Recently, a variety show that Shu Qi participated in was on the hot search:
Shu Qi's impression on me has always been the image of a domineering queen. Whether it's facing career or feelings.
She once made the domineering statement:
Proper Shu Qi-style speech.
But in the face of feelings so free, she was also a humble person in front of feelings.
Yet humble love, it is difficult to be happy.
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Humility and perfection are often impossible to be perfect
Shu Qi was also a humble little girl in her relationship.
Because of the movie "City of Glass", Dawn and Shu Qi met and fell in love, at this time, Dawn is already a superstar of the King of Heaven, countless fans are crazy for it, and countless women are fallen for it.
At that time, Shu Qi was not enough to stand by Dawn's side. Willing to be dawn's underground lover.
Shu Qi once said that she is the kind of person who is like a fool once she falls in love, and she will not leave herself some leeway - for the identity of the underground lover, she is obedient like a little daughter-in-law.
On various occasions, Shu Qi always replied: We are not lovers. Or, at that time, Shu Qi hoped to exchange his humiliation for more compassion for Dawn.
However, what Shu Qi could not stand was dawn's uninterrupted gossip.
On her 29th birthday, Shu Qi proposed marriage to Dawn, who was photographed dating South Korean actress Kim Hee-sun.
Dawn's father made it clear that he did not agree to the two men's interaction. Disheartened, Shu Qi proposed to break up.
Ending a 7-year relationship is like a secret that can't be said.
Zhang Ailing said: "When I saw him, she became very low and very low, low to the dust, but her heart was joyful, and flowers blossomed from the dust. ”
But in fact, love that is humble to the dust can never blossom into a happy flower.
In fact, when you really let yourself fall into the dust because you love someone, and completely lose yourself, you will find that not only do you not feel happy, but another person will not like you falling into the dust.
Unequal love will eventually make feelings unbalanced, and let the people you care about drift away.
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Those who are favored are always fearless
Loving too deeply is a disaster.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Loving someone is like smiling when drinking arsenic. ”
In the face of love, too many people are easy to lose their balance, in exchange for each other's care, excessive pay, excessive accommodation, love as humble as dust, but also willing as a gluttony.
However, such a drink of arsenic, the end is destined to be a tragedy.
Tong Liya, who used to be, is also such a person. After Yang Mi's introduction, she and Chen Sicheng met.
After that, Chen Sicheng pursued Tong Liya fiercely, and Tong Liya once felt that Chen Sicheng was unreliable.
Yang Mi advised her to try.
Soon after, Tong Liya became Chen Sicheng's girlfriend.
Tong Liya loves Chen Sicheng very humblely, in her eyes, Chen Sicheng is so excellent, so talented, so unattainable.
She felt so unremarkable, with Chen Sicheng, she climbed high.
Before getting married, it was also Tong Liya's marriage proposal, or on a show, when she cried excitedly into tears, Chen Sicheng was indifferent.
When Chen Sicheng made those remarks of "three wives and four concubines" and met two daughters at night,
Tong Liya was interviewed: You betrayed Chen Sicheng's soul and body, which one will you forgive?
Tong Liya only replied: "It's good to be able to go home."
No matter how much Chen Sicheng wandered outside, Tong Liya never said a word of denigration against him, and even mentioned her marriage in public without any complaints.
Tong Liya loves Chen Sicheng, loves too much, is too humble, and even loses herself.
Chen Sicheng is also becoming more and more fearless in this relationship, and scandals are flying all over the sky.
In the end, they still ushered in the end of "divorce".
People who have truly loved know that not all those who have worked hard can get their hearts and minds, and not all who wait with all their hearts can get the clouds and the moon.
Love is humble, do not dare to be true to yourself, do not dare to say true words, but pretend to try to make yourself a perfect person, accustomed to pleasing and pleasing in front of the other party, completely losing their own opinions and destroying their own personality.
Such a person will only make himself dull, in exchange for the other party's fearlessness, and cannot get the same respect for you as him.
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All humility is due to the fear of loss
All the humility is the fear of loss, they let go of dignity, let go of personality, let go of stubbornness, all because they can't let go of the person she loves.
In the relationship, the women who are humble to the dust are just not high enough emotional intelligence, they are just using clumsy methods to let this feeling continue, even if he is very bad to her, cold and violent, ignoring, indifferent, sluggish... They are all willing to wait where they are.
In fact, the so-called waiting is just their own excuse, they just don't want to admit that the person they have loved with their hearts and lungs is actually not so loving to themselves.
At no time should you become humble and lose your dignity by loving someone.
Because when all this is not, you are just sitting in his eyes to confirm that you are not worthy of being loved, and stopping the loss in time is the only way to save yourself.
For the rest of your life, please love someone who loves you.