Children, do not grow up overnight. You too, have been growing

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Children, do not grow up overnight.

Many adults I meet as parents are full of expectations for their children, hoping that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. They expect their children to have excellent grades and outstanding strengths all the way to growth, to graduate from a good university, to get a good job, to talk about excellent lovers, and then to marry and have children to honor their parents...

Every time the time point comes, it's like coming home at night, and as soon as you press the switch, the light comes on.

They think that they can make a good child by paying money and good discipline, and if the child does not meet expectations in the process or at a preset key point, it is the child's problem. They can save the country in various curves in the workplace, have reached their goals, but hope that their children, another independent person, can give the most accurate response to their daily and so-called love.

Children are people who are as independent as you. He has little strength, does not understand the rules of society, many things can not be done, nor will he take care of himself, not that he is stupid and weak, he has not done it, has not experienced it, has not heard of it. You need to give him the freedom and space to learn, practice and adjust in the process of parenting.

The child has always been a transparent adult, or rather, every day and every night, the child is growing quietly, not only physically, but also mentally and competently.

Love, is preference! Not pampering.

The more I grew up, the more I felt that a good mother's love and father's love was originally a process of gradually letting go. This is not sad at all, but I think it is full of power, this little baby is originally an independent life individual who is as independent as his parents, or even better, with his own characteristics.

Parents who refuse to give up a little at the right time, parents who spoil their children in every way, are actually emasculating their children's ability.

As a parent, why not trust your child to be an independent person? Is there greed, fear, selfishness or cowardice, or ignorance behind this? What I can be sure of is that it must not be pure love.

Letting go is a gradual process that begins from the moment he leaves the mother. He first has his own activity space, and then does not rely on his mother's milk, then learns to speak and communicate with others, learns to do housework, and goes out of the house to have his own friends and small world...

Sometimes I even think that in the era of peace, along with the growth of children, the reason for the decline of parents may not be that children deprive parents of their time and wealth, but that parents themselves have given up their love and expectations for themselves.

Originally, parents and children can understand and share the world together.

In the process of seemingly children and parents being separated, very secret, spiritual things are gradually sprouting and intertwining.

It should be admitted that every child, regardless of family situation, has the same lush vitality.

In the increasingly prosperous land, give the child enough space and freedom, give him the opportunity to establish his own life order, he will bring back a beautiful new world that you can't imagine.

You have to believe that those setbacks and accidents, those who can't die, will make him stronger. Just like you've ever experienced.

Years are such things that can make people become their own. Everyone can, whether they are children, parents, siblings, lovers or friends.

And you, aren't you what you look like? After stripping away various roles, social status, and wealth, are you okay?