#新作者扶植计划 Phase II #
Introduction: There are many friends in life, there are few confidants, throughout the ancient and modern times, how many people can become real confidants? True confidant is spiritual resonance, the encounter of two souls. A confidant is someone who can read your soul, and with just one look, the confidant can see through the inner world of your heart.
With a confidant, life is no longer lonely, and there is someone who can talk to you on the knee and be intimate. Confidant is one of the most beautiful landscapes in life, a kind of wealth that is difficult to measure with money.
Confidants will not always be with you, nor will they ask you to do anything for him, he only hopes that you are doing well, and he hopes that you are happy every day. Confidant is your most loyal listener, he likes to hear your joys and sorrows, and he feels as beautiful as singing every word you say.
First, the confidant is like a psychologist
Confidant is like a psychiatrist, he can enlighten you in time, let you out of depression and wandering.
There are many things in life that are inconvenient to say to parents and friends, nor to lovers. In everyone's heart, there are some secrets that are not known to others, and these secrets can only be understood by confidants, and only confidants can understand them.
Facing the pressures of life, sometimes it can be very tiring. All kinds of troubles gathered together for a long time, and I wanted to find someone to talk to.
Human sophistication is a big project of living expenses, which has nothing to do with daily sustenance, but must be done. Originally, the pressure of life was very great, and every three to five years I had to go to give gifts to colleagues, friends, relatives. Now the gift money continues to increase, at least 500 at a time to start, less face can not go, such a thing has ten times eight times a year, but also a large expense at home.
But these things can not be said to relatives, said seems to be too picky door no affection, too ignorant of human feelings and sophistication will not do things, at this time confidant is the best object of talk.
Only the confidant knows you best, even if he is busy, he will patiently listen to you.
If these things are said to the lover, he will feel very annoyed, let alone to the friends, because it is not certain which friend will get married and have children, and he needs to go with the gift.
These things can not be said to parents, parents have a hard time in this life, the pressure of daily life is also very large, can not be more blocked for them.
The confidant will tell you the best way to solve things, drive away your troubles, get you out of the shadows, and when you are happy, the confidant will fade out of your sight.
When you cry, the confidant will give you an arm to rely on, and with the confidant, the journey of life is no longer lonely, no longer lonely.
Second, the confidant will keep an emotional distance from you
Confidants are between friends and lovers, closer than friends, and stop at love.
No matter how strong a person is, there will be times when he is helpless, without making an appointment, his confidant will quietly come to you and guide you.
Sometimes lovers will be busy with work and neglect to accompany, and two people will be busy like two parallel lines that do not intersect. The lover comes back from work, watches TV and looks at the phone after eating, and after a day at work, he is too lazy to communicate with you.
The confidant will not be so perfunctory to you, he will listen carefully to your every word, and then give you a solution to your doubts. Confidants will take the initiative to maintain emotional distance from you, and will not intervene in your family to become a third party.
When your life is in trouble, confidants will help you financially, but they will never give you red envelopes or buy gifts on Valentine's Day. Because he is not a lover, he does not need to express love to you, and his confidant sincerely hopes that you will live happily and happily.
Confidants will not be ambiguous with you, will not talk about the private feelings of two people, and will only discuss some views on life and understanding of love with you.
Confidants have their own love and family, he knows the responsibilities and responsibilities on his shoulders, will not destroy other people's families, nor will he destroy his own family.
Some people slowly develop feelings when they get along with their confidants, and they are not satisfied with being only confidants, and they all want to get out of their marriages and form a new family. Such feelings are not true confidants, confidants will not let the feelings die, know how to restrain their feelings, and will not think of right and wrong.
Third, confidants do not ask for returns, no desires and no demands
Confidant is the person who knows you best in the world, he will appear in time when you need it, be a solid backing behind you, do not ask for returns, confidant is the only person besides parents, who has no desire for you.
When life is at a low ebb, the confidant will always accompany you without considering gains and losses, and never give up.
Life has high mountains and lows, when you are lonely and helpless, your confidant will always be by your side to help you get out of the predicament, and he will only send charcoal for you.
Now people are very realistic, whether it is relatives or friends, like to add icing on the cake, once you fall into trouble, instantly hide without a trace, for fear of affecting them.
In the face of interests, it is the most able to test a person's humanity. All people have become the most real in the face of interests, no longer disguised, no longer the usual smiling faces, revealing their original faces.
If you borrow money, you will find that your relatives and friends are "poor" and they behave "poorer" than you. The reason is that people don't believe you at all, don't believe that you have the ability to repay.
The confidant will stand firmly by your side at this time, do his best to give you material help and spiritual encouragement, he believes that you have the ability to make a comeback, believes that you are only a temporary difficulty.
Confidant does nothing for you in return, even if you can't repay him, he will help you without hesitation, he wants to help you through this, because he doesn't want to see you sad and sad.
Confidant is the one who understands you the most, because he understands, so he crosses the wind and rain together, because he understands, so he tacitly perceives, because he understands, so he has no regrets.
Knowing oneself and loving you can be a friend of the heart and a friend of the soul, without having to know each other, just seeing you is destined to have a covenant in this life.
Summary: People need confidants in their lives, whether they are relatives or close friends, whether they are men or women, where they can get the comfort of the soul and be accompanied by red dust on the road of life.
Some people say that it is difficult to find a confidant, in fact, it is not because there are too few people who are sympathetic, but only that people hide their hearts too deeply, and many people deliberately hide their true selves in order to achieve their own interests.
Confidants should treat each other with sincerity, and treat each other with all their hearts and gallbladders. Confidant is not a husband or wife, nor a lover, but a person who settles in your spiritual world, a person who can speak from the heart, but only warms the heart, not the body.
Although you can't "hold the hand of the son and grow old with the son" with the confidant, the confidant can walk through the layers of masks and enter your soul, even if you don't say a word, a look can talk to your heart, and the confidant will make all your dreams have a hotbed.