"To be a tree in the next life": A woman should live as a tree, not a vine on the tree

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"If there is an afterlife, I will make a tree, stand in an eternal posture, without sorrow and joy, half in peace in the dust, half in the wind, half sprinkled with shade, half bathed in the sun, very silent, very proud, never dependent, never looking"

Every time I read this article of Sanmao, I am deeply touched, this is what she said to herself, and it is also a piece of advice for each of us women.

Man, there is no future life, I hope that each of us women can grasp this life well, very silent, very proud, never rely on, never look for.

Men are rigid, women are water, and in ordinary people's thinking, men and women are always described in this way.

In the thinking of thousands of years, it is the man who is outside the lord and the woman inside, always describing men as strong, and women who are weak and need to rely on men.

In the back of their minds, most women want to be the birds around men.

If there is a woman who says "no", it must be that she has realized some truth after experiencing some stories.

Yang Dai said: In this materialistic world, being a person is really hard enough.

Since the reform and opening up, women have also gone out of the house, looking for jobs, looking for their own value in society.

Of course, it is inevitable to accept some pressures at work, the complexity brought by the family, and the contradictions in life.

At the same time, it also makes women understand a truth that they can be financially independent and no longer reach out to men for money, which is a woman's biggest gain.

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A woman can love a man with her whole life, but never with a lifetime to cling to a man.

A woman who is willing to accompany you to suffer, that is to love you, not to rely on you, how many men understand.

Xiaoye, like all women, met the person he liked, and did not hesitate to choose to work hard with him, suffer together, never complain, never regret.

Kung Fu pays off, men's business acumen coupled with their hard work, a few years, business booming.

Later, when she had children, the man told her to take care of the children at home and be a full-time wife.

In daily life, women often always say to themselves that women should love themselves a little more.

However, in real life, after having a family, children, women often neglect to love themselves.

Xiaoye is the same, every day he puts his mind on the family and children, and because he has not gone out to business contact, he gradually begins to neglect himself.

Do not pay attention to their own dress, maintenance, do not pay attention to their own temperament, and as a middle-aged woman's thinking, watching the children grow up, family, career gradually stable.

The relationship between husband and wife has increased from love to affection, thinking that a lifetime is so stable and plain.

In both sexes, women pursue stable and bland truth, while men's nature is to constantly take risks and discover new things.

Over time, men always began to snub women because they were busy with business, Xiaoye understood in her heart, but she had more stability than many women.

Xiaoye also tried to close the distance with the man, but the more enthusiastic Xiaoye showed, the more disgusted the man became.

After half a lifetime, Xiaoye finally understood: a woman should live as a tree, not a vine on the tree, a woman for a lifetime, who to rely on is better than on herself.

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Teacher Venus said: When someone says, I promise you a prosperous life, don't believe it, you want to be an independent tree, not a vine that climbs on the tree, otherwise, the tree will fall and the vine will wither.

If it is not easy for a man to reach middle age, then how easy is it for a woman to talk about?

In this ever-changing and seductive world, women must manage themselves well on the one hand, and take care of their families on the other hand.

Women are actually playing a rather complex role, and men want their wives to be as gentle and quiet as classical women, while constantly pursuing the thousands of manners and styles of modern trends.

There is a saying: seven points love others, three points love yourself.

Women should never forget to leave a way out for themselves at all times.

No matter how successful your career is and how complete your family is, you can't predict which tomorrow or accident will come first.

French actress Sophie Marceau said: The saddest thing about a woman is not old age, but the loss of self in marriage and ordinary life.

It can be seen that no matter what age, women must have a goal, or have a dream.

Push yourself to be strong, have the ability to be independent, not proud, not dependent, not lost.

May every woman, in life, rely on her own efforts, have independent capital, and live as she likes.

May every woman live as an independent tree in her own life, without a sad gesture, half in peace in the soil, half in the wind.