Friends are an indispensable topic in our lives. Extroverts generally have more friends; while introverts have fewer friends. However, there will not be too many friends for everyone. After all, in modern society, sincerity is a very rare thing. Once the true heart is wrongly paid, the pain can only be borne by ourselves, so we all attach great importance to the word true heart. The following four realms of friendship allow us to know more about friends.
Just like a flower, it is full of glory when it is beautiful, and it is discarded when it wilts
The first kind of friend, like a flower. When you are beautiful, it revolves around you, and when you are lonely, it abandons you. Such a friend is a solid wine and meat friend, who only accepts the other party's flash point, and does not accept the dark side behind the flash. It is a very hypocritical type of person who will choose what kind of friends they make for their own interests. Such a view of friendship is impossible to make true friends. However, in life, such people are really not in the minority.
Second, like a scale, the head is low with the weight of the object, and the head is tilted when the object is light
The second kind of friend, like a scale. If you give more benefits, you will show great obedience, and if you give fewer benefits, you will behave very weakly. Such a friend will measure the value that the other party can bring to himself, and the high value will be closer, and the low value will be farther away. Once the feelings are linked to the interests, they will deteriorate, and the feelings that have changed the quality are actually not feelings, and can only be regarded as part of the chain of interests at best. Such a view of friendship is also difficult to make close friends.
Three like mountains, you can use it to ascend high and look far away, sending green shade
The third kind of friend, like a mountain. You can use the strength and help of the other party to see the scenery farther away. Such a friend, with a helpful spirit, is willing to give his energy to bring convenience and benefits to the other party. For a mountain with natural advantages, it is only a show of hands; but for a friend, seeing a farther scenery can benefit him a lot. Such a friend is worth making.
Four as the ground, a hundred grains of harvest, silently bear
The fourth kind of friend, like the ground. Sowing a seed can harvest a full of friendship and be willing to silently bear the pain of growing up for friends. Such friends can not only share joy, but also share hardships. The dilemma is definitely the alchemy of the true feeling. Friendship, love, and affection are the same, and they can pass the trial of common suffering, so that feelings can be regarded as true. Such a view of friendship is the highest realm of sincere treatment.
Make friends with sincerity, without sincerity it is impossible to really make friends. At the same time, making friends should also polish your eyes, because not every true heart can be exchanged for the same true feelings. Once the true heart is wrongly paid to the bad person, when the emotion is hurt, it is always the party who pays more to hurt more; if the true heart is given to the same true feeling, it will be a beautiful ensemble like a mountain flowing water. To make friends, you should make friends in the fourth realm, like the land, who can share hardships.