I think it's hard to do a perfectly average half of a point, but if you have the right half, you can do it with a little effort. --- Chie.
As the saying goes, "one year of keeping, three years of pain, five years of separation, seven years of itching, ten years of covenant".
And this is also the problem that every couple who enters the palace of marriage in reality has to face and face.
In China, according to data from 2014, because of the "three-year pain", after the couple had an unreserved understanding of each other, the number of divorces generated accounted for 40% of the total number of divorces.
From this, we can feel that the run-in period of marriage is really uncomfortable, and when we share each other's hardships and hardships and survive the difficulties together, perhaps only in this way can each other in marriage be regarded as a "real couple".
Also on this topic, we would like to recommend a new film by Nana Eikura and Hideaki Yasuda---
?s The wife is always pretending to be dead when returning to the house?s The heavenly round house city care elderly woman living death. 》
The film was adapted to the famous meme --- that was popular on the Japanese Internet in 2010 Every day when I come home, I see my wife pretending to be dead.
The background of the story is roughly like this:
On July 17, 2010, a Japanese netizen asked for help on Yahoo's Zhihui bag, saying that every day when he came home, he saw his wife lying on the ground pretending to be dead, "What does she really want me to do?" And what exactly does she want to do in the future? I have no clue, who will tell me? Because the questioner asked was too warm and interesting, the result attracted all kinds of onlookers, all kinds of envy, and even the "best answer" appeared. Six days later (July 23), Japanese internet composer "ほぼ日P" compiled a song based on the Q&A post, accompanied by an MV (which is a music composed by the users of the virtual singer software Hatsune MIKU and KAITO, and a static picture drawn by themselves), which was a big "fire" for a while.
Seven years later, director Li Doushinan, who co-directed the 99th and 02 spring special episodes of "The Wonderful Story of the World", and the special chapter of 99 Autumn, put it on the screen.
Although the genre of the film is defined as "comedy", when we look at Chie's various acts of obedience through The wonderful interpretation of Nana Eikura, it implies her implicit emotional catharsis of her husband Ah Chun.
Because "the moon is so beautiful", everything is no longer so important.
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In fact, you don't have to work so hard. Because couples are together every day.
In the "three-year pain" of the burnout period, Ah Chun, who returned home tired from work every day, gradually began to find that his wife Qianhui had a similar eccentric behavior, that is, "pretending to die", and the method of death was not the same.
For example, vomiting blood and dying, being bitten by crocodiles, killing gangsters infighting, fighting gloriously in armed battles, dying with arrows in the head, samurai with arrows piercing their hearts, earthlings being caught by aliens for experimental dissection and dying, vampire counts tragically crucified by crosses, Juliet's death, the curse of the mummy of the ancient Egyptian pharaohs, strangled to death by bank robberies, and so on...
As a husband, Ah Chun went from being frightened at the beginning to helplessly reverie about his wife's next "what kind of death" next time. Because of the enlightenment of his colleague Sano," who "guessed why not go home alone and cared more about his wife", Ah Chun fully cooperated with his wife Chie's performance of "pretending to die the script" every time he came home.
However, Ah Chun's real thoughts were "I don't dare to go home anymore" and "What will it be tonight?".
When Ah Chun says to Qian Hui, "I am tired of you pretending to be dead", Ah Chun apologizes for buying flowers and cakes for hurting Qian Hui, and celebrates Qian Hui's first day of work. However, Qianhui directly came to "pretend to be a ghost in front of the tombstone", afraid that Ah Chun was angry, and stressed that this was "pretending to be a ghost" is not a simple "pretend death".
Unable to understand his wife's abnormal behavior, Ah Chun is on the verge of collapse under the influence of "transforming into Ultraman", "incarnating as a ghost, a black cat", and "62 years old from the future of 2050".
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There are three slopes in life: "uphill", "downhill", and "never expected", but there is no "absolutely fine" in life.
In the face of Qianhui, a full-time wife, Ah Chun thinks that maybe let her go out to do part-time work and change her mood, so that she will not blindly think of some strange thoughts.
Faced with the gradual lack of real communication and the inability to understand her husband, Qianhui thinks that she can try, after all, "maybe one day Ah Chun's company will go bankrupt, be prepared."
And when experiencing the death of the dry cleaning part-time shop owner and the bird fed by the deceased old partner, Qian Hui said to the dry cleaning part-time shop owner more and more, "Then you should cherish the time with your husband now... You're still young, and you may not imagine how important it is" and care more about your feelings for your husband.
Although in front of her husband Ah Chun, she is the one who thinks that after successfully going to a dry cleaner, she should first rehearse that she will "really be robbed" and die one day. But the real implication is that life is limited, and when we get rid of the time we spend finding each other in the vast sea of people, the time we really have together is really countless.
So why should we be trapped in a man-eating swamp in this limited time?
Just like when A-chun talks about his ex-wife's "weird" divorce reasons in front of Sano, we as bystanders can't help but sigh "life trivialities, get used to it".
But the reality is that "the accumulation of trivial things will always breed into a flood of beasts", and at this time, for both parties in the marriage, the lightest outcome is only "divorce".
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Is it okay to decide that each other in life together just remember all of each other's preferences?
Of course, it is not so simple.
The significance of marriage or relationship for a long time depends on whether each other has cared about each other's feelings.
Always saying "wife travel is only with the son forward, their own travel will only take young girls to go", although always said that the wife is not good, but when Ah Chun asked him if he had thought about divorce, the head of the class answered ah chun a little surprised.
"I've thought about divorce many times, but I won't get divorced."
Why?
Although the child is the bond between the couple's feelings, the most fundamental reason is - I love her.
Just as A-Chun is afraid of Chie's wife like Sano, and cares whether her husband remembers his lover's preferences, he quickly recalls "Chie's favorite flower is sunflower", "likes Mont St. Clair's French cake", "likes fried eggs" and so on.
However, Qianhui interrupted Ah Chun's thoughts and said, "These things, after living together for a long time, naturally know, don't work so hard."
At a deeper level, in fact, Chie's subtext is like saying, "Have you ever tried to enter my heart?"
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Even husband and wife, in the end, are different individuals, and it is impossible to fully understand each other.
Sano, who has been married for five years, does not know that his wife has practiced karate, likes crocodiles so much, and even has such rich knowledge of crocodile science.
Just like the world always mistakenly thinks that crocodiles are fierce, simple-minded, and can only bite people, but in fact, it is the most developed reptile brain, and cats and dogs have the same level of IQ.
And women who are also relatively outside of men, from the moment they are deeply involved in emotions, they will always make people look "extremely stupid", but no one can read that they are more "unreserved" about the party who puts their emotions into it.
Sano asks Chie, "Why did you choose to marry Kaga Miko?"
Qianhui replied, "I think it is difficult to achieve a perfectly average half point, but if the right half point is right, you can still do it with a little effort."
Chie asks Yumiko why she chose to divorce in the end.
Yumiko replied, "It's not that I don't love him... But I haven't told him what I really think in a long time."
Chie asks Sano, "What's going on [about the divorce thing]."
Sano replied, "Often for the rest of your life, instead of being with people who are not suitable, it is better to find other people, so that it is good for everyone."
Ah Chun asked Qian Hui, "Why don't you go straight?"
QianHui replied, "It doesn't matter, the roads are all open, and you will definitely be able to get home."
However, the screenwriter takes the marital emotional burnout period as the fuse, and uses the different ways of facing the two families of "A-Chun and Chie" and "Sano and Yumiko" to allude to the accommodation, support, tolerance, respect and trust that should be between husband and wife.
After knowing the truth that "five years of not being pregnant stemmed from herself", Sano decided that his wife only cared that "the reason for not being pregnant was not because of her and she felt less guilty", and after the divorce, Sano used this to say that "he will not get married again".
Although it is a drunken word, it is also the "true intention" in the heart.
And Chie, in the face of her husband's "why don't you go straight" to face up to the emotional crisis between husband and wife, is stunned that she is alone and painstakingly "pretending to die" and "playing a ghost", and even repeatedly throws out the "moonlight is really beautiful" of Natsume's stone.
Zhen wei symbol does not care much about details, and male compatriots like Ah Chun are deeply anxious.
But this may be the feeling.
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People will die, and those who stay behind will be very sad.
Because of Qianhui's father's illness, the sad Qianhui once again mentioned her agreement with Ah Chun that "I will never die earlier than me."
Chie, who experienced the death of her mother when she was a child, saw her father crying alone in front of her mother's portrait at night, and Chie always tried every means to "hide from cats". At the beginning, you will have the same idea as Chie's father, "I am too tired at work, and I am too busy looking for her all over the world, so I am really unconscious." But when it comes to the end because of Qianhui's sentence "Daddy, as long as you look for me, you will definitely find me, so it will be all right", it makes people realize that all Qianhui did was just to make his father happy because of the pain of his wife.
Similarly, in the face of the marriage curse of "three years of pain", the fearful and uneasy Qianhui can only hide her true self with seemingly lame quirks, the little woman who is really afraid of "losing Ah Chun" and "Ah Chun will never find herself again".
And you?
When will the Ah Chun you care about understand the true meaning behind "the moonlight is really beautiful".
Resources:
1. Bilibili.com.
2. Baidu Encyclopedia.
3. The Japanese language of the moonlight is the moon. It is usually used to implicitly express love for each other. The allusion comes from the famous Japanese writer Natsume Tsubasa when he was teaching English when a student translated "I love you" as "I Jun を愛す". Natsume says it's not a good translation, but for Japanese people, it translates it as "月が绮丽ですね (tonight the moon is beautiful)" because it is more subtle. Therefore, "月が绮丽ですね" has become a sentence form of implicit Confession in Japan.
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