Some parents, although they are kind, just hope that their children can have a good life in the future. Although the meaning in the heart is good, the practice is too extreme. Even his own children have a very good marriage, but because they can't accept it, they finally provoke the feelings of the two.
Children's marriages are actually still up to their own grasp, after all, the ideas and behaviors between young people are fundamentally different from those of the older generation. Because of the changes in the social era, young people will be more advanced in thinking. Some of the stubborn ideas of the older generation have no way to change the thinking of today's young people.
Some of the older generation even behave too extremely, and all aspects of their children must be controlled by one hand. No matter when, you must take out your attitude as an elder. Doing something to your children is also breathless.
Today's story comes from the sharing of netizen Xie Xian.
The conflict with the daughter
Xie Xian's family was not rich, and when he was young, he was also married to a man from Lincun. After marriage, life did work hard together for two people, and there were some changes. However, due to the relatively common idea of son preference, Xie Xian only gave birth to one daughter, so the in-laws did not like Xie Xian very much.
But the husband did not snub Xie Xian because of this matter, and the two raised their daughter together in their own small family. But when my daughter was in junior high school, her husband died unexpectedly because of an accident. In an instant, all the responsibilities in the family were on Xie Xian's body.
Fortunately, Xie Xian was also bitter and was not defeated by such a life. I worked two odd jobs a day and raised my daughter to be a college student. The daughter also knows that the family conditions are not good, so she also makes special efforts in her studies, and has never given Xie Xian too much mental pressure.
But Xie Xian has raised his children alone over the years, and he has developed a bad habit of liking to take advantage of others. And because the family's living conditions are not too good, they will always instill in their daughters the idea of marrying a rich man.
But after all, her daughter has read books, and she also knows that some of her mother's practices are actually wrong. And because of the early absence of her father, her mother's desire to control her is particularly strong. Basically everything has to be understood in detail, and the daughter feels that she has been forced too deeply by her mother.
When she was in college, her daughter had good grades and chose a city far from the local area to go to college. I met a boyfriend during college. After Xie Xian knew, he also began to inquire about the family situation of his daughter's boyfriend. Knowing that the boyfriend's family situation is average, no matter what, I want my daughter to break up with this man.
But the daughter herself has her own ideas, after all, her own thoughts are no longer the same as her mother's thoughts. In the future life, as long as he and his husband can work hard, there is hope for a good life. There is no need to marry a rich man, as the mother says.
So the daughter ostensibly told Xie Xian that she had broken up, but in fact she was still dealing with her current boyfriend. Even a talk of it is four years. After graduating from college, he also stayed with her boyfriend to find a job in the local area. Since both were good college graduates, they soon found a well-paid and decent job.
The daughter also wants to call Xie Xian to live in the big city, but Xie Xian always explores her daughter's private life on her mobile phone. There is no room left for the daughter at all. The daughter also feels that this kind of life is too closed, or wait for herself to have a job in the future, and give her mother more money every month.
Daughter married as a wife
After her daughter had a stable career with her boyfriend, she wanted to get married. Of course, Xie Xian did not want to agree to this matter, after all, later she also knew that her daughter was just Yin Fengyang. Lip service to yourself that you broke up, in fact it is still this person. Of course, the daughter said that she wanted to get married.
And I heard that although the boy's family is local, the family does not have extra money to buy a marriage house for his daughter. Xie Xian was also worried that her daughter would not have a good life in such a family in the future, so no matter what, she would not let up.
Even Xie Xian rushed to his daughter's city and made a big fuss at her daughter's company. In this way, Xie Xian herself felt that there was nothing, because she just wanted her daughter to feel that no matter what, this matter was impossible.
I never thought how much damage this would cause to my daughter's face. In the company, he messed around and even inquired into the company where her daughter's boyfriend was. Turning around, he went to his daughter's boyfriend's company and yelled at his daughter's boyfriend.
This incident later aroused the daughter's rebellious psychology, no matter what, she also married the current boyfriend. After getting married, the two really did not have extra money to buy a new house, so they still lived with their in-laws.
When Xie Xian saw this, he didn't end up like he thought in his heart. But she certainly can't give up, she feels that her daughter can have a better family. The daughter should not live such a poor life, even if the daughter is married now, she must find a way to make her daughter unable to live this life.
The daughter cut off contact
Later, after her daughter got married, she did have a very good life, but Xie Xian still didn't think so. She thinks that her daughter's mouth is good, but she wants to be angry with herself. In fact, how her daughter is doing, she just doesn't say it in her heart.
Later, the daughter and her husband did save a sum of money. The two bought a house in a good local area, and the daughter also had it, calling Xie Xian to move in together, after all, there was only Xie Xian in the hometown, and the daughter was not at ease.
Xie Xian still wanted to break up his daughter's marriage, so he told her daughter that as long as you divorced the marriage, you can let me do anything. I don't think you can last long, and I told you that you must find a rich man. I can't accept the son-in-law you're looking for me now.
The daughter did not expect Xie Xian to have been so long, and still could not understand herself. There is nothing wrong with their current life, and the two of them are also working hard together. I couldn't understand at all, why did Xie Xian have to let himself find a rich man, was it really happy and happy to find a rich man to live?
The daughter had little contact with Xie Xian later, but during the New Year, the daughter still invited Xie Xian over. After all, the Big New Year's Eve, Xie Xian was alone in his hometown, and he was indeed lonely. Come to the city to spend the New Year together, it is very lively and lively.
Xie Xian finally went, but he messed up his daughter's kindness. Even at home, she scolded her relatives and son-in-law, and her daughter-in-law severed her relationship with Xie Xian.
Xie Xian was sixty-five years old, and as a mother, she really repented. The stupidest decision in this life is to go to my daughter's house and celebrate the New Year with my relatives. He has forced his daughter to destroy the family over the years. I ended up with such a result, these are all caused by my own hands, and I can't save the relationship with my daughter.
The older generation can indeed provide some of their own experience to their children, after all, they do live longer. I have some unique experiences that I can share with my children. Especially in terms of family, the older generation does have a long marriage and business life, so there are indeed some that are worth teaching.
But there is no need to make children do as they think they want. After all, no matter how to get married, it is all up to you, and what life is like after marriage requires two people to work together to create. How the people around them act, the final result is only in vain.
Therefore, the fate of parents, the words of the matchmaker. But now in the new social era, young people are more yearning for free love. After all, you can get along with yourself more emotionally. If there is anything unsatisfactory after marriage, you can also start to solve it yourself. Blind dates are never what young people want most.
Today's topic
Will your parents be too involved in your relationships?
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