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Editorial Comrades:
My ex-husband was unable to have children and I adopted a baby girl with him during the marriage. Later, due to the breakdown of the relationship, we agreed to divorce and agreed that the girl would live with her ex-husband, and I would not bear the cost of maintenance. Soon, the man remarried. A few years later, the man offered me maintenance in the name of his adopted daughter.
It was his problem that required the adoption of a child, and the adopted daughter is now 6 years old and sees me like a stranger, a stranger. May I ask: Can I terminate an adoption relationship with my adopted daughter?
so-and-so
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Comrade so-and-so:
Your adopted daughter is only 6 years old and is a minor. You cannot propose to dissolve the adoption relationship with your adopted daughter and at the same time have to bear part of the maintenance of your adopted daughter.
Article 26 of China's Adoption Law stipulates that the adopter may not terminate the adoption relationship before the adoptee reaches adulthood, except for the termination of the adopter's agreement to send the adopter, and if the adopted child reaches the age of 10 or more, the consent of the adopter shall be obtained.
According to the letter, you are a girl who was jointly adopted by husband and wife in marriage, and since the date of the establishment of the adoption relationship, you have formed a relationship of rights and obligations between the adoptive parents and the adopted children with the adopted daughter, which has also formed the relationship of rights and obligations between the parents and the children stipulated in the Marriage Law of our country.
According to the Marriage Act, an agreement or judgement on the child's living expenses and educational expenses shall not prevent the child from making reasonable demands to one of the parents if necessary in excess of the amount originally agreed upon in the agreement or judgment.
Now that the adopted daughter has offered you to pay maintenance, you should pay the corresponding maintenance according to the local standard of living until the adopted daughter reaches adulthood.
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The civil code is new, and the applicable law should be different, but the principles will obviously not change.
However, it is really too difficult for a person to raise a child who is neither related to himself nor has feelings, and is probably not reciprocated.
So – I've always been against adoption, and of course against surrogacy.
Most people come into contact with adoptions, most of which are nothing more than hearing that a neighbor has adopted a child, or that relatives from their previous generation have been adopted.
It is true that in life, I have encountered many people who do not want to have children after divorce.
Originally, Chinese adopted children or do artificial fertilization, it was often a man who could not give birth.
Leaving, the woman went to raise this child, not willingly - she was still unable to have a child of her own.
Many men don't want to raise them. Many of their children are widowed, let alone adopted.
In particular, many of China's adoptions are "private adoptions," which are illegal, unregistered, and even more chaotic.
Adults get divorced for a long time, but children need to eat at any time.
George Eliot's novel The Biography of Manan the Weaver:
There was a big young master who was chaotic and abandoned, and later after getting married, he had no children for a long time.
He was about to go to the priest to adopt a child, but his wife stopped him: God has his own arrangements.
The matter of childbirth is also providential, if not, there is no, I do not approve of adoption and surrogacy.