Should parents fully respect their children's wishes?
What would you do if your kids had strange hobbies?
Every child has their own hobbies, and some hobbies are very positive, such as reading and playing ball.
There are also hobbies that are very niche, such as cos, Lolita and JK uniforms.
Some parents will respect their children unreservedly and give them enough freedom.
However, if there is no bottom line for this respect, the consequences will be unimaginable:
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Female college students wear JK to take graduation photos
The comments section is one-sided:
Have you taken graduation photos in recent times?
When taking graduation photos is the most time for students to gather, the opportunity is rare, and it must be enough to take a picture.
Except for a version of the traditional bachelor's uniform graduation photo, which stipulates uniform clothing, the graduation photo has no special requirements for students' dress.
Today's students are quite rich in vision and creativity.
Every student wants their graduation photo to be the most special, so the form of graduation photos is also diverse.
Many students will want to use a variety of props to take creative photos;
There are also people who will make full efforts in clothing, such as Hanfu, Zhongshanfu, etc., which have a special charm and are also praised by everyone.
Some girls are more "fashionable" and choose the "JK uniform" that is particularly popular at the moment to take graduation photos.
The girls on the graduation photos are all beautiful and lovely, and the skirts of the JK uniform are short, making their legs more slender, and the long legs on the screen are full!
Years later, looking back at the photos, my heart is also infinitely emotional, and the laughter that was once with my roommates seems to be right in front of me.
Didn't expect that the photo that was originally left as a souvenir of himself attracted a lot of discordant voices? Criticized as "no college student"!
Some netizens commented that "Zhongshan suit" is not good? College students should look like college students.
Some people say that dressing up like this is "offensive", it is simply "unsightly"!
In the face of this scene, there are also many people who support students, saying that what age is it now, is there anything wrong with the novelty that young people like to wear? The student replied directly, "I do!" ”
What do you think?
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"My son wore a skirt to school
Opened by classmates.."
And for the freedom of dressing, I don't know why children tend to be less free anymore:
Some time ago, there was a primary school boy who wore a skirt in kindergarten, and as a result, he was lifted by a classmate!
It turned out that one day, the boy came home and told his father that he wanted to wear a skirt to school because it was cool and beautiful.
Mom and Dad felt that if their son wanted to try, he should support it, so he took his child to the mall to pick out a dress.
The next day, the child went to school happily in her skirt.
At the school gate, it attracted the attention of other children and surprised the teacher on duty.
Neither the father nor the son cared, and the child still walked into the school happily.
About 10 minutes after the child entered the school gate, the class teacher sent a message to say why the child was wearing such clothes, which was told by the classmates.
The father also quickly returned the message to the teacher, saying that the child insisted that he did not want the skirt and long hair to be labeled as a woman, so he decided to support the child's decision, hoping that this would become part of the child's growth education.
When the father went to pick up the child from school that afternoon, the son came home and immediately cried bitterly.
The child was first criticized by the class teacher for wearing strange clothes to go to school, and later he was lifted by his classmates and ridiculed, feeling too humiliated.
Dad was furious when he heard this, and asked the classmate who lifted his skirt to apologize, and the matter was over.
Dad feels that this is a rare educational opportunity for children to realize how important it is to stick to their own knowledge and opinions.
However, this matter has caused widespread controversy among netizens.
In Ming Dad's view, he can understand the heart of parents who want to support their children.
But shouldn't there be a time-by-age?
Children in elementary school care a lot about what their teachers say and what their classmates think.
With you isolating your child from your classmates when you were a child, it is better to correct it in time and transmit the correct values to him.
Moreover, when the child reaches the primary school age and has a preliminary awareness of the gender of men and women, will this confuse his gender consciousness?
In essence, this father does respect the child's ideas, but also because of "willfulness" to the child caused a certain harm.
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Ion jing supported her son Harry
Dress in women's clothes to be self
I believe that everyone knows Yi Nengjing, Yi Nengjing gave his son Harry, but gave him 100% respect.
Earlier, her son Harry had posted a number of his own easy-to-wear looks on Instagram, which caused bad comments from netizens.
Some netizens could not accept it, and even said that Harry was simply losing his parents' face.
Later, when Harry was constantly amplified and attacked by the media, he called and asked Yi Nengjing:
"Will you get hurt, will it affect your work, or will I ever shut down social networks and stop posting any more?"
Yi Nengjing's suggestion was: No.
Not only that, she also strongly affirmed the value and significance of the child's existence:
"You are free."
"You can be yourself."
Both parents also give their children the corresponding freedom and respect, why is the result different?
Children at different ages need different respects.
When children grow up, their willingness is mostly autonomous, and when they want to be themselves more strongly, it is not impossible to choose the appropriate way to let go.
The previous father let the child "fly away" too much, which led to such a tragedy:
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When the child wants to be self
What should parents do?
What to do when your child has strange ideas and wants to be themselves?
Wise parents should at least first communicate with their children about the consequences and tell him what kind of situation they may be facing.
How his teachers and classmates might evaluate him, and how the outside world judged him.
Discuss with the child whether he really has the ability to face the consequences of this matter, if the child feels that the teacher's criticism and the evaluation of his classmates are not important, that is, to wear a skirt, it is not too late to support him.
The most frightening thing is that because the impression is too deep, it is likely that years or even decades later.
When his classmates saw him, they would still take this matter out as a joke, and they didn't know if the boy was strong enough to bear it at that time.
For the female college students' wearing JK, and Harry's transvestite style, this is all voluntary children, and they do not care about the judgment of outsiders.
They know exactly what they will encounter, but they can afford the so-called outcome.
If it is only a thought for the child, the parents will unconditionally support and do not tell the children the consequences, and the final trauma to them may be very large.
Any personality should be based on abiding by the rules, and there are no strict requirements for dressing in college graduation photos, and it is not inevitable for children to diverge their personalities.
Parents respect their child's individuality, but they can't be completely reckless about the consequences!