Mr. You Jianwen was born in 1989 in a hospital in Yangpu District, Shanghai, with a charming, exquisite and interesting appearance, and a very sincere attitude, like a special object.
When I first met him, he was still a cute little fat man on the varsity debate team, and then he dropped out of school unexpectedly, traveled the world for a year, volunteered in India, went to Kenya to volunteer, and passed by tanks on the streets of Syria, and when he returned, he became the gold medal lecturer of New Oriental.
Later, it became what it is now - the most positive "cult leader" in the travel industry, with going out to play as its main business, while carrying out writing, filming, photography, taking girlfriends out to play and many other side businesses, and also selling a red wine by the way. By the way, my girlfriend is a picturesque fashion blogger. This year, he also went to get a hair transplant, and the idol burden is very heavy.
<h1>I hung up 278 lessons</h1>
In my junior year, I retaken, hung up, and retaken 18 subjects, and I was in a desperate mood. In fact, I still tried to read books in my freshman year, but I still hung up 5 of the 6 courses. So in the second semester, I simply started giving up on myself and didn't go to class, and at the end of the semester, the counselor called and asked, "Yu Jianwen, do you want to quit?" I said, "No." He said, "Then why did I count you skipping 278 lessons this semester?" 「......」
Later, some people talked to me and chatted, but it still did not change my deep distrust of education. Until the second half of my junior year, under pressure from all sides, I locked myself in a small dark room for a month, except for going out in the sun to buy something to eat, going out for a walk in the middle of the night, doing nothing, so I spent a month to pass all the exams.
However, life is not getting better, and I still feel very uncomfortable with the whole way of education. Because Chinese education is to shape everyone into the same, there will be no too out of line people, and my natural desire for freedom is completely unsuitable for this way of education.
In my senior year, many people around me found the direction of the future, whether it was internships or graduate school, but I didn't know what I should do. During that time, I would often ask people about their work, which is strange to think about now, similar to the mother always asking her daughter, "Is there an object?" "Do you have a boyfriend?" "And so on.
But that's exactly what I'm confused about, because what most people tell me is: work is boring, boring, exhausting, and meaningless. This is a rather paradoxical question, and if it is so painful, why continue? It's similar to why you would eat it if you knew it was.
I don't know if most people are in a hurry to find a job.
I don't know if most people do something they don't like for the sake of life.
I don't know if most people will continue like this later in life.
I don't know if such a life is too long for people to become a real dead dog.
I also don't know if people who do not like work will be really happy to take a few selfies and food photos once in a while.
I don't know a lot of things, I'm not sure, so I'm scared. I am afraid that once I rush to a road, I will never be able to turn back, I will have no choice, and I am also afraid that once I choose the wrong direction, I can only repeat some things that I don't like to do every day, and every day when I go home, I can't even think of something else and go to sleep.
At that time, I was a stupid person, but also a naïve person, when I was idle at home and had nothing to do, I often did a stupid thing, that is, I would open the search engine and enter keywords such as "how to find the direction of life, how to succeed, how to establish life goals", of course, most of the results are some bullshit and logical confusion of the soul chicken soup.
I just remember that it was a night in October 2011, when Ah Hua walked into Xiao You's room, Ah Hua was my mother, but I used to call her Ah Hua and call my father Yu Ge.
Ah Hua: "I feel like you've been thinking about it lately." “
Xiao You: "Well, I have something I want to tell you." ”
Ah Hua: "You beast, are you making people's stomachs bigger outside?" “
Xiao You: "Fuck, fart, it's like this, I'm not going to read this book." ”
Aw: "Oh... yes? ”
Xiao You: "It's not interesting, I can't do philology in the future, this is a waste of time for me." ”
Ah Hua: "Then what are you going to do?" ”
Xiao You: "I'm going to travel outside, I want to see how other people live." ”
Ah Hua: "How long?" ”
Xiao You: "One year." ”
The next week I submitted my withdrawal application to the school, and a big mom teacher like the director of the teaching office appeared and said, "Oh, don't you quit school!" The matter of dropping out of school, the family did not have much opinion, but instead suffered some obstacles from the big mother and teacher.
So there were three brief conversations between us, and I invited her to dinner and said, "I beg you, let me drop out of school!" Fortunately, I conquered the teacher with my sincere attitude and charming appearance, and successfully dropped out of school.
<h1>Find a teammate, find a group of pig teammates</h1>
People are social animals, an individual's fear of loneliness is instinctive, especially when a person wants to do something that has never been done before, or a difficulty coefficient coefficient, a risky thing, this is particularly obvious, just think about the time when you did bad things when you were a child, you often like to find a partner, which is a bit similar to girls who like to hold hands in the toilet.
So I also feel the need to find a girl to go to the toilet hand in hand, oh no, it's a trip together... First, I reached out my grip to a hairy little one. This small surname Li, English name te, we have known since childhood, play together, when I was a child, I often formed a team to spy on female classmates, paired up after school to go to internet cafes, in short, nothing to do. Later, Xiao Lizi's family immigrated to the United States, and since then I have become a lonely family.
That day, I saw his QQ avatar lit up, I remember very clearly, the night black wind is high, ten o'clock, I clicked on his avatar, with the QQ shake function to shake him, he also shook me, just like this, two men in the middle of the night, shaking each other for two rounds, produced some very interesting feelings, and then there was such a dialogue:
Xiao You: "Little Plum, are you there?"
Little Plum: "I'm here, lol." What's the matter?"
Xiao You: "That's right, I want to make a trip, a group of people gather in Yunnan, through South Asia, India, into the Middle East, and finally arrive in Africa, how do you see?" Isn't that interesting? We go all the way to the west, although it is not a good place, but you see is not very much like the modern version of the Journey to the West, you play the Tang monk, I play the Eight Precepts, we go all the way back to the west, oh no, all the way to the west, is it full of romanticism?" 」
Little Plum: "Yeah."
Xiao You: "So what are you still hesitating about?!"
Xiao Lizi: "But I have been pursuing a girl lately, and I have been chasing her for a long time, and now if I leave, it will not be a failure."
Little Plum finally explained the reason for his twisting and pinching. So I called him, and the first thing I said, "Little Plum, since the first time I saw you when I was young, I knew that you TM was an ambitious person."
There was silence on the other end of the phone, and I thought there was a drama, and then I said, "Little plum, your pattern is too small!" I pretended to be deep and said, "You have a more introverted personality since childhood, not extroverted enough, we can just better shape your personality, and you think, we have been all the way, so many countries that are not three or four, oh no, so many interesting countries, girls from all over the world have everything, are you afraid of not finding a girl in the hostel?" You believe me, follow the big brother to the world, there will be, if you still don't find it at that time, Lao Tzu I video live cut off my hands!" 」
He was silent for a long time, and I thought about it, and it was really strange. Then Xiao Lizi spoke: "How did you cut off your hands, after you cut off one hand, how do you use the remaining hand to hold the knife and cut off your own hand?"
The next week, Xiao Lizi submitted a suspension application to the school and bought a plane ticket to China. The last to accompany them were three people, two men and one woman.
The only girl in the team is called Wei Wei, who runs a Taobao shop by herself, saves some money, her parents are more strictly controlled, and the overall appearance is a small fresh, but the appetite is very large.
This woman is a strange woman, she has two biggest advantages, one is the big legs of the white flowers (in India can attract fire); the other is her earth-shattering ability to lie, when she took all her savings, secretly handled all the materials to prove, and even stole the household registration book, and finally before leaving, she told her parents that she must participate in the field internship organized by the school next semester, and after the internship, she will go to Shandong with her classmates to play a circle, and she will not be able to go home for half a year.
I admired her, I always thought that I had made the Middle East into Europe has been very good, but I did not expect her to say that the Middle East and her family said that it was Shandong, and I was instantly admired.
The two boys are apprentices, Top and Xiaobai, but they don't go all the way. Top is a very strange person, loves to read, has a cleanliness habit, and is also a topic terminator, because whenever everyone talks about an interesting topic, he can always coldly come up with the sentence ""xxxxx" The book also discussed similar issues", whenever this situation occurs, it is easy to be cold, and in this case, Top will take care of the content of the book and the author's life to introduce us, although we know that he did not deliberately "drop the bag", But everyone still hates this guy's "vices".
Xiao Bai, the youngest one, but if you still use your age to measure a person's mental skills in the 21st century, it is doomed to die a very tragic death. When you first know Xiao Bai, you will be deceived by his clean and handsome appearance, and he plays various kind roles in the TV series "Real Life" with a harmless face, but this person is really a black belly, and there is endless negative energy hidden behind the smiling expression.
But The main reason why Top, Xiaobai, and I can become friends is that we have a common hobby, that is, to use vicious words full of negative energy to satirize each other and ridicule each other.
So, a group of psychologically twisted people formed this travel team together. The night before the departure, Mr. You remembered the many ambitions he heard when he was a child, when the classmates were very simple, no one wanted to be rich, but there would be people who wanted to be scientists, some people who wanted to be supermen, some people who wanted to be prime ministers, some people who wanted to change the world...
When he was young, Mr. You's biggest dream was to become a taxi driver, when he wanted to drive really well, and he didn't have to pay for going around the world. Forgive the superficial he didn't know that cars needed to burn oil. In 2011, Mr. You did not become a driver, but he began to walk the world.
(Omitting the 100,000 words of visas to get hair loss here... ）
<h1>We headed west</h1>
(Mother house, India)
The year I went out has changed a lot for me, especially in India. There is a very famous nun in India, Teresa, who was the winner of the 1979 Nobel Peace Prize, and she founded a very famous NGO organization in India, the House of Mercy. We went there to volunteer, and the conditions were extremely harsh, and the place where the boys were assigned to work was called the Dying House, mainly to care for the dying patients.
On the first day I got there, an elder told me not to be surprised by what kind of patientS I see tomorrow. I said, "No, I'm mentally good." But even with this mental preparation, when I went to work the next day, the scene still broke my psychological defenses.
The first patient I cared for, he did not have a good skin on his body, full of pustules, and even some of the pustules also had pustules on them, which became a bag within a bag, and we called him Brother Bao. When I took care of Brother Bao, he was already delirious, and after about five or six days, Brother Bao died and left me. It was the first patient to die under my hands, so I was sad.
Not long after, I had my second patient, who was even more miserable, a taxi driver who had his calf amputated in a traffic accident and had burns on his body and a wound on his calf that had not been treated. I've been having a high fever since I came, and we don't have good medical equipment.
While taking care of him, he kept talking about dreams, and it didn't take long for him to die and leave me. Two people died under my hands in a row, and the psychological pressure was great, and then my third patient was ushered in.
The third is even more miserable, he is sleeping at home, his son is playing with gas at home, he successfully detonated himself, and when he woke up, the fire was already a mess, they lived on the third floor, the fire ladder could not even reach the height of the third floor, and there was only one choice: jump. Everyone was downstairs shouting, "Jump! jump!！」 He wanted to jump and didn't dare to jump, anyway, he jumped, and when he jumped down, there was something like a metal fence in the neighborhood, and his abdomen was hanging on it. When it was sent, there was also a large area of burns, and there were still large wounds in the abdomen, and finally not many days later, the burn brother was also gone. On the last day of his death, he managed to pull out his own small intestine, which we later helped him stuff in.
I had never encountered anything like this, nor had I done any medical training, and in this case my heart was broken. Then one day, I was having a tea chat with the nun who worked there.
Me: "Sister Nun, how many volunteers do you see on our side?"
Her: "There are more than a hundred of them."
Me: "Then how many patients do you see here?"
Her: "There are about a hundred of them!"
Me: "Do you think ten of these people can return to normal social life under our care?"
Her: "It's going to be hard."
Me: "What about the 5?"
She: "Not really."
Me: "What about one or two?"
Her: "One or two are still hopeful."
I said, "You see, the investment of 100 people is only exchanged for the possibility of one or two people returning to society, don't you think that the cost and benefit are disproportionate?" The nun laughed at me, and I didn't understand why she was laughing, so she said, "What do you think of me?"
She said, "Xiao You, let me ask you a question, if you are a patient, at the end of your life, do you want someone to accompany you through the end, or do you want someone to die alone in an angle that no one knows?" I said, "Of course someone was with me." She said, "Yeah, you're their hero in this case."
One thing I understood right now is that when we were young, we always did things that didn't work out, like a fruitless relationship, something that you knew wouldn't change even if you did. But even so, we did it anyway, because we could at least reduce some of the pain for those who were already miserable.
<h1>Toilet water in Syria is really not drinkable</h1>
Then we moved on to the Middle East. Previously, we had seen media reports about the Middle East about the war and poverty there. We went to two places in the Middle East, Syria and Lebanon, and when we first arrived, we thought everything was fine, just looking at the pictures, we might even think it was Europe, we thought it would be smooth, but often the tragedy came very suddenly.
When I went to Syria, it was the eve of the war, and the whole country was in a state of tension. After entering Syria for the third day, martial law was imposed throughout the country and all banks shut down the use of credit cards abroad.
At that time, there was also a situation, my little plum had a high fever of 39 degrees, and it burned for three consecutive days. On the first day in Syria, I said to him, "Don't worry, tomorrow if you still don't have a fever, I'll go get money to see you." At that time, the rent was only paid for one day, and after paying, there was only $12 left on the body, and there was no money.
(Fever, almost a little plum that has no return)
The next day I went out desperately to find a bank, walked on the road to find very few people, and when I inadvertently turned left, I saw something that we called a "tank." The man sitting in the tank looked at me, and I looked at him, and then I pretended nothing had happened, turned and walked away silently to continue looking for the bank.
I found a lot of banks and didn't withdraw money, and finally found an open bank, and I said, "My credit card can't be used, my friend is sick, I don't have cash on me, and the house is about to expire, what should I do?" He said, "There's no way." I said, "According to your logic, am I the only one waiting to die here?" He thought for a moment and said, "Yeah!" 「......」
At this time, I had to go back to the landlord and say, "Can you let me stay here for two more days?" I have here a package of China's best cigarettes Red Double Happiness, for you." He threw us out without saying a word.
Two and a half days before we flew to our next destination, Egypt, I used the money I had left to find a driver and take us to the damascus airport, where we were going to survive, probably the most unfortunate years of my life.
The first problem at the airport is the problem of eating, everyone only has a total of 1 dollar or more, no money to buy anything, can only go to the toilet faucet to pick up water to drink. Of course, healthy people can drink water for a few days, but we still have patients, and if we don't eat, we may not be able to stay up for so long, and I have to find a way to get him to stay up until he goes to Egypt to see a doctor.
(Lebanon)
I observed that a lot of people would bring food while waiting for the plane, so I had a small idea, and I set my sights on four Middle Easterners who brought roast chicken. I went and talked to them and talked about some crap like, "Are you married, where are you going, you're so handsome." One of the Middle Easterners probably saw my intentions, but he kept pretending to be stupid and wouldn't answer, but I thought that if I didn't open my mouth again, my little friend would die.
So I pointed to the two chickens and asked one of the stupidest questions of my life: "Huh?" What is this thing?" They looked at me like, "Where is this mad dog from?" After all, there is no one who does not know chickens, and I don't dress like I came out of a slum.
These Middle Easterners, under my brazen chase, finally pulled a chicken leg and said to me, "Take it." But I was thin-skinned and shy, "No, no, no." "Take it!" "No, you don't." "Take it." "Thank you!"
In this way, a short and fat man with a chicken leg came to the small partner through the waiting hall in a furious manner. I patted him and said, "Wake up, wake up." Take out the chicken leg and say, "What do you think this is?" He said, "Isn't that a chicken leg?" Where did it come from?" I said, "Forget all this, eat." Then he ate the chicken thighs in three bites and two bites, and finally a few shredded meat sticks left and asked me, "Do you want to taste them?" I swallowed and said, "No, you can eat it!" Over the next two days, I went to eat several more times, and I spent my last few days in the Middle East.
It's wonderful isn't it, it's not the best yet.
On Thursday, the second half of the article, Tong Soo is not deceived, and he stayed up late to write it!
Author: Installer Editor: Sauce Vinegar Tea, Dai Boss Vision: Little Crab