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In today's society, when it comes to extramarital feelings, everyone feels accustomed to it, because if you see more, you know that extramarital feelings are not true, and they will only bring harm to themselves.
We don't talk about men, let's talk about women, women have extramarital affairs, some for men outside of marriage abandon their husbands, and finally abandoned by men outside of marriage, and some, after really being with men outside marriage, find that men outside marriage are not as good as she thought, and when they finally wake up and want to turn back, their husbands are no longer willing to accept her.
In short, women who make a mess of their lives because of their feelings outside of marriage abound.
Therefore, when everyone talks about extramarital feelings, they often feel that most of the scenes are men, and women usually treat extramarital feelings seriously, and there is a posture of not hitting the south wall and not turning back.
But there are exceptions to everything, and women usually take it seriously when it comes to extramarital relationships, with the exception of two types of women, who are just playing tricks on the scene.
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The first type of woman: the rational woman.
There are sensible women, there are rational women, although sensuality is the label of most women, but women in this group, there is no shortage of rational people.
And rational women in the face of extramarital feelings, will keep themselves sober, draw a clear line between family and extramarital feelings, always remind themselves that the family is their own belonging, and men outside of marriage are just her way to relieve pressure.
She knows what she wants and the trade-offs, and when it comes to choosing between family and extramarital feelings, she doesn't hesitate to choose family.
But rationality does not mean no feelings, rational women also long for someone who can bring her happiness and comfort, so she knows that extramarital feelings will bring harm to people, or will try, but she is rational after all, she will not be like the general emotional woman to devote herself to this extramarital relationship, she is treating this relationship with a playful attitude.
So, when she finds that things are a little out of control, or in danger of being discovered, she will decisively end the relationship.
So, in the relationship outside of marriage, as long as you don't take the relationship seriously, can you not be hurt in any way?
Let's talk about a real-life example. Xu Xiaoou (pseudonym) and her husband married for more than ten years, the children also went to primary school, the marriage of the two people has always been plain, there is no love or no love problem, is to live a life, Xu Xiaoou's husband is an honest man with no ability, fortunately he also has an advantage, that is, he can take care of the children and take care of the family.
And the matter of making money outside to support the family fell to Xu Xiaoou, Xu Xiaoou is actually quite satisfied with such a family division of labor, she is a strong woman, to let people use a sentence to describe her, that is, the reason is terrible.
But it was such a rational person who also talked about extramarital feelings after meeting the little boy Pei Jun (pseudonym) who was nine years younger than her. Pei Jun is a new intern of the company, tall and handsome, laughing extra sunshine, in the face of his crazy pursuit, Xu Xiaoou did not refuse, after all, no one does not like beautiful things, no one does not like the feeling of being loved.
But she also bluntly said that there will be no future between them, she will not abandon the family for him, so the two people talked about a sweet love, in fact, Xu Xiaoou just wanted to enjoy this feeling, from the beginning to know that they can not last.
But people's feelings are often uncontrollable, like is like, not to say that you can cut off this like through reason. Therefore, Xu Xiaoou chose to break up very rationally when he found that he could not control his feelings for Pei Jun.
She thought that the matter would end here, but in the end, the paper wrapper could not hold the fire, and the fact that she had an extramarital relationship was still known to her husband, and even their children knew about it.
She could not care less about her husband's accusations, but when she heard those accusatory words from the child's mouth, the pain in her heart could not be described in words. Although her husband forgave her in the end, the pain brought to the family by this incident could never be erased.
Therefore, don't feel that you are rational enough to grasp the measure, you can get out of an extramarital relationship smoothly, whether you are rational or not, as long as you touch the extramarital feelings, you will definitely be hurt.
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The second kind of woman: the material woman.
In today's society, everyone lives more thoroughly, because the more they see, the more they hear, and the more they understand, so women begin to no longer cling to love, and material things can bring them a sense of security.
Although men generally do not like this type of woman, women feel that such a woman has lived out herself and feels that this is a smart woman.
This type of woman has a commonality, they generally feel that feelings can be had, but nothing can hinder them from making money, nor can they harm her interests.
Therefore, the mate selection conditions of this type of woman must be good at home, and then it is whether she is good or not, and whether she can see it well.
If there is a mine in the house, if she is good to her, and she can see it, it is of course the best, but if she were to choose between a poor man who loved her very much and a man who was particularly rich but could not be said to love her much, she would choose the rich one without hesitation.
After all, the feeling of this thing can change at any time, but the selection conditions are good, at least so that she and her future children can live carefree, do not have to run for life.
When a woman with this kind of substance is faced with extramarital feelings, she will never be serious, because once she is serious, it means that she will lose a lot, so she will never do such a thing.
But people have emotional needs, and when the husband at home can't give it all, she will think about getting it from a man outside of marriage. Of course, it may also be that the husband at home is also good, but there is no way to resist the temptation of the outside.
No matter what the reason for this extramarital relationship, in short, in this extramarital relationship, she will only be the party who asks outwards, definitely not the party who gives, and she knows from the beginning that this relationship is just the spice in her life, so she has never taken this relationship seriously.
So, when she's tired of it, or thinks that a man outside of marriage might affect her marriage, she will decisively choose to withdraw from the relationship.
She felt that she had no problem doing so, that she was dashing, and that she would not let herself be hurt by doing so.
But the feelings outside of marriage, as long as they have been experienced, will leave traces, and the East Window incident is sooner or later, and the harm that will be suffered at that time is absolutely not small.
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Many people feel that in an extramarital relationship, as long as they are not serious, as long as they are rational, they will never be hurt.
But in fact, in the relationship outside of marriage, serious or not serious will be hurt, there is no exception.
The so-called extramarital feelings are a kind of feeling that begins with betrayal and ends with betrayal. It represents hurt in itself, and from the moment you get into the relationship, your end is already doomed.
So whether it's a rational woman or a material woman, don't feel that you are the exception, you will definitely not be the one who is hurt. People who often think this way, in the end, are hurt the most.
Therefore, people must learn to control their desires, but also understand what they want most, and what is most important in their hearts.
Don't throw your life into a mess for things that don't have it.
At a certain age, when life becomes stable and feelings are no longer as enthusiastic as when they were young, it is inevitable that some different thoughts will arise, and at this time, it is necessary to think clearly whether they can bear the consequences of this matter.
At worst, you will live like a sinner for the rest of your life, or you will lose your family directly, and even your children will look down on you.
Therefore, after realizing the horror of extramarital feelings, you must restrain yourself, although extramarital feelings will bring people different feelings, will bring people temporary happiness, but it will also bring you harm.
Text/Fenghua