There are not many rural bachelors at present, and many people are accustomed to calling these people "single sticks", but I personally think it is inappropriate, because there are a large number of young people, who have either not yet married their daughters-in-law, or they have not yet planned to marry a daughter-in-law.
However, one thing we cannot deny is that some young men of the right age, that is, young men who have reached the age of marrying a daughter-in-law, are single.
This makes many people very distressed. Because in the countryside, if you are a boy and have not yet married a daughter-in-law when you reach the age, not only will your face be dull, but your parents will also feel inferior. Parents also have peers, their peers, the children of the family are married to the daughter-in-law, but their own children are still single.
This will make them feel that they have failed in life and are inferior to others.
Therefore, for a rural family, marrying a daughter-in-law is not only a matter of one person, but even related to the whole family.
There are many young men who say that they are not panicked, but in fact, they are more panicked than anyone else. But marrying a daughter-in-law can't be a hot thing to shave your head, it doesn't work to just panic yourself, you have to have a girl who is willing to marry, so that you can get out of the single ranks.
Therefore, many young men will ask, I am a rural bachelor, how to change myself, in order to successfully marry a daughter-in-law?
The black sister-in-law has been living in the countryside, and here I would like to express my opinion.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="51" > I.: Wisdom eats wisdom, no wisdom eats</h1>
Rural elderly people often say a phrase called settling down, that is, if people live for a lifetime, you must have a foundation for settling down, and you must have a livelihood to support yourself and your family.
Therefore, there is wisdom to eat wisdom, and wisdom to eat.
What does this sentence mean? That is, what you do, then do what you do, don't force yourself to do what you can't do or are not familiar with.
Some people have the ability to do business, then do some business, some people have the ability to breed, then breed. If there is none of this, then it is safe to work in the land, which is also a way of life, as long as you sink your heart, you can also earn a lot of money by working now.
However, some people do not think so, and this kind of person is generally low-eyed, has illusions, and has weak execution.
What's going on with these people? First of all, I fantasized that I would eventually make a fortune, and I was different from others. Since it is different, then ordinary people can not do work themselves, for example, ordinary people are working, then they can not work, otherwise how to appear different from them? At the same time, these people are lazy, and they are not willing to work.
However, these people do not have the ability to execute, or they do not have the ability to execute.
For example, some people say that they have what skills they have, how much money they invest, and how much money they can make.
It's okay, but where does the money for this investment come from? The method they take is to sit at home and wait, wait for someone to discover their talents, and then come to invest, others pay for it, come up with their own ideas, and jointly embark on the road to prosperity.
It's just a joke, a young man sitting in the countryside, what good idea do you have? Still waiting for someone else to invest? Who will invest in you?
And this kind of person has a problem, that is, complaining every day, complaining that they were not born in a good family, complaining that they do not have good relatives, complaining that they do not have a good platform.
If there is a good family, then you will have money to invest in yourself, if you have good relatives, you will invest in yourself, and if you have a good platform to find yourself, you can show your talent.
There are many talented people in this world, and they need strong execution and the accumulation of the beginning. Instead of sitting at home every day complaining and waiting.
Therefore, anyone who has this kind of thinking has watched others marry their wives, but they themselves cannot marry. Who now marries their daughter to someone who only talks about rhetoric?
This needs to be changed, another way of thinking, another way of living.
For example, I feel that I have a good idea, well, I go to work to earn money, I go to do something else to earn money, for this idea, I can suffer a lot, I can eat a lot of tiredness.
After accumulating money, I still feel that this idea is OK, then I invest in myself, of course, it is very good, I can't do it, it should be a lesson, and then I can do the work within my ability, which is called change.
Any down-to-earth child is a plus when marrying a daughter-in-law.
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In fact, many people find their own way when working, which requires enriching themselves when working.
In fact, to put it bluntly, it is still necessary to learn when working, which requires you to plan your own life, such as what you want to do in this life, what you want to do in the end, whether part-time work is your own way of survival for a while, or prepare for a lifetime of part-time work.
If it is only temporary, then there is a need for subsequent life planning. For example, some people say that I want to do business in the future, but I need to work first to save money, which is OKAY. Some people say that I want to make a difference in architecture in my life, so I learn everything on the construction site when I work, as long as I learn it, it will be useful after all, but it takes time to precipitate.
So, at any time, it's important to enrich yourself and learn to plan.
Planning is about every aspect of a person's life.
Some people have no plan at all, and they don't know what they want to do next year today, and it is completely decided when the matter is about to come.
Some people have no plan at all, earning fifty thousand a year, but spending sixty thousand, not accumulating money, and not thinking about how they will marry their daughters-in-law in the future.
If this continues, will the daughter-in-law come upside down?
There are indeed upside-down stickers, but how many are there? Don't do such daydreams yourself, prepare yourself first, so that you can not panic when it is possible to marry a daughter-in-law, and you can't help yourself.
For example, if someone wants to get married, they want nothing, they want to borrow everywhere, and they can't borrow it, what do people do when they get married? To suffer? The ancients said to marry a man and marry a man, dress and eat. We can't say that marriage is too materialistic, but we must always be able to support ourselves and others, right?
A person in the village of Heijie, wandering around the village every day, doing nothing.
The old woman wanted to cook, to buy something, and in full view of everyone, he gave the old woman fifty cents.
Fifty cents, is there still someone who asks for money when buying food? Do you still want to give fifty cents at a time?
In fact, he couldn't do anything, because he didn't have any money.
No money to earn, not to go, to hang out at home every day, like this person, what is his plan? What are the plans? Nothing at all, not considered later.
Therefore, it will be very difficult for such a person to marry a daughter-in-law.
When you feel that you should marry your daughter-in-law, you must make corresponding changes, change your bad habits, plan more, learn to learn, be down-to-earth, and there will be women who will look up to you.
III.: Of course, it is a real problem that it is difficult to marry a daughter-in-law now, not to say that if you make some changes, you will marry your daughter-in-law immediately.
However, there are some bad habits that really need to be changed, and you must be prepared. Don't be prepared when things come, but you are not ready, then most of them will pass by the opportunity, and it will be too late to regret it at that time.
Finally, I sincerely wish that all the bachelors in the world can have a happy and happy home!