People often use "I have crossed more bridges than you have eaten salt" to describe experienced people, and the experience summarized by the things that the elderly have experienced is a valuable asset to help young people reduce detours. In terms of running a family, the rural elderly also have their own unique insights.
There is a saying in the countryside that the old man often hangs on his lips, "Don't borrow four things, borrow the family and perish." The meaning is easy to understand, but which four things do not borrow? Why is it said that borrowing these four things will lead to the "destruction of the family"?
Do not borrow a room
In fact, it is not uncommon for friends to borrow houses, but disputes caused by borrowing houses are not uncommon, because there are many houses that do not interact with each other. Why is it easy to make contradictions when borrowing a house? If a friend only borrows for a short time, of course, it is okay, but it is best to refuse if it is borrowed for several years.
First, because of the long time, the traces of the use of the house during the period will be very heavy. Even if the friend is carefully protected, it is a place where they live for a long time, and it is impossible not to cause damage. Since it is borrowed, it is free. After a few years, the house is returned, and if the friend is not willing to bear the later repair, he will have to paste a large amount of repair costs.
Second, the right to use the house was transferred. Although the owner of the house remains the same, if you meet a friend who does not have a good intention during the period, you may rent the house out without permission. Such news is not uncommon, the key is that the cut is still chaotic, it is easy to make a lawsuit. Therefore, it is best not to borrow the house, and to pay attention to the situation of the house in the short term.
Second, do not borrow a lot of money
The phrase "money hurts feelings" applies in any era, but if you don't borrow money to hurt each other's feelings, there is a risk that you can't get back when you borrow money. In this era, no one is easy, and they are not willing to be angry when they have money, but there are also friends who are not unwilling to pay back, but there is really no way. The borrowed party bears greater losses.
For the matter of borrowing money, we must uphold the principle of "big money is not borrowed, small money is borrowed, daily is not borrowed, and it is urgent to give". When you think that the money borrowed by your friend exceeds his ability to repay or that it is best not to borrow it when he wants to do business, but you can borrow small money within your own ability, which not only protects the feelings, but also prevents the borrowing money from reducing your own harm when you do not repay it.
Three do not borrow mobile phones
Mobile phones have made a huge difference in our lives and made mobile payments a reality. But mobile phones are extremely private things, with a lot of personal privacy and account information in them, which are not suitable for lending. And some software has the function of password-free payment, and the binding of funds, leaving opportunities for people with bad intentions.
The so-called harmful heart must not have, the heart of prevention must not be without, lending mobile phones to friends may be privacy leakage, or be transferred funds. Even if you don't use a second-hand mobile phone, it's best not to borrow it. Used mobile phones can also restore the original data, which will also leak privacy and property security.
Four do not borrow human feelings
What does it mean not to borrow human feelings? Some people like to give promises like to find me next time if there is anything they need help with. If your friend asks you to do something particularly tricky, then shirk your friend and block you with human affection. Especially when it comes to work-related relationships, don't easily agree with others.
The other party is likely to make excessive demands, such as asking you to find a relationship and let you open a back door. This kind of thing is found to be unlucky to be the person who opens the back door. So don't promise others that you will be able to do it, and what kind of difficulties you can find yourself. Such a favor is generally not easy to help.
Xiao Zhang said
The above four things people have experienced to a greater or lesser extent, especially borrowing money, so that many people have suffered losses on this. Some things say that not borrowing is not borrowing, don't let yourself suffer for the so-called feelings. Otherwise, everyone will look at you as a good talker, and even if you have a rich family foundation, you will ruin your family.
The relationship between people becomes close in mutual trouble, and borrowing things is a common thing. Borrowing and returning is the way to deal with the world, but some things are not suitable for lending, and it is easy to do bad things with good intentions.