<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > *disturber's dying monologue*</h1>
01
Night, motel.
I deliberately brought whiskey, probably because I was a little nervous and couldn't take a sip.
Let's put on a blanket so as not to stain people's sheets. Oh, I'm such a worrying person.
It's a new pistol, and I don't want to waste that bullet.
I think I'm ready, but this bed doesn't seem to be long enough, no, soon, I'm going to say goodbye to the world, don't think about the past anymore, why do I want to cry a little, well, it's just a matter of a moment.
Rock 'n' Roll? It came from next door. When is it, can't stop for a while? Am I going to stop him? Forget it. No, I need to be quiet. Hide the pistol under your pillow first.
It was room 24, the same as my bottle number.
"I don't mean to offend, but can you make your voice a little quieter?" Well, there's no need to turn it off. "
"Mr. Fannymou?" I'm your student, John, do you remember, you may not remember, calculus class in 2004, are you still teaching? "
I have no intention of saying more, I'm going back.
No, no, no, you can't come to my room, you shouldn't be here, don't come to the bedside.
I'm going to be calm, calm, smile, and let him go.
You have so much to say. I'm a little tired. How do I get him out? Let him finish? Let him finish.
"Look, what's that?"
No, not good, found out by him? Thankfully not.
Drink the wine, and leave quickly when you're done drinking. You've talked and laughed, but I'm sad. Please leave quickly.
Cheers? How long do you want to talk about? Let me say something polite and let him go.
I don't want to listen to your current habits, I don't want to listen to your wife, I don't want to hear anything to share, you're no longer my student, I don't have to be responsible for you anymore.
"Excuse me, can you go out?"
Go to his mutual sharing, can you understand how I feel right now? Disturbers.
"Get out, get out, don't say it, get out!" Get me out of here right away!! "
Quiet.
Am I doing something wrong? No, it's his fault. Go to his disturber. Hey, him.
He turned up his voice again. I didn't do it right. What should I do? Apologize to him. No way.
But then there was no chance. Go for it, but...
"Bang!"
It was the sound of gunfire. Don't? ......
02
The day my wife left me, I had already decided. Before today, if anyone succeeds in convincing me, I'll take off this damn ring.
But today has arrived. I thought there would be a miracle, but I wasn't very good at convincing.
I love lively music. The sound of gunfire may be abrupt.
Who's knocking? Is it an angel?
It turned out to be a teacher, and I was going to try to talk to him twice. I was ecstatic and somewhat incoherent.
No, teacher, you can't go back, let me go to your room.
Try to say something, don't stop, try to say something.
"Look at this room, it's bigger than my room. You're not waiting for anyone else. What a coincidence today, you say? Hahaha. 10 years, can you believe it? Time flies, you should teach me when I go to school. Time can't be repeated, and there's no 'early knowing'. "
It's nice to have a drink with you. It turned out to be really angels.
Don't talk, hurry up and say something, anything is fine.
Cheers! We could sit and talk, talk all the time, drink.
He finally spoke to me.
"You know, this, what I'm holding in my hand, is a habit I've had recently, because of my wife, and I don't think I can call her anymore."
Teacher, don't do this. I thought we were sharing, yes, I'm not responsible for you, I just want to talk. Hold on a little longer, and hopefully you'll change your mind.
Teacher, please don't drive me away, please, no, no, all right.
Today is still here.
Very happy, or I like music.
Good bye.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" >* Who is bothered by whom? Who can save whom? *</h1>
The short film "BLACK SWELL", also known as "Disturbed Suicide" and "Darker Than night", the whole film is less than 8 minutes, and the ending is lamentable.
A middle-aged man prepares to commit suicide quietly at the motel, but the sound of rock next door disturbs him, knocking on the door to find that he is a former student. The students tried desperately to reminisce with the teacher and share the grief of their separation from their wives, but the teacher was absent-minded and eventually angrily drove the students away. Just as the teacher was calming down, there was a gunshot next door.
I thought that the teacher's suicide was disturbed, and this interruption may be a kind of salvation;
But it turns out that the teacher is the real disturber, and this disturbance is actually a kind of harm.
We lament because teachers and students could have redeemed each other, and the fate of the two was changed in one thought. But if the story were to be repeated, would the ending really be the way we wanted it to be?
Lonely people, there is no life-saving straw. The so-called hope is the last straw that crushes the lonely.
"I can't call her a wife anymore" . His wife abandoned him, which is why he wanted to commit suicide. The wedding ring may be his only companion.
"I like lively music". He doesn't really like to be noisy, but because rock and roll can make him feel like he is in the middle of the hustle and bustle, so as to blind his lonely heart.
"Sorry, I thought we could share with each other". He opened a door for the teacher, but the teacher ruthlessly closed the door.
"Let's put on a blanket." He wanted to leave alone and didn't want to involve anyone.
"I'm no longer responsible for you." He only wants to be responsible for himself, and everything in the outside world has nothing to do with him.
Silence is a ritual. Quiet suicide means peaceful departure, and quiet makes loneliness.
Escape from loneliness and the pursuit of loneliness collide with each other in the same time and space, and the ending is bound to be a tragedy.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > * You are not the loneliest, there are always people who are more unfortunate *</h1>
"Instant reversal" is the subtlety of this short film.
The kind image, unhurried movements, polite conversation and sad expression let us see the teacher's kind heart and sad heart, which is in stark contrast to the student's chattering and self-righteous image.
This leads us to preconceived notions that the teacher is the weaker party, and that the student has no emotional intelligence, is an annoying role, is the object of criticism, so that in the later stages, the teacher's emotional outburst becomes completely understandable and acceptable.
But does someone who seems enthusiastic have to be happy?
How many people don't laugh in the workplace during the day and cry in the bed at night? Sometimes smiling faces are nothing more than a profession.
And how many people, laughing and laughing, cried. Sometimes a smiley face is just a makeup.
Lonely people have their own quagmire. ——Zhang Ailing
What is a swamp? A situation in which you can't extricate yourself. The more you try to break free, the deeper you sink.
Everyone has their own outward personality, but you can't speculate about his past and heart.
The depth of their own mud is only known to themselves.
We will never be the most unfortunate people in the world, because the swamp can be bottomless.
Don't think of yourself as the loneliest, because even the quagmire of the people around you, you are not sure that you can explore the depth.
So, when you are in a bad mood and someone comes to tell you your heartfelt feelings, will you still hesitate?
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > * the essence of loneliness predestins a person's loneliness throughout life*</h1>
01 Psychological loneliness is loneliness in the narrow sense
Loneliness is not loneliness.
Alone to see the wind, flowers and snow, just lonely; bustling but no one understands me, is lonely.
The feeling of being ostracized by a group, not being able to integrate into the environment, not being liked by those around you, and not having a channel to talk to – this is the definition of loneliness given by Social Psychology. And loneliness can be contagious, when the people around you are lonely, you have a greater probability of feeling lonely.
Psychologist Redenburg mentioned in his paper that loneliness reminds people to look for social connections. What is not easy to detect is that loneliness can make people perceive others with a negative attitude. For example, a lonely person is more likely to use negative words to evaluate his partner or roommate.
So it's not hard to understand why the teacher in the short film looks at the student with the eyes of a "disturber."
But how can loneliness be so easily defined by theory? Psychologists are talking about only the tip of the lonely iceberg.
02 Leaving the world, but not taking away loneliness
Life has never existed alone. Whether we are born, we grow, we fall in love, or we succeed or fail, until the end, loneliness exists like a shadow in a corner of life. - "One Hundred Years of Solitude"
One Hundred Years of Solitude is about the Maconites who spent a century trying to get rid of the loneliness of ignorant politics, but their efforts ultimately proved two things:
Everyone is lonely.
Loneliness will accompany us throughout our lives, and we can even inherit and inherit.
Each character in the book has its own role positioning and personality characteristics, and also undergoes the baptism of different fates and goes to different endings.
This shows that each of us is born different and follows our own path in life. Everyone's appearance, body shape, thoughts, beliefs, and hearts are very different, and there is no empathy in the world. Their own value judgments, perceptual experiences, and emotional emotions are not personally experienced by anyone but themselves. From this point of view, life is destined to be lonely.
One of the 100 loneliest people in the world, his name is Vincent van Gogh
In 1890, the world fell into his wheat field.
No amount of beautiful language can depict Van Gogh's art and life.
The intrigue of the painting circle made Van Gogh feel the loneliness behind the prosperity. He began to drink heavily, and his works became more and more gorgeous, even dizzy and distorted.
No one can really understand his paintings. Even after his death, his paintings were bought one after another and given a variety of meanings, which did not mean that people had the ability to understand the paintings.
This is Van Gogh's loneliness.
In the movie "Beloved Van Gogh The Mystery of the Starry Sky", the crowd cannot hide Van Gogh's loneliness and otherness. He kept painting, writing in the wind and rain, flying in the wheat fields, he loved solitude, he enjoyed solitude, loneliness from another world.
Why is it so difficult for us to understand the nature of loneliness?
Because the essence of loneliness is the inability to understand itself.
Starry Sky – Van Gogh
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > * distance, is a good medicine for loneliness *</h1>
01 The Law of the Hedgehog
In winter, two hedgehogs snuggle and sleep. However, they are not comfortable sleeping. If they get too close, the thorns on their bodies will prick each other; if they lean too far, they will shiver with cold. As a result, they gradually adjusted their distance from each other, neither touching each other, but also warming each other.
This is the "psychological distance effect," also known as the hedgehog rule.
Two people's hearts are too close, may "invade" each other's privacy; too far away, may not feel each other's friendship. Just like the earth and the sun, only if the distance is just right, the earth can revolve around the sun.
Whether it is between leaders and subordinates, parents and children, between husband and wife, or between friends, we must master the "psychological distance". For the lonely, measuring distance is building bridges with society.
02 Take the initiative to go
We always have the habit of thinking that the lonely person is lonely because no one cares about him, or he rejects the care of others. So, we always try to give care, or try to open the heart of the lonely.
But if a lonely person can take the initiative to understand others and live in the atrium of others, will he still be lonely?
There are so many lonely people in the world because they don't have the courage to take the first step. - 91st Academy Awards for Best Picture "Green Book"
Taking the initiative to take the initiative and shorten the distance between the soul may be a way for the lonely person to save himself.
03 Be with loneliness
People who can talk to themselves will never feel lonely. —Maxwell Marz
Loneliness has always been seen as a negative word. But some people say that successful people are lonely.
If loneliness is inevitable, it is better to be with him.
Everyone has loneliness, but not everyone can enjoy it.
If you see the loneliness of the heart, please do not abandon it, perhaps only it can accompany you for a lifetime.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" > *conclusion*</h1>
This document is for all lonely people who love life.
We are born lonely, and we die lonely, and loneliness will accompany us throughout our lives.
"Incomprehension" is the essence of loneliness.
Don't think of yourself as the loneliest and most unfortunate, don't be deceived by the appearance of others, cherish everything in front of you, and believe that everything is the best arrangement.
Finally, a tribute to loneliness.