As a middle-aged person, do you often have a very aggrieved feeling?
In the workplace, there are some mistakes in the work, obviously not caused by you, but the boss can't help but accuse you.
In order to keep this job, I can only be silently scolded.
You can't quit like a young person who is unhappy with your job because you have a mortgage to pay off and a home to support.
Your work maintains the livelihood of the family, even if you are wronged, you are not qualified to be willful;
In the family, you have parents who are dying of old age, and children who are waiting to be fed.
Almost all of your time, energy, and money are given to your family.
I am reluctant to buy what I want, because I have to give priority to meeting the needs of my family;
In life, everyone has a time of collapse, and no one can withstand the pressure.
But as a middle-aged man, even the collapse has to pick time.
Middle-aged people must respect the elderly and love the young.
I really broke down, set an alarm for myself, and only allow myself to be wronged for 5 minutes.
Then it's time to sort out your emotions and start solving all sorts of problems.
Today we invited three middle-aged people after the 80s to see what kind of grievances and heartache they are experiencing in their lives.
Liu Kai, 38, is the head of operations of foreign companies
The company I am working for now is a foreign company with a monthly salary of 7,000 and a year-end bonus of one month's salary.
Maybe such a position and income, now many young people can not look at it.
After all, a look at the Internet, the per capita monthly salary is more than 10,000, and my monthly salary of thousands of yuan is indeed not enough to see.
But for a middle-aged man with a college degree like me, it was probably the best job I could find.
Therefore, in the workplace, I have to endure any grievances, and no matter how difficult it is, I must keep this job.
In this company, it took me seven years to go from being an ordinary employee to a supervisor.
As a small manager, people are soft-spoken.
Today's young people, who are not easy to manage and are not wronged, are a little dissatisfied and shout their resignation.
If there is any problem at work, the boss will only throw a tantrum at me and tell me to solve it quickly.
My job is customer service, and it takes 24 hours to have someone on duty online.
First, I stayed up for five years on the night shift, and the people who entered the company at the same time stayed up.
With no one competing, I was promoted and finally didn't have to stay up late.
But now young people feel that this work is bitter, and people often resign.
Occasionally, I couldn't recruit anyone, so my team leader had to work the night shift.
I mentioned to the leader:
Now young people have higher wage requirements, and there are night shift jobs, and they should add more money to recruit people.
The boss dismissed my request for a salary increase with the sentence "He doesn't do it, some people do it".
Wang Ting, 37 years old, corporate finance
It's time again for "feeling cold no matter how thick you wear it."
In my southern city, winter is always overcast, and there are droplets of water floating in the air that are a little heavier than fog.
At the beginning of the year, my in-laws fell ill and our plan to buy a car was cancelled.
When I went to work this winter, I still had to rely on my little electric motorcycle to make up for a while.
My husband said that winter is so wet and cold, riding a battery car in the morning is very hard, buy a winter coat that can withstand the cold.
A few days ago, the company issued a year-end bonus of 10,000 yuan.
I thought that since I hadn't bought a car, I would at least have to buy myself a warm new coat.
To be honest I haven't bought new clothes in a long time.
Like something, put in the shopping cart.
Until this product is off the shelves and expires, I am reluctant to buy it - my life, every day is repeating this unwillingness.
Now this cotton suit has been worn for three years and is no longer warm.
Buying a new one isn't a waste of money – I console myself so much.
While choosing clothes, my son sent a message to tell me: This exam, I took the sixth class.
His excitement can be seen in the text.
Because I had promised him that if I could get in the top ten for this exam, I would buy him the latest game console.
It's time for me to deliver on my promise.
My son worked hard and got good grades, and I was happy – but I also had to delete the winter coat I wanted to buy.
There are more than four thousand game consoles, and it is more than two thousand to buy gifts for both parents in the New Year.
The year-end bonus of 10,000 yuan has been divided up, and there is very little left.
In the evening, in order to celebrate my son's good results in the exam, our family ate hot pot in the restaurant that we had not seen for a long time.
The next day at work, the smell of hot pot was emanating from my clothes.
A young female colleague in her twenties next to her wrinkled nose and said:
"Sister Wang, I see that you only wear this coat all winter?"
Chen Cheng, 40 years old, salesman
Last month, the sales department "parachuted" a new supervisor, a post-90s master's degree, 29 years old.
Probably because I was young and ambitious, in my eyes, I was the "supervisor" of a small ass child, and I was dictatorial all day.
It seems that he is very dissatisfied with the sales of us who are about 40 years old.
At the last meeting, the post-90s supervisor said without naming names:
"Some colleagues in the department, who already have a mature and stable customer base, are eating the existing network dividends every month.
I don't know if you did this before, but it didn't work for me.
No matter how many customer bases you have, you can't forget to expand new customers.
Starting today, I would like to speak to my colleagues in the sales department
Otherwise, at the end of the year, those who should take the initiative to resign will take the initiative to resign. ”
When she returned home, she was accused by her wife of making too little money, leaving her with no face in front of her girlfriend.
Returning to my parents' house for the New Year, my parents said:
Who built a house for the family, who bought a car for the family, who changed the latest appliances to the family.
Listening to this is numb, just want to act as if I didn't hear it.
discuss:
As a middle-aged person, have you ever experienced unknown grievances in your life and work?
Do you feel that no one else can really understand you?
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