Although the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law are deeply in love with the same person, the different identities of the two have led to the difference in the perspective of the two people, resulting in a series of problems that are difficult to solve. "Mother-in-law and Mother", a family relationship observation reality show, magnifies the "mother-in-law contradiction" in real life in front of the camera, which has aroused the thinking of many viewers.
After the second season of "Mother-in-law and Mother" was broadcast, the relationship between Chen Songling and her mother-in-law became the biggest slot and highlight in almost every episode of the show. The main reason for this is that Zhang Duo's mother was a little too "double standard" and "mean" to Chen Songling in some cases, which caused discomfort to the audience, because Chen Songling's encounter resonated with many "daughters-in-law" who were harshly treated by "mother-in-law".
"Double standard" is the most important trait of Zhang Duo's mother, and it is also the trait that makes Chen Songling collapse the most.
In the program, Zhang Duo and Chen Songling welcomed Zhang Duo's parents to the house together, and as soon as they entered the door, Zhang Duo's mother hugged Zhang Duo affectionately and affectionately called Zhang Duo "DuoDuo". No matter how warmly Chen Songling greeted her on the side, she ignored it as if she couldn't hear or see, and didn't pay attention to Chen Songling's daughter-in-law at all. Zhang Duo's mother has been praising her son all day long, but she has never praised her daughter-in-law.
Chen Songling actually did not like to eat garlic all the time, and Zhang Duo's mother prepared a gift for Chen Songling as a basket of garlic, and instructed Chen Songling to eat it when he ate breakfast. Chen Songling clearly told her mother-in-law that she did not like to eat garlic, but her mother-in-law said that she would get used to eating it a few times.
Later, Chen Songling invited Zhang Meng and Liu Yun, who came to the house as guests, to try garlic with bread, and when Zhang Meng looked embarrassed, Zhang Duo's mother immediately reprimanded Chen Songling sternly: "Song Song, people don't like it, you don't force people." Zhang Duo's mother seems to have forgotten how she forced Chen Songling to use garlic with bread.
Chen Songling told Zhang Duo's mother that she had set a positioning for Zhang Duo's mobile phone, and she could see Zhang Duo's location anytime and anywhere. After Zhang Duo's mother knew about it, she immediately said that Chen Songling did not trust Zhang Duo. Chen Songling explained that Zhang Duo can also see his own positioning at any time, which is mutual. After hearing such an explanation, Zhang Duo's mother's expression immediately became relaxed, and asked Chen Songling to help her locate Zhang Duo's father on her mobile phone. Doesn't there need to be trust between her and Zhang Duo's father?
In the mother-in-law relationship between Chen Songling and Zhang Duo's mother, the latter has been suppressing the former in all aspects. Others can't tell whether it was an inadvertent move or a deliberate target, but after the program was broadcast, many viewers were very distressed that Chen Songling pretended to be relaxed and tolerant in this relationship.
In fact, in the eyes of the viewers, the love story of Chen Songling and Zhang Duo is a true portrayal of the "immortal couple"!
Chen Songling, born in 1971, is already fifty years old this year, not only the skin state began to deteriorate, but even the figure began to look out of shape. Although she now looks like a middle-aged woman, she was a proper "male god harvester" when she was young, and almost all the "senior handsome men" in the Hong Kong entertainment industry who can be named have cooperated with her in film and television dramas.
Chen Songling participated in the "Ye Qianwen Singing Competition" at the age of fourteen and won the championship, thus officially debuting in the Hong Kong music scene; at the age of sixteen, he starred in the movie "Ghost Horse Campus" with Li Lizhen and Chen Shanhe, the hottest idol actors in Hong Kong at that time, thus officially entering the film world.
After the great success of "Ghost Horse Campus", Chen Songling's popularity has also been further enhanced. But at that time, Chen Songling did not have too much ambition to enter the show business circle, but first completed his studies. After Chen Songling told her mother about her thoughts, her mother not only did not support her, but also used this as an excuse to abuse her many times.
Chen Songling, who could not bear her mother's scolding, chose to call the police, and when the police asked her whether she wanted to sue her mother for domestic violence, Chen Songling said firmly: "No, as long as she does not beat me in the future." Although the mother and daughter did not go to the stage of confrontation court, the mother's domestic violence did cause Chen Songling's mind and body to suffer great harm.
In order to avoid domestic violence again, after leaving the police station, Chen Songling moved to his mother's house, stopped all acting activities, and focused all his attention on his studies. Accompanied and enlightened by Gan Ma, Chen Songling was finally admitted to the University of hong Kong Chinese with excellent results.
After going to college, the expenses were increasing and there was no financial support from her parents, so out of desperation, Chen Songling had to earn her own living expenses and tuition fees through filming.
In 1989, 18-year-old Chen Songling collaborated with Dawn on the TV series "Tianya Song Girl", and she successfully entered the ranks of first-line actresses with the role of "Golden Voice Circling". Since then, she has become the most popular actress in Hong Kong at that time.
From 1990 to 2004, it belonged to the era of Chen Songling, in which chen Songling not only shot dozens of well-received film and television dramas, but also acted with most of hong Kong's male stars.
But in 2005, Chen Songling suffered the biggest blow in her life, and all the property she had accumulated over the years was transferred by the most trusted agent, Ah Bao. Ah Bao is the daughter of Chen Songling's mother, for her Ah Bao is like a relative, never thought that Ah Bao would treat herself like this.
If it were not for Chen Songling's father's illness, Chen Songling wanted to use her savings to go to the bank to check the accounts for her father's medical treatment, and she might not have found that the balance in her account was only a pitiful four-digit figure. In the end, Chen Songling's father died of hatred because he did not have enough money to treat his illness. Also in this year, Chen Songling found out that she had an ovarian tumor and had to remove the uterus, but she couldn't even make up the cost of the operation, and finally relied on the generosity of several friends to temporarily get through the difficulties.
After experiencing the three heavy blows of being betrayed by the most trusted person, the death of his beloved father, and the torture of serious illness, Chen Songling suffered from severe depression and once wanted to end his life.
Later, with the help of Jacky Cheung, Chen Songling began to try stage plays and decided to start over in a new place, so she came to the mainland.
In 2008, 37-year-old Chen Songling and 31-year-old Zhang Duo sparked a spark of love when they collaborated on the TV series "Blood Is Not Cold". Although Zhang Duo is 8 years younger than Chen Songling, Zhang Duo's careful, meticulous and gentle patience makes Chen Songling feel warmer than ever. Before the two established a relationship, Chen Songling confessed to Zhang Duo that he had removed his uterus due to illness and that it was impossible to have children in this life.
Rather than being surprised, Zhang Duo was more distressed about what happened to Chen Songling. Zhang Duo understood at that time that Chen Songling, a girl who looked incomparably weak, had silently suffered so much pain and suffering, which made him even more determined to love Chen Songling for a lifetime.
At first, Zhang Duo's mother was quite happy when she knew that Zhang Duo was in love with Chen Songling, after all, Chen Songling's appearance and working ability were quite good. However, when he learned that Chen Songling was eight years older than Zhang Duo and had no fertility, he began to oppose Zhang Duo's continued interaction with Chen Songling.
In the face of his mother's opposition, Zhang Duo did not choose to resist in an overly radical way, but seriously communicated with his mother. Zhang Duo seriously told his mother that he really wanted to live with Chen Songling for a lifetime, and age was not a problem at all in his eyes.
Zhang Duo believes that it does not matter if he has no children, because at the beginning of their relationship, he formulated a very meticulous pension plan. In this pension plan, Zhang Duo planned in detail the lives of him and Chen Songling for the next four decades. In the end, Zhang Duo's mother agreed to the marriage between the two.
In fact, from Zhang Duo's performance in "Mother-in-law and Mother 2", it can be seen that Zhang Duo actually knows that his mother has some "harsh treatment" of Chen Songling, and he has always maintained Chen Songling in his own way. In the absence of outsiders, Zhang Duo will directly side with Chen Songling and point out what is wrong with his mother; in the case of outsiders, Zhang Duo will worry about his mother's face and use a few jokes with high emotional intelligence to alleviate the awkward atmosphere between his mother and his wife.
Zhang Duo's method of dealing with the small friction between his wife and mother is worth learning from many men. After all, a husband who can speak for his wife is the key to maintaining family harmony.
If Jiang Hongjie could correct his mother's statement in time and give Fukuhara Ai some care and comfort when his mother said that Fukuhara Ai was a "hen who can lay golden eggs", perhaps they would not have come to this step.
In a happy marriage, the real subjects are the husband and wife. Neither the in-laws nor the elders of the mother-in-law's family have the right to overly interfere with the way the two families get along and their living habits, because life is their own.
The mother-in-law's excessive interference in the marriage life of the little two is easy to cause contradictions between husband and wife on the one hand, and on the other hand, it is easy to make her son's situation embarrassing.
The reason why two people choose to get married and start a new family is because they can both accept and tolerate each other's shortcomings. However, some deficiencies in the daughter-in-law may not be tolerated by the mother-in-law, and a little carelessness will cause the escalation of the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, so that the two ends of the middle son are angry.
Distance does not necessarily produce beauty, but it will make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more perfect.