Chen Shan once wondered after divorcing Sun Lei: It wasn't like this before, why did Sun Lei and I become like this? After Lin Qingkun and Wu Min divorced, they also issued a similar exclamation: before they were all good, when did he and Wu Min become like this?
For Wu Min, a stay-at-home mother, what she wants is not how good the material conditions are, but to be respected by Lin Qingkun. But these are what Sun Lei gave her, it was Sun Lei who let her see that there were people who could respect and care for their families, and could always put their families first; and Sun Lei, who put his family in the first place, felt that his career was far less important than his family, so he would rather sacrifice his career that he could have achieved and put more time and energy into the family. From this point of view, Sun Lei and Wu Min actually have a lot in common.
But Chen Shan did not feel so, she hoped that Sun Lei could make achievements in his professional field, and she also hoped that Sun Lei, who was capable, could exert his due strength. Just like Chen Shan once confessed, she is more desperate to achieve self-worth outside, and Lin Qingkun is exactly like this, he feels that he is responsible for working hard outside to make money, and fully fulfills his responsibilities as a husband and father. Therefore, Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun are essentially the same, they are the kind of people who always put their work first.
I have to admit that like-minded people will always appreciate each other. This is true of Sun Lei and Wu Min, as is Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun. They all love their partners and understand their partners' difficulties, but at the same time they also need someone who is on the same frequency as themselves to communicate. In my opinion, it is not that there is no sense of boundaries, but that after maintaining a suitable distance from each other, they "warm" each other.