On this day, Yan Xishan was in the house and his 17-year-old Xu Lansen warm quilt, suddenly heard the window glass was "slammed" a smash, he was about to scold, but heard his wife Xu Zhuqing's scolding first rushed over, so he quickly closed his mouth, hiding in the room and did not dare to come out!
It turned out that in the Great War of the Central Plains, Yan Xishan came out to take refuge, because of his poor health, he took the concubine Xu Lansen. Unexpectedly, when the eldest wife came to visit, she found that Xu Lansen's son did not care that he was called mother, and xu Lansen was called mother, so he was furious and smashed the glass.
The husband and wife were kind and loving, but they reluctantly agreed to take a concubine
Why did the child's name for himself make Xu Zhuqing so angry? This has to start with when Xu Lansen entered the door.
Yan Xishan and the eldest wife became husband and wife in their teens, the two families were right, and the two also raised their eyebrows, and their lives were loving. But the only regret is that Xu Zhuqing cannot have children.
Yan Xishan had gone abroad and felt that it was okay to have no children, but Yan Xishan's father was in a hurry. Every day, he urged his son to take a concubine and marry a second room.
However, at that time, Yan Xishan and Xu Zhuqing's relationship was quite good, and Yan Xishan was afraid that Xu Zhuqing would be upset and had not agreed to remarry.
So, Father Yan came up with an idea. He persuaded Xu Zhuqing to help Yan Xishan marry another woman, and the woman changed her surname to Xu, but only opened branches and leaves for the Yan family, and the children born called Xu Zhuqing's mother and her aunt.
This is equivalent to the Teng concubine who was married by the woman in ancient times, who was nominally a member of the Xu family and also helped Xu Zhuqing to do things.
Because he had no children, Xu Zhuqing could only agree in general, and the Xu family's parents also agreed to recognize this woman as a dry daughter.
Little girl is not simple
Since Gu Teng's concubines, there is no shortage of powerful characters, and the well-known Qi Bazi is not the empress dowager who started from the Teng concubine and finally ascended to the throne?
The concubine that Yan Xishan married was also not simple.
She was 17 years younger than Yan Xishan, and when she first entered the door, she was just a 14-year-old girl. However, her city government is extremely deep, everywhere is low and small, every New Year's Festival, always use her own monthly money to buy various gifts for the elders of the family and Xu Zhuqing, which is liked by everyone.
For Xu Zhuqing's words, no matter whether it is right or wrong, it is also obedient. Even for the people in the family, it is a small favor that makes everyone feel that this aunt is very kind.
Xu Zhuqing also felt that she was a reliable person, and since she had married home, she also advised Yan Xishan to go to her side more, and also helped the Yan family to renew the incense as soon as possible.
At first, Yan Xishan still felt a little sorry for Xu Zhuqing and was reluctant to go, but as time went on, the love between men and women was deep, and he also began to love the young Xu Lansen, and he was inseparable.
Xu Lansen
The son is the trump card for favors
Xu Lansen (Xu Lansen) is also a quarrel, and he gave birth to 5 belt handles for the Yan family in one breath, and he was happy to let Yan's father close his mouth.
With her son leaning over, the younger sister Xu Lansen had the capital to compete for favors, so she took advantage of the opportunity to accompany Yan Xishan to take refuge outside, and she became the "big wife" around Yan Xishan.
The people under her favor were reluctant to go to the old mansion to communicate with them, and gradually, Xu Lansen got Yan Xishan's acquiescence and asked the two young sons to call themselves "Mom".
For modern people, this may just be a title, for the past, this is a cross of identity!
In "Know It or Not", Minglan's mother-in-law did not dare to break the rules until she died, and let her daughter call herself "Mother", once she called, it was a bad duty and a major crime.
Xu Lansen asked his son to call himself "Mother", and Yan Xishan did not object, that is to say, by this time, Xu Lansen's position in Yan Xishan's heart was already on an equal footing with the eldest wife, or rather, it was better.
If chen cang is so dark, maybe one day, Xu Lansen may really replace the position of the eldest wife.
Funny and funny, one wife and one concubine is called mother and one is called mother!
After all, the paper could not keep the fire, and the eldest lady came to visit Yan Xishan in the army, saw the children playing in the courtyard, overheard their conversation, and called Xu Lansen "Ma".
So, she abandoned the image of a virtuous wife that had been maintained for more than 20 years, and began to scold in the garden, and when she was excited, she smashed the glass of the door with stones.
Seeing that things were about to make a big fuss, Yan Xishan quickly sent an adjutant to ask the old man to come over.
Father Yan was obviously a man who had seen the world, and perhaps from the first day he married Xu Lansen, he had expected that there would always be this day.
After coming over to appease Xu Zhuqing, he always had to give a solution, looking at his sons and grandchildren, the scale in the old man's heart fell to that side, it was self-evident.
Finally, the old man said: The child has called his mother for so long, and it is not convenient to change his mouth, so it is better to continue to call Xu Lansen a mother "mother" and Xu Zhuqing a "mother", so that Xu Zhuqing's status is still higher than Xu Lansen.
Such a ridiculous plan, Xu Zhuqing can only swallow the grievance and nod his head in agreement, who let himself not have a son and a half daughter?
The old man had given the ladder underneath, at least in the old mansion, and he was still the eldest wife. If you continue to make trouble, you will really cheapen that little goblin.
After this incident, Xu Lansen also knew that in the old mansion, there was no place for himself, and unless the eldest wife died first, he had no chance to turn right.
Sigh only sigh, life is not as good as a person
Then again, Xu Lansen is more than ten years younger than Xu Zhuqing, and it is not impossible to survive the death of the eldest wife.
However, in spite of her fate, Xu Lansen first came to the end of his life, and when he died, he was only 48 years old.
Yan Xishan was deeply saddened, and personally wrote to the link:
There are old people on the top, small on the bottom, and the responsibility is not exhausted before the death
There is no left from the left, there is no harmony on the right, and the remaining edge is not exhausted
It can be seen that Yan Xishan's love for Xu Lansen is certain, but in this dispute between wives and concubines, in fact, Xu Lansen and Xu Zhuqing are victims.
Since ancient times, the thoughts of successive generations have imprisoned the body and soul of women.
For the sake of the Yan family's incense, Xu Zhuqing had to agree to serve a husband with Xu Lansen, who did not know each other; and in order to continue the incense for the Yan family, Xu Lansen could only have sons one after another without stopping!
In that era, it seemed that everything about a woman could only be attached to this man and the extended family behind him.
To this day, this idea of succession still exists.
Within two days of marriage, a large number of people began to be spawned;
Mother-in-law who does not take care of the confinement of the child without having a son also abounds;
For the sake of their children, they do not hesitate to give up their jobs, and there is no shortage of mothers who fight for two or three children.
But what about having a son?
In the agricultural era, the main way for people to obtain food and wealth was by physical strength, so they needed to have sons so that the family could eat and drink without worry.
Now, about to enter the next era of the Internet, the metaverse, in the current situation of relying on brain power to eat, the social value and wealth that men and women can create are not much different.
The fertility barrier has tied the hands and feet of many women and disrupted women's careers, otherwise, they will be more dazzling than they are now!
So, girl, don't be pua yourself by the idea of having a son!
Fate sometimes has to have it, and fate must not demand it at any time!