That year, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie had not yet parted ways, and their son came to the set to visit his father.
At this time, Pan Yueming was filming a scene of "being beaten", who knew that this scene was just seen by the top, and the children rushed up to dissuade: "You are not allowed to bully my father!" ”
Seeing the situation, the adults present all laughed out loud, and afterwards, Pan Yueming often took this matter out to show off, saying that his son was particularly righteous.
Who knows, soon after, such a scene became a cherished memory in pan Yueming's mind.
Since his divorce, he has not seen his son for 9 years, and even his birthday wishes are conveyed through social platforms.
And the person who prevented him from meeting the child was no one else, it was the child's mother, Dong Jie.
After the divorce, she was insecure and regarded her son as the only one to rely on, asking for her son like a lover, and the "father" role that originally belonged to Pan Yueming also tried to be encroached upon by herself.
1. Before meeting each other
Pan Yueming was born in Beijing in 1974.
When he was young, Pan Yueming may not have imagined that one day later, everyone would use the word "decadent" to describe him.
The old hutongs around Dashilan are where Pan Yueming grew up, and it carries memories from childhood to adulthood.
At that time, he was a well-known little bully in the streets and alleys, in Beijing dialect, "not stingy", not afraid of the sky, he had done anything asshole.
He did not do less to uncover the tiles in the upper house, pedaling two steps to step on the eaves, chasing the wild cats all the way to howl, stepping on the roof of the people's roof leaking one piece in the east and one leaking in the west.
When he grew up a little, he learned to "pat his mother-in-law", put on headphones, carry two fritters, he could swing around the alley all day, and when the beautiful woman passed by, he would look at it from bottom to top.
At the same time, Dong Jie was not so relaxed, she was six years younger than Pan Yueming and was born in Dalian.
She spent most of her childhood in the practice room, and from an early age, she was sent by her parents to learn to dance, and at the age of ten, she entered the soldier song and dance troupe, and when she was slightly older, she entered the military art again.
From childhood to adulthood, she faced either the strict discipline of the teacher or the strict discipline in the military art, and grew up in such an environment, even if there was a mischievous factor in the personality, she was also suppressed.
One was full of alleys and wilderness, one was learning to dance bitterly in the practice room, one was hanging Er Lang Dang, and the other was quiet and beautiful, and at that time they seemed to be people of two worlds.
In the end, it was literature and art that brought their fate together.
Mixed up, noisy, Pan Yueming still has some literary and artistic atmosphere.
His father liked art, so he gave Pan Yueming a lot of interest classes, calligraphy and painting he had learned when he was a child, practiced a child's skill, and attended a key middle school also relying on this talent.
In addition, Pan Yueming has an active personality, has been a small reporter in school, a small host of a TV station, has been acting since high school, and has starred in the 94 version of "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", which is considered to be half a child star.
It was also the experience of this period that made him fall in love with acting, and he also applied for Nortel during the college entrance examination, but unfortunately, because the culture class was too poor, his name was not on the final admission list.
After a year of chaos, he finally failed to let go of his obsession with acting and applied for the film and television production major of Beijing Normal University.
In 1999, Pan Yueming went to a crew to work as a handyman, at that time he looked like a white-faced student, but his temperament was debauched, which attracted his attention to director Lu Xuechang, and let him star in the movie "Very Holiday".
As a fledgling, he became a blockbuster and won the Best Newcomer Award at the University Student Film Festival.
Since then, Pan Yueming has embarked on the road of acting as he wished.
When Pan Yueming was in the scenery, Dong Jie was still a small accompaniment dancer, but the good villain was also from the military arts, even if the background board was also the background board of the Spring Festival Gala.
Because of her good looks, she was noticed after being a background board many times.
On the stage of the Spring Festival Gala in 2000, she and Nicholas Tse took the stage together, and when she appeared, she looked down and smiled, which surprised many people, including Zhang Yimou.
After several rounds of interviews, she successfully starred in the movie "Happy Time", in which she played a blind girl.
With this film, she transformed into a girl, won multiple awards, and since then, a steady stream of people have visited her to act.
The most impressive of these is naturally the 2003 "Golden Powder Family", holding a bunch of lilies, wearing a Republican student uniform, wearing two small braids, looking back with a somewhat trance.
At that time, she was a pure endorsement, and her posture was no less than that of Liu Yifei of the same play.
2, if life is only like the first sight
Looking back at the photos of the two people at that time, I have to say that they matched.
In 2005, the two of them began their relationship, and in a TV series called "The Red Dress", they played a pair of lovers.
Handsome men and beautiful women in the play, you and I, naturally extended their love outside the play, becoming a couple.
In 2008, they opened up their relationship to the public, and in September of that year, they formed a bond.
The following year, their son Dingding was born, and the nickname means "the apex of happiness".
Soon after giving birth, Dong Jie wanted to continue her career, and Pan Yueming also respected her choice and let her cousin become her assistant.
Just when they were immersed in the joy of happiness, the heavens hooked their little tail fingers and inflicted a little accident on their lives.
In 2009, Pan Yueming was busy making milk powder money outside, and he didn't expect an accident to happen.
At that time, he was filming a scene of driving a car, and accidentally took the car and fell from a hillside nearly 30 meters high.
Pan Yueming was seriously injured, but the filming location was remote and the ambulance could not arrive until at least two hours later.
During these two long and painful hours, what underpinned his belief was photographs of his wife and son.
Knowing that Pan Yueming was injured, Dong Jie also hurriedly put down the work at hand and rushed to his side.
After that, Pan Yueming rested on the sickbed for more than 100 days, and Dong Jie also lived in the hospital, not leaving for a moment.
After that, Pan Yueming often publicly expressed his love and gratitude to his wife.
3. Part ways in a field of chicken feathers
In 2010, Pan Yueming recovered and threw himself into work non-stop, although the two did not have much time to meet, but it was still difficult to hide their love.
Looking at his dynamics at that time, it can be found that "Little D" is a high-frequency word, and the words are all about Dong Jie's love.
If nothing had happened later, perhaps these dynamics could rival Zhang Ruoyun's "memo girl."
Unfortunately, Dong Jie is Dong Jie, and Leng Qingqiu is Leng Qingqiu.
What Pan Yueming didn't know was that perhaps Dong Jie's heart had fallen on other men at this moment
The emotional line between Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi can be traced back to 2010, when Pan Yueming still tirelessly recorded his bits and pieces with "Little D" on social platforms, while Dong Jie himself was filming the TV series "Please Forgive Me".
There was a man named Wang Dazhi in the crew.
Although this person is not proud of his appearance, he is victorious in a pocket of sweet words, and during the filming process, he often laughs with Dong Jie, and it does not take long to become friends.
In 2011, the two collaborated again in "Ten Years of Love".
From the small actions of Dong and Wang at that time, it can be seen that perhaps they have already rubbed out a small spark of ambiguity at that time.
During this year, Dong Jie's assistant was no longer Pan Yueming's cousin, but was replaced by Wang Dazhi's former assistant.
Wang Dazhi also filed for divorce with his wife, and it is reported that Dong Jie first proposed divorce to Pan Yueming at this time.
In 2012, with the media digging deeper, the fact that the golden boy and the jade girl divorced surfaced, and the audience was shocked by it.
Not long after, Dong Jie's studio also issued a divorce statement.
What netizens did not expect was that after the fate came to an end, Dong Jie did not choose to separate with dignity.
What followed was a dark battle of scolding.
The cause is that Dong Jie's side exposed all kinds of fierce materials, saying that Pan Yueming is addicted to gambling, owes huge gambling debts, and marital violence, and Dong Jie's agent even ran out to connote Pan Yueming's sexual strength.
In the face of the sudden accusations, Pan Yueming did not hold his breath, he denied Dong Jie's statement, and said that he was not ashamed and still loved the family.
Wang Dazhi also mixed a foot at this time and supported Dong Jie as a good friend.
Was it Dong Jie's side that splashed dirty water, or was there really such a thing? At that time, the audience brushed together and chose the former.
Because Leng Qingqiu is too deeply rooted in people's hearts, in the eyes of the audience, Dong Jie and the role have become one.
After experiencing this export water war, Pan Yueming's blood bag was empty, becoming a "scumbag" that everyone blamed, and the custody of his son also fell into the hands of Dong Jie.
But just a year later, things took a turn for the better.
In March 2013, Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi were photographed by paparazzi kissing passionately, so that everyone understood why Wang Dazhi had to stand up and flow muddy waters in last year's scolding war.
Since then, the audience's "pure jade girl" filter for Dong Jie has been completely broken, and a lily flower has been wasted by herself into a white lotus, no matter what she says, she has lost everyone's trust in her.
In 2014, after Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi, a key figure in the storm, broke up, the matter was also temporarily over.
4, Pan Yueming and his son have not seen each other for many years
However, after rolling around in a field of chicken feathers, Pan Yueming could not return to his peak state, at this time, his body began to gain weight, and his appearance began to become depressed.
From the beginning of the fate in 2008 to the unhappiness of 2013, in just five years, he went from a spirited young boy to a greasy uncle.
The turning point came in 2017, the year he starred in the web drama "White Night Pursuit", in which he played two roles and became popular with superb acting skills.
During the same period, Dong Jie's life was not so satisfactory.
The year before, she had taken her son to the top of "Mom is Superman".
Before the program was broadcast, Dong Jie's side issued a notice, the wording was "Dong Jie still believes in love" and the like, to get rid of a woman who was hurt by love.
Of course, the audience's reaction to these claims is to laugh at them.
Shortly after the program was broadcast, the program team carefully asked about the "top dad", even if they knew that they were careful or accidentally poked Dong Jie's tear glands.
Suddenly, Dong Jie's eyes were already red, and she thought thoughtfully: "None of us can change our destiny, we all have to accept reality." ”
After the program was broadcast, Dong Jie's words were hotly discussed, and most netizens did not buy it, accusing her of using ambiguous words and packaging herself as a victim.
What is more dramatic is that Pan Yueming sent a dynamic: "We must really face reality and dare to tell the truth." ”
Who is the sword pointed at? Go without saying.
With the deepening of the program, everyone found that letting Dong Jie take the child seems to be really not a good decision - Dong Jie's mode of getting along with Dingding is more like a lover than a mother and son.
Any clip in the show seems to corroborate that Dong Jie has some attachment to her son.
At the beginning of the show, Dong Jie coaxed Dingding to get up, and before Dingding could open his eyes, he was kissed several times by his mother.
In addition to the program, Dong Jie also revealed that she felt that how to kiss her son was not enough, and she could kiss him a hundred times a day.
Once, the mother and son duo went out to eat, and at the dinner table, Dong Jie has been teaching the top to "be a little warm man" and "learn to take care of others".
At first, Dingding listened attentively, but suddenly he was attracted by the children outside the window.
Dong Jie immediately read a sentence quietly: "Today is the time we are together..."
But Dingding's attention was still on the children, Dong Jie saw it, and his eyes were slightly red.
"If you don't care about me so much, I'm really going to cry."
Only to see that the top was still ignored, and began to fiddle with the camera.
At this time, tears had already spilled out of Dong Jie's eyes, and she had a loveless look on her face, reiterating: "I should cry if you don't come again." ”
Dingding had to trot back to act, and then transformed into the ideal little warm man in Dong Jie's eyes, helped her wipe her tears, and said: "Don't cry, my little baby"
The audience is puzzled, it is normal for children to be curious about new things, and generally parents will be happy about it, but Dong Jie not only did not look at it lovingly, but was snubbed.
There is also a scene where Dong Jie and Dingding go out shopping, and every time they try on a dress, Dong Jie will ask Dingding to express his opinion and ask him if he looks good.
After emotional setbacks, it is actually normal to throw a sense of security on future generations.
But jealousy, playing small, not saying a word of tears, usually, such a situation is more common in lovers, some netizens bluntly said that Dong Jie's dependence on her son has been almost morbid, should see a psychologist.
But at the same time, in the show, Dong Jie repeatedly said that she had a very hard life, both to be a mother and a father.
But her understanding of "being a dad" seems to have some deviations, which is simply understood as "severe".
When she found that Dingding was playing with the computer and stealing candy, she instantly raised her face, and without saying a word, it was a reprimand.
Maybe it is a long time, the top has learned to observe the color, when he sees that his mother looks wrong, he will immediately stop the movement of his hand, and his eyes will change from lively to restrained for a second.
All in all, as a bystander of this mother-child relationship, netizens can always smell a suffocating taste.
In 2018, "Ruyi Zhuan" was about to start broadcasting, and Dong Jie, as an actor in this drama, drew a wave of attention to herself and the series.
Not a good thing, though.
The reason is that Pan Yueming's former agent scolded Dong Jie in the circle of friends, calling him a "white lotus" and a "poisonous mushroom poured out of the urine", and also revealed that Pan Yueming's father wanted to see his grandson when he was seriously ill, but Dong Jie refused on the grounds of "no obligation".
There is also news that since the dispute between the two, Dong Jie has not let Pan Yueming see her son's side again.
At this time, everyone realized that when Dong Jie took the top variety show and all kinds of big shows of mother-child love, Pan Yueming has been immersed in the pain of not being able to meet with the child.
In the eight years of time, Pan Yueming escaped from the whirlpool of public opinion, from the target of public opinion to the red.
In his career, he can be said to be raised and breathed, but he always has a regret in his heart.
In 2013, Pan Yueming's marriage changed, and at that time, he did not have an advantage in public opinion, and the custody of his son belonged to Dong Jie.
On his birthday that year, he wrote: If you can exchange your happiness for a lifetime, I would rather suffer for a lifetime! Although it can't be with you, but... Little Top, Dad still wants to wish you a happy birthday.
Every year from 2014 onwards, Pan Yueming will celebrate his son's birthday on social platforms, and it will be released on time at 00:00 on February 5.
In the past few years, Pan Yueming can only see his son through the Internet.
And every year the copywriting is uniform: a cow, a balloon.
Some people interpret that the cow is the genus of the top, and the balloon means that the top grows freely.
Whenever they see news about Pan Yueming and Dong Jie, the melon-eating masses must sigh: "Create evil!" ”
No matter how much the love and sorrow of the previous generation tore the heart and lungs, that is also a thing of the past, but parents should never let the grudge continue in the next generation.