Author: Number One Emotion
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In real life, the frequent outbreak of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions is inseparable from a kind of cross-border relationship between each other, especially those who live together, and some contradictions cannot be avoided.
Therefore, many young people will no longer live with their parents after marriage, but there will always be some people who have to live with their parents for various reasons, and it is normal to have friction and contradictions with their elders in the process of getting along day and night.
Of course, there are also discordant people from the beginning, especially the minds of two people are very sensitive, and a little discomfort may cause an outbreak.
Case:
Wei Shan was deeply troubled by the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, fortunately, she herself knew how to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, otherwise on the first day of marriage, she might make the family chickens and dogs restless.
On the first day of Wei Shan's marriage to Yang Haibao, her heart itself was very nervous, and she was going to be separated from her parents, and the taste in her heart was even more mixed, and the most important thing was that she had to live with her in-laws after marrying, which she was originally a little dissatisfied with.
At first, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law chatted very harmoniously, but when it came to cooking, Wei Shan made it clear that she could not cook, and she had not learned it at home before, and she could also feel the surprise of her mother-in-law.
Probably knowing that Wei Shan can't cook, the mother-in-law hinted at the dinner table that she should be more diligent, after all, she is not in a single state now, and since she is married, she should have eyesight.
The mother-in-law said it very cryptically, but for Wei Shan, who was sensitive in her mind, she heard the unspoken meaning of the mother-in-law as soon as she heard it. Especially when she heard that her mother-in-law was going to let her clean the dishes, she knew very well that if she compromised, she would definitely be diligent in the future, but she was obviously not such a person.
So Wei Shan hinted that her husband hurried to wash the dishes, this move was also looked at by the mother-in-law, at this time the mother-in-law took the initiative to clean up the dishes, she also saw Guo Shan's character, since then the two people have been very careful to get along, and never red face.
Case Study:
To tell the truth, Wei Shan's approach is very wise, neither directly rejecting the mother-in-law's request, but also not doing what she does not like to do, and this matter also allows the mother-in-law relationship to maintain a balance, providing a lot of effective information for future getting along.
If Wei Shan rejects her mother-in-law from her own mind, it is bound to cause unnecessary friction and contradictions, and the next time we get along will definitely be very unpleasant, and using this method to skillfully resolve, the mother-in-law is also aware of her attitude, and she does not feel offended, and the next relationship will naturally be much smoother.
Or Wei Shan directly chose to give in, which is actually a very bad choice, because this will arouse the mother-in-law's desire to control herself, and then wei Shan will be pinched as a soft persimmon, and the family will inevitably be made into a miasma.
So, how should the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship in real life get along?
In fact, whether it is a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, you should find a position that suits you, and make each other look particularly comfortable and maintain a balanced state.
As a daughter-in-law, do not choose to be patient for the sake of marriage, after all, marriage is not a process of losing yourself, if you can't find a suitable position for yourself, sooner or later there will be contradictions, which will eventually lead to the breakdown of marriage.
As a mother-in-law, don't deliberately make it difficult for your daughter-in-law, you must naturally develop a harmonious mode of getting along, let alone give it a way to get off the horse, otherwise the next relationship will definitely develop in a bad direction.
Therefore, the most critical thing to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to pay understanding and respect, no matter when we must keep these two points in mind, as long as two people can do it, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can reach the most harmonious state, so the family will become happier, and everything will develop in a better and better direction.