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I once read such a sentence: "Once people have dependence, they become children waiting for people in kindergartens to pick up." ”
Life is like looking for sugar to eat in a pile of glass slag, and if you are not careful, you will make yourself scaly.
In this life, someone teaches you how to bravely continue to go down, which is good, but sometimes we need a shoulder more so that we can rest assured.
Especially women, who are both sensitive and vulnerable in the face of feelings, often need a man who loves herself more and makes the second half of her life full of security and happiness.
It is not easy to find such a man, because there are too many men who are good at disguise, and at first they may use various mountain alliances and sea oaths to trick you, and finally after getting you, they will come to a "human evaporation".
There are too many such examples, and there will be one or two such examples around each of us.
Alive, naked, girls cry after being cheated, crying for short-sightedness, or no longer believing in love, and are immune to the opposite sex from then on, and so on.
In fact, in every woman's life, there will be a man who loves her, but sometimes blames her for not cherishing enough, so as to miss the right person.
Some people are lucky enough to keep the man who loves her, and from then on she will be spoiled by the man who loves her and become a "child".
Really, a man who loves you, is like this, he will want you to be in front of him, as simple and cute as a child.
02
In my eyes, colleague Cai Cai has always been a particularly mature and stable woman, at least in the workplace, she is always full of confidence and strong.
No matter what problem she encountered, she could always solve it by dividing it by two.
Therefore, I have always felt that Cai Cai is a woman who belongs to the type of strong woman, until I saw the way Cai Cai and her boyfriend got along, I understood that all girls are eager to be a child in their hearts.
Once on Valentine's Day, Cai Cai's boyfriend deliberately held a large bouquet of flowers and waited for her downstairs at the company.
The first time Cai Cai saw her boyfriend, she trotted all the way to his body, and Cai Cai's boyfriend also spoiled her face and touched Cai Cai's head.
Seriously, I've never seen Cai Cai look like this.
After all, in front of us, she had never acted so childish.
Later Cai Cai said to me:
"In fact, the way I am strong in the company every day is the way I have been honed by life over the years. To put it bluntly, it's all fake. It wasn't until I met my boy that he made me understand that girls really don't have to grow up.
He would bend over and tie my laces when my laces were loose and would prepare my favorite meals before I left work. He would laugh when I was under a lot of pressure and laugh that he made enough money to support me. The thing I look forward to most every day is that he will pick me up from work. ”
03
Suddenly remembering that when Hu Xing'er got married, she once said such a passage:
"I am very grateful to my exs and exs, one of whom taught me how to be an obedient girl and the other who taught me how to be a mature woman, but what I am most grateful to is my current one, who taught me how to be a child."
The most comfortable way to get along with people is to be able to be yourself.
A person you truly love will make you feel at ease being a little girl in his arms, rather than trying to make you mature and sensible.
What does the best love look like?
I think that the best love should be to use all the pampering to accompany a person, in this relationship, you can live out the most authentic self.
Remember, I saw a particularly poignant story on the Internet before:
A girl in her early twenties met a boy she liked very much. Girls at this age are innocent and romantic, and always have a lot of very childish and cute behaviors.
She likes to sneak behind the door, jump out to scare her boyfriend, and like to pull her boyfriend to watch horror movies in the middle of the night.
Sometimes on a whim, I will buy myself snacks and toys that children like.
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However, over time, her boyfriend began to think that she was childish, and almost every time when he was happy to play a prank, her boyfriend would respond coldly.
Even sometimes, the boyfriend will be very speechless to say: "Can you be more mature?" ”
This sentence is said a lot, and the girl really slowly changes herself, she no longer coddles her boyfriend, nor does she beg for any surprises and gifts.
She no longer likes to watch TV and spends her time at work.
Slowly, the boy noticed that the girl had become unsmiling, and she was reluctant to eat even her former favorite snack.
The relationship between the two people also became more and more awkward, until the back broke up for no reason.
Even if the boy intends to save it, it will not help.
In fact, I have always felt that love is a very magical thing, which can make an adult who has experienced the world become a childish child.
Only two people in the face of love can be the most authentic self.
If a person is always forced to change themselves in a relationship, then the relationship is bound to make you feel depressed and unhappy.
You want her to be more mature, but her childish appearance is the best proof of loving you. When she's no longer childish, she doesn't need you anymore.
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I've ever seen the question: "What's it like to be spoiled as a child?" ”
When I first saw this problem, I thought of my parents' "abusive love".
In my impression, my father is the typical three-good husband: he earns money, he does housework, and his wife is spoiled.
If there is any disadvantage, it is too good to "bully". (Of course it was limited to being bullied by my mom.) ）
When I was a child, my family went to the supermarket, and every time I passed by the snack area, no matter how much I cried and shouted to buy snacks, my father would not bother me.
However, as soon as my mom opened her mouth, my dad said one word: "Buy!" ”
Every time I eat, my dad just takes care of picking vegetables for my mom, and I want to eat a piece of meat in my eyes, and my dad has to say a few words.
"You look at you, you're so fat and still eat meat!" This plate of meat is what I made for your mother, can you eat less? ”
Every time I went shopping, my dad only held my mom's hand and never cared about me; every time I had a New Year's holiday, my mom had big and small gifts, and I didn't have anything.
Now my mother is middle-aged, the clothes have not been washed several times, as long as she opens her mouth to shout husband, my father must appear at the first time.
Until now, our family's status is still the same: my mother, my father, my mother's kittens, my mother's flowers, and finally me.
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When my mother faced me, she always looked like a "tiger mother".
However, every time I was with my dad, I would instantly become a spoiled little girl.
I remember the famous program host Kou Naixin once said:
"A woman's temper, and the way she gets along with you, is really what you raise."
This sentence is absolutely true to my parents.
Otherwise, why does everyone say that women are all kitten systems, the more pets are more cute, the more spoiled and childish.
Love has always been very beautiful and magical.
It's like magic that makes two people who love each other younger and younger and more and more like children.
Life is not long, it is not short.
But falling in love is a long and expectant thing, and for women, a man who loves you must be someone who is willing to spoil you as a child no matter what.
Hopefully, all girls can meet someone like this, who likes all your childish looks, and will also leave you with the sweetest bite in the middle of the watermelon.
About the Author: Su Xiaobei, a writer of cutting-edge emotions. Hope that with simple words, it can warm you.