The person the child loves most... Only love can cultivate him. When a child sees and feels the love of his parents for him, he will try to obey and not provoke his parents to be angry.
—— (Former Soviet Union)
Parental love is selfless, and has always been praised for people, but do not regard it as a gift to the child, otherwise it will become a doting, but will promote the child's selfishness.
——Zhou Hong
Without sunlight, all things cannot grow, and without love, the child's spiritual personality cannot develop and grow. Love is the reason why a child comes into this world, and it is also the reason why a child grows up. When a parent loves his or her child unconditionally, the child is able to find the initial "self-worth" better and faster, which creates a desire to expand beyond life and explore the world around him, which is the starting point for his or her happy growth.
Psychologists have long discovered that children need the most attention, and they urgently need parents or teachers to pay attention to themselves, which is a physical and psychological need.
Studies have shown that one-year-old babies have already seen "emotional resonance", which is the basis for the formation and development of higher emotions such as children's sense of morality, reason, and beauty. Studies of children's emotional development have shown that children who have no love or lack of love tend to grow and develop poorly, their speech and movements are slow, and their intellectual non-intellectual factors lag behind those who receive normal care and love. Therefore, love is the necessary spiritual nourishment for children's growth.
However, few parents today can truly care for their children. In the book "New Discoveries in Breast Milk", the author writes about this:
Four years ago, when I was writing a message for the National Women's Congress, I wanted to hear the voices and heartfelt words of my children, so I went to interview students from a key school in Beijing and asked them to help me come up with ideas, and I also wanted to hear their love songs for their mothers. Unexpectedly, a girl stood up and said, "My mother now doesn't know how to love at all." How to write a love hymn to them!"
I looked at her in amazement and said to myself, a little bit to myself, "How could it be?"
"Really! They really don't know how to love. So she told me a little story:
One day, I saw a cartoon in the newspaper, and a girl said to her mother, "Mom, I love you!" Her mother looked at her angrily with wide eyes: "Where did you learn so badly?" Looking at that cartoon, I couldn't understand why her mom was saying "Mom, I love you!" This sentence was so angry that I wanted to go home and try my mother's reaction to this sentence.
When I came home from school that day, as soon as I walked in the door, I said to my mother, "Mom, I love you!" My mom was reading the newspaper and didn't react at all. I said out loud again:
"Mom, I really am you!"
My mother slammed the newspaper: "Who do you not love who do I love?"
Immediately after that, she counted away: "I have been waiting for you all day with big fish and big meat, and I have been riding around you before and after the saddle, shouldn't you still love me?"
The next day, I told the story to a good friend, and she said she wanted to test her mother's reaction to the words "I love you." After school that day, the first thing she said when she came home was, "Mom, I love you!" Her mother was knitting sweaters and ignored her.
She raised her voice and said, "Mom, I really love you!"
Her mother pushed the sweater the couch, Say, how much does it cost?
Do these two mothers really not know how to "love"?" Did "love" really turn into debt collection and money in their hearts? No, it's not. It is just that they have ossified "love" in the information of language, closed other channels of "love" communication, lost and forgotten the original expression of "love", lost and forgotten the most direct, delicate and cordial emotional communication with children's lives, lost and forgotten the simplest and most simple ancient meaning of love, and discarded the most primitive communication between mothers and children.