For me, divorce is the end of suffering and the starting point for happiness

The life of his friend Xiao Tang can be described as bumpy and bumpy, full of sorrow and joy.

She was a Peugeot girl when she was young, tall and with big eyes. In the era of scarce academic qualifications, he has a college diploma, and he is more clever, and he is slightly outstanding in writing, painting and painting. Such a girl is destined to be eye-catching, and it is also destined to make her life different.

When she was about to graduate from the teacher's college, a female classmate in the neighboring class approached her and asked her to introduce her boyfriend. The female classmate was entrusted by her uncle to find a girl with a degree to make friends for her cousin.

The girl's cousin worked in a municipal institution, with a general appearance, medium size, a white face, not very talkative, and looked very loyal. The girl's uncle works in the Municipal Education Bureau, as long as Xiao Tang and his cousin are in contact, they will definitely be able to arrange a good job after graduation.

Xiao Tang's family is in a remote rural area, her parents are honest farmers, according to the graduation distribution situation at that time, basically where to go, her future distribution direction is the dilapidated rural middle school where she graduated. In the 1980s and 1990s, there was a huge difference between urban and rural areas, and it was the dream of every rural girl to work in the city and obtain a stable and superior living environment.

In contact with her boyfriend, although the other party does not say much, the overall look is still very pleasant, in addition to the lower education than himself, other feelings are still very satisfied. The boyfriend's parents are very happy to see her, ask for warmth, send clothes today, send leather shoes tomorrow, and care for her. But because she was still studying after all, the university campus management was also very strict at that time, and she did not have a lot of time to meet and communicate with her boyfriend.

We got along like this for nearly half a year, and it was time to graduate. At this time, people are really panicked, and in the face of the important threshold of graduation assignment, everyone is more or less anxious. After all, the distribution unit is basically related to the living environment and welfare benefits in the second half of life.

At this time, the boyfriend's family proposed to go through the marriage procedures before graduation. Because they have to arrange work for girls, and arranging work requires people, who will ask for someone to do things for an outsider? And only the identity of the daughter-in-law who is justified in the name will arrange the work more smoothly.

The marriage procedures were completed, and Xiao Tang was assigned to teach in a school that everyone favored as he wished.

Soon after marriage, she discovered the flaws in the man's personality, lost his temper for no reason, did not like to communicate with people, liked to drink a lot of wine, did not go home after work, and did not answer three questions. Fortunately, they lived with their mother-in-law at that time, and the mother-in-law always prepared meals in advance before she left work, and the in-laws and mother-in-law were all characters on the scene, always sending warmth in time when she was slightly dissatisfied, and playing round in time when she and her husband were unhappy.

When she fully woke up and found that the man had a mental illness and unchangeable vices, her son fell to the ground. Helpless, forced to endure pain, and stubbornly persisted for four years.

In the fifth year of her marriage, she bravely divorced. A person left the house and resolutely lived a single life. This singleness is eighteen years. Although I talked about a few friends during the period, they all ended in vain. All kinds of speculations, all kinds of rumors, all kinds of hardships she endured silently alone, but never forgot her love for life. She is still so fashionable, or full of expectations for the future.

"Thank God for meeting a good person."

"Thank you for the fate that I have the privilege of meeting my true lover."

These are the words she often refers to me now. In every word, there is happiness, satisfaction, and satisfaction. The long search and unremitting pursuit made her finally get the best home when she was over forty years old. Someone asked her that the porridge was warm, and someone accompanied her to stand at dusk, why didn't she thank God, how could she not thank fate?

Her current husband is also divorced and a civil servant who does his job. Both have experienced an unsatisfactory marriage, and when they remarry, they meet each other with good hearts and sincerity, and cherish each other. After work, it is inseparable, going to relatives and friends' homes on holidays, going in and out of pairs, grace and love, sweet and sweet.

Her belated happiness was unanimously recognized by everyone. Everyone analyzed the reasons for her happiness in the following aspects: two people belonged to the same wronged party in the previous marriage, and it was naturally very difficult to meet honest people who treated each other sincerely; both people had stable salary incomes, and no one involved in taking advantage of anyone; the children of the two people worked in the field after graduating from college, and there was no entanglement between children and various kinds of interactions; they were not old, in good health, and could continue to cultivate deep feelings in the long years.

When talking to people about the difficult years after their divorce, people asked Xiao Tang whether he had thought about remarriing at the most difficult time, and had he ever regretted the idea of divorce? She said firmly: "For me, divorce is the end of pain and the starting point for happiness, and I have never regretted my original decision." Without the original determination, I am still struggling in an unbearable marriage, in that case, wouldn't my life be in vain? ”

No one's happiness is easily attainable.

Sometimes, in order to get a real emotional home, it takes ten or twenty years of waiting and searching. Sisters who are still suffering in an unhappy marriage, do you have the courage to bet on a lonely life for an unpredictable future?