actions that reality did not dare to take, in the dream, I also helped me realize them one by one.
But why is my mother always laughing in the dream, I ran away for no reason, the persuasion of the class teacher, the curtains of my grandmother's house... What are all this telling me?
Therefore, I intend to analyze it step by step.
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<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > analyzes past experiences and feelings thoroughly, and interprets this seemingly bland but impressive dream to the fullest, this is not imagination, this is their own life. </h1>
"In the house where we live, it's just me and my dad."
This summer, we are living in our hometown, although no one has lived in it for many years, it is always a homely feeling to live back, and this room has always been a family of two in my memory.
My parents have been away for a long time because of work, and when I grow up, I will study outside, and my parents around me rarely appear at the same time, so it is not surprising that there is only me and my father in this family in the dream.
Second, I do not answer my father's inquiries
Since my father and I are more likely to talk to each other, my father is more rational and good at listening, and he often talks to him about big things in life, and he may not answer in his dreams because he subconsciously thinks that it is not a big deal and there is no need to talk to him.
"She seems to know why I'm crying but laughs proudly"
In fact, my mother never laughed "proudly" when I cried, and the situation in my dream was my revenge for my mother's dissatisfaction with ignoring my psychological grievances, making her an incompetent mother who was incomprehensible and even a little schadenfreude.
"I am willing to get along with you, and I don't want to quarrel with you."
I think that the reason for all the quarrels is that my mother refuses to listen to my opinion and refuses to admit her mistakes (I know that this is wrong in the future), I am willing to get along well, it is my mother who does not want to get along well before she quarrels... And the main purpose of this dream may be here.
My mother did not respond, so I ran away from home
Going to the county cousin's house is indeed to avoid direct contact with my mother and reduce the number of quarrels, because of the strict tutoring, I do not dare to gamble and run away, therefore, in the dream of "running away from home" also shows that I am not willing to quarrel, and I did not dare to do what I did.
"I'm leaving, I'm not going to read anymore." The homeroom teacher gave me a long time of thought work and sent me home."
The homeroom teacher in the dream was the homeroom teacher in junior high school, which made me think that I had the idea of dropping out of school in junior high school, and also alarmed my parents, and the stalemate at school lasted for a long time before it subsided.
At that time, I insisted that the class teacher was looking for me and targeting me, so I simply stopped reading. (In fact, this is not the case, the class teacher attaches great importance to me, hopes that I can become the best in the school, so he is strict with me, sometimes even a little "hate iron is not steel", because I am in a rebellious period and misinterpret the teacher's good intentions for me). It was precisely because I talked to my mother about his son's study, and my mother said a lot of information about his son, which caused me to dream about him at night.
But in fact, the teacher who did ideological work on me because I didn't want to study was not the class teacher of my junior high school, and here I would dream of another person, who was also a teacher, but did not have much friendship with my hometown.
That summer, I failed the college entrance examination and walked into the cram school, due to the depressed mood, the life of the cram school was boring, the teacher's iron face was ruthless and made me tired, I had the idea of being bored with school, and I had the idea of "no longer reading". This teacher from the same village also happened to be teaching there. She talked to me and gave me three hours of thought work, hoping that I would continue to finish my studies.
This conversation made me determined to return to the classroom and changed the fate of my life, and the dream here was also the catharsis of my long-accumulated gratitude to this teacher.
The face of the person who "sent me home" in the dream is clearly my father, so why would I combine my homeroom teacher, my hometown teacher and my father into one person in the dream? Come to think of it, they all have one thing in common----- they all play a pivotal role in my life, and they have helped me a lot. This made me feel indescribably grateful to them all.
Seven, the big curtains of Grandma's house
In my impression, there are no curtains in my grandmother's house, why do I hide in the curtains of my grandmother's house? I think it was also because my grandmother had been studying with me, and my mother lived with me until high school. The choice of refuge at grandma's house after a quarrel with his mother in the dream is also related to his previous life experience.
After my mother caught me, "there was no sense of repentance on my face, and I was still very happy."
This passage reminds me of the days I spent with my mother in high school, when I was about to take the college entrance examination, and I was very anxious in my heart, and my mother was also anxious, even more. So there are a lot of contradictions, a period of rhetoric.
After every fight, I hope that my mother can not take everything to heart, and we can still get along happily. Therefore, after arguing with his mother, he still had this thought, and he appeared in the dream.
The above is the analysis of this dream that I can do, which seems to be nothing special in the general situation, but from the whole dream, I found an intention that runs through the front and back, that is, the motivation for my dream.
This dream fulfilled several of my wishes, presented some of the conditions that I wished to exist in my heart, so I can say this: "The content of the dream is the fulfillment of the wish, and its motivation lies in a certain wish."
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A high school child told me a dream that she was about to take the exam, but she dreamed for several days that she had picked up two thousand dollars.
Why do you dream of money, and it's two thousand, no more, no less?
Later, it was learned that her mother's health was not very good, and soon after she died, her mother liked a gold ring worth two thousand pieces, but her mother spent all the family's savings on medical treatment and her own schooling, and she had no money to buy it, so she couldn't let go of this matter in her heart, and she was grumpy, and the two thousand in her dream could just buy the ring, which fulfilled her wish for money.
Of course, not all dreams seem to help people realize their wishes, and some dreams are clearly what they do not want to see, how can this be explained? Some dreams are sad or even painful, so how can it be said that the wish is fulfilled? If so, how did it come about?
Freud once said that "the unfulfilled of one wish symbolizes the fulfillment of another wish."
One child often dreams of dreams that contradict her wishes, such as many times that she has dreamed many times that she was late for the exam or missed the exam time because she could not find the exam room, and finally did not take the subject.
Of course, for her, she didn't have such a desire, and she didn't want such a thing to happen when she really took the exam. And she had never had anything like it.
But I asked her to think again, when she made these dreams, it was the second semester of the third year of high school, that is, the semester of "three days a big exam, two days a small exam", for these large and small exams she was actually unwilling to accept, and even hoped that she could find a reason not to take these exams, so it was understandable to often have such dreams.
This is the "anti-wish dream", which is usually based on some "denial of wishes" and "sadness, sadness and even tragedy", which at first glance is the complete opposite of "dreams are the fulfillment of wishes". But dreams need to be understood.
The relationship between the child and the parent is always a bit like the relationship between the superior and the subordinate, the relationship between the manager and the managed, the child has some scruples about certain wishes, just like the dream of Fang Cai, who is unwilling to test the child's wish expression is scrupulous, and the dream makes a "disguise" for his inner thoughts and expresses it in another form.
A dream is a desire of the heart that is fulfilled after being disguised and deformed. The more unacceptable the desire, the more it will be whitewashed by the subconscious, but the understanding and experience of the heart can always see through the disguise and go straight to the child's heart.