These two days in the chase drama "Three Lives Have the Luck to Meet You", near the end, there is a bridge section that really impressed me.
Wu Eleven was dragged to the bar by the Marquis and was pushed to the stage to sing without his knowledge. After a flurry and fruitless escape, she sang a song and was coaxed because she was out of tune.
She said: Because of the incomplete five tones, she has been inferior for nearly 30 years, and all the ridicule today has been received, but in fact, it is not so painful.
Saying this, she put down her baggage and flew herself, and the song behind her flew at will, and the song hall resounded with warm applause for her.
If it were you, would you have the courage?
In life, we always like to hide our imperfect side, rather than dare to show the parts of ourselves that we have done badly.
For example, if you can't sing well, do you dare to sing it out loud in front of everyone?
If someone booed you down, or even did something to you, are you afraid or not?
Teacher Zeng Qifeng once gave an example: someone sang karaoke in the park, and passers-by thought that his singing was too ugly, so they quarreled and beat the singing person to death in the chaos.
See, there's a reason for our anxieties and worries. When we behave badly and do not meet the standards of others, others will be very unbearable, will scold, and even kill us.
In fact, this initial fear comes from infancy. When we don't behave well, our mother's reaction makes us feel that if we can't obey our mother and don't do it according to her standards, we may be abandoned, we may die.
In fact, each of us grew up with imperfections. If we can't accept our imperfections all the time, we can't be true and complete, and there will be a lot of inner conflict.
Conflict is the source of mental illness.
Why can't we stand people who sing badly? Because it stirs up the fear in our subconscious, the shame that comes with singing badly to ourselves and the fear of being punished, this is the real reason why we can't stand right.
At this time, we are entangled with each other's personality and cannot maintain the independence of our own personality.
So Teacher Zeng Qifeng said: The person who sang karaoke in the public field should not be killed, he should be used as an example to learn.
His ability to live in harmony with his own imperfections and to allow the shame that comes with imperfections to accompany him shows that his personality is healthy, which is worth learning.
We are not aroused by the imperfections of others, fear of our own imperfections, and do not do things that hurt ourselves and others, which is also a sign of our personality's tendency to be independent.