Text/Coriander
It is said that men are mountains and women are water. The strength of a man, with the gentleness of a woman, is a wonderful match in this world.
Or, life needs to be complementary, and because of this, the phenomenon of love and marriage has been born in the world.
Men need the gentleness of women, and women also need the strength of men. After meeting and falling in love, both men and women come together because of each other's differences and complementarities.
However, there are many times when men always think that women are too much trouble. This is because women are not as crisp and rational as men when they face feelings. Especially when it is a breakup, a woman's performance may be more eye-catching: either crying and making trouble, or dragging on. The consequence of this is not that the man is soft-hearted, but that it will only make him leave faster.
In fact, the more obsessive, the more unwilling to let go of the woman, in the eyes of men, is more worthless.
For a man, such a woman will leave him with two impressions: one is that she feels that she cannot survive without herself; the other is that she feels that she is the most important in her mind.
Men tend to have an arrogant mindset. He can not want women, but if women behave simply and decisively, his psychology will be particularly uncomfortable.
This is the general psychology of many men.
A female friend once said to me that she had rejected a man, and then the man felt very humiliated and faceless. He said that he was the only one who rejected women, and no woman had ever rejected him, because his conditions were good in all aspects, so he could not accept rejection.
There is no denying that men need more face than women. Especially in emotional matters, it seems that it is normal for men to abandon women, and being abandoned by women will feel particularly hurtful to self-esteem.
When it comes to self-esteem, in fact, not only men want it, women also want it. However, in emotional matters, there are not many women who can make a decision.
It is precisely because there are not many, so women who can be decisive in their feelings are more impressive to men.
When a relationship comes to an end, men always want to withdraw earlier than women, but in their hearts they hope that women will not give up. The more women behave reluctantly, the more men's self-esteem and vanity are satisfied,
But if women also act bold and determined, men will feel more incredible and will be reluctant. In fact, it is not unwilling, more is not unwilling.
Men's possessiveness is universally recognized. Just like a man's flower heart, he can go outside to get wet and weedy, but it is difficult to tolerate women being unfaithful to him. This is the inferior nature of men.
Especially those men who have money, or men with status and status, surrounded by multiple women, is an "honor" for him, representing his "charm" is very high.
Is this actually the case? Of course not. What exactly is the reason? We all know it. But often, for a man's practice, if his wife is angry or noisy, someone will persuade her: Man, where is the honesty? Besides, a man like him, what woman doesn't jump up? In fact, I can't blame him.
You see, men can make mistakes like that. As the famous star said: I just made the mistake that all men make.
Men think it's normal. Just as he thinks that at the end of the relationship, the woman should be reluctant to him. Therefore, when a woman leaves him boldly and resolutely, he will be unwilling and even a little frustrated.
But not all women can do that. Too many women, when their relationship breaks down, will only cry, will only make trouble, will only die and struggle, or just want more money.
Only a few women can be bold, determined, and confident. Such a woman, whether in feelings or in life, will have her own unique personality, as well as a dare to be bold, do not drag the mud and water style of doing things.
Such a woman is actually more liked by men. Even when feelings fail, this practice of women will make men appreciate it more. Although it will make men unwilling, it will definitely make him refreshed.
I remember there was a plant called the silk flower. It is characterized by its inability to grow independently and can only climb up by clinging to other plants.
In fact, some women will be like the silk flower, just want to rely on men to live. But the more such a woman is, the less respect she has from men.
On the contrary, independent, strong, and courageous women can make men value and respect more. Men don't want women to be better than themselves, but they also don't like women to rely on themselves for everything. This is also the ambivalence of men.
Therefore, women who can be strong and soft can actually occupy men's hearts the most. She is neither strong nor weak, whether it is life or feelings, she can sit on an equal footing with men, not humble and unobtrusive.
The more a woman is like this, the more the man is fascinated by her.
If you don't believe it, you can go to life and observe it.