"Same-Sex Three-Point Parents" is an American film directed by Paul Bogart and starring Anne Bancroft and Harvey Festern, adapted from the stage play of the same name, released in 1988, this film tells the story of an ordinary comrade Arnold experienced three tragic and joyful feelings, filmed delicately and movingly.
"Three years old to see old", while other little boys are running wild in the wild, Arnold hides in the closet to apply lipstick and steal his mother's clothes. Growing up, Arnold counter-stringed female singers in a nightclub, with heavy makeup and a charming posture.
After work, he and his colleagues would go to a nearby gay bar, which was full of hunting eyes, and the introverted Arnold sat in the corner and met another man named Ed.
Arnold and Ed are in a relationship, but the latter is bisexual and he also interacts with other women. On Arnold's birthday, Ed was dating Laurel and said that "I need self-esteem, and I can't always be in the mud of gay life." So, the two broke up.
Arnold's second lover, Alan, was a much younger, prettier boy who was intimidated by security guards at a nightclub, fainted on the spot, and stayed overnight at Arnold's house. Allen said, "I came to New York to live a gay life," and the two lived together.
After Arnold celebrated his third anniversary with Allen, his father died. The following year, ex-boyfriend Ed invites Arnold and his new boyfriend, Alan, to visit his farm, and the four of them are delicate, and Alan fights with Ed, and Laurel feels that the relationship between the couple is in jeopardy.
It was just a small episode in Arnold's life with Alan, who planned to adopt 15-year-old David, who was a gay boy. On the night they were preparing to celebrate, Alan saw the street gangsters bullying the elderly, seeing the righteous and courageous, and unfortunately died.
With a deep thought for Alan, Arnold lived under the same roof with Ed and David. Never able to accept Arnold's gay mother to visit him, the mother and son stood in different positions and quarreled, although they could never understand the son, but because of love, before leaving, the mother still forgave Arnold.
"Same-sex three-point relatives" wins in the intimate truth, it reflects the life of an ordinary American gay, and like heterosexuals, he wants to live with his lover, wants to experience the feeling of parenting, and wants his close parents to support him.
In Ang Lee's "Wedding Feast", Wei Tong said: "Mom, it is not easy for homosexual people to live together in all aspects. So Simon and I cherish each other. A sentence speaks of the difficulty of finding true love in the vast sea of people. At the beginning of the film, Arnold has a monologue, which is a pessimistic experience of many years of life: "If an ugly person likes a handsome person, he will get nothing but suffering."
But Arnold's attitude towards life was very serious, and at first when Ed stepped on two boats and was unwilling to admit his identity, he even stopped the loss; when Alan broke into his life, after a moment's hesitation he decided to accept; finally Ed asked for a reunion, and Arnold gave him another chance. Tolerance makes people come and go in his life.
Most comrades have spent a confused and repressed adolescence, this fascination with love will make them less sensitive to the tentacles of life, some people still can't find the direction in middle age, and some people can't get rid of the inner chaos all their lives: what kind of life do I really want? And Arnold is undoubtedly lucky, he pursues a complete family, the child can make up for his inner sense of nothingness, although the family is noisy, but there is no lack of joy and warmth.
"Same-Sex Trinity" begins with the surprise of the mother and ends with her departure, and the complex feelings for the mother are the eternal themes of homosexual exploration. Through the highlight of the two mother-son quarrels, the film shows the contradiction between family affection and self to the fullest, with sparks splashing and golden sentences.
Can same-sex love be compared to ordinary marriage? Mother: Do you dare to compare your relationship with Ellen to my 35-year marriage? Arnold: You lost your husband in a clean hospital, I lost my lover on a dirty street, and he was killed by a child who had the same idea as you.
Isn't gay life real? Mom: Anything that happens to you is a joke, and you're never happy unless everyone is talking about homosexuality. Arnold: I've been proving my life all these years.
The only way to break down prejudice is love. Mom: You want me to change my mind, but I'm too old. You pushed me out of your life and then blamed me for not being there? Arnold: I don't need anyone to give me anything other than love and respect.
Reconciliation with his mother has relieved Arnold of years of psychological burdens, and the support of lovers, children, and parents is the lifelong pursuit of an ordinary comrade or ordinary person.