<h1>There is a mind map at the end of the article, it is recommended to collect! </h1>
It has to be said that having holidays is contagious.
One person will pass, a bunch of people will pass; the West will pass, the East will also pass.
No, seeing that Christmas is coming, in addition to the children in Western countries waiting for it, the Children in China are also excited; in addition to the children to actively prepare, parents must also open up in advance.
There is a friend, the son just went to kindergarten, these days have been listening to her complaining: there are more than 20 days before Christmas, the school has issued orders, the group news continues all day long, saying that they want to help their children prepare programs, parents should have meetings to discuss classroom layout, buy props, rehearsals, etc.
At the end of the day, my friend did not forget to mutter: A fake Christmas old man, is it necessary to work so hard to move the public? Simply tell the kids that it's fake.
Coincidentally, the debaters of the latest issue of "Strange Story" debated whether adults should tell children that fairy tales are fake.
Fu Seoul of jiang Xiaobai's team's sentence "If no one in this world cares about you anymore, there will be clouds in the sky that shed tears for you when you are sad" has touched countless people, and it has really proved that some things are indeed false, but the energy contained in them can bring people infinite warmth.
Fu Seoul in the "Strange Story" debate
In fact, life is a fairy tale. From birth to death, there are hardships and sweetness, even if we are wandering in a lifetime, our hearts are still staged in various pursuits in the rivers and lakes.
Just like "Santa Claus", even if there is no such person in the real world, it represents our fairytale-like dream, containing huge energy and worthy of a lifetime of protection.
Next, let's talk about the meaning of guarding dreams from the source of "Santa Claus".
<h1>01</h1>
<h1>Santa's Secret</h1>
Santa Claus is a well-known figure in the West and is the symbol of Christmas.
At first, Christmas was just a religious holiday. In the 4th century, people celebrated the birth of Jesus, so Christmas at that time was always carried out as a religious activity, without the role of Santa Claus.
But that's not to say that "Santa Claus" doesn't have real character archetypes.
At about the same time, there was a devout Christian nobleman in Greece named Nicholas, who was kind and helpful.
Santa Claus prototype Nicholas
Nicholas did a lot of good things, most notably the story of helping the three sisters out of poverty.
Their father was poor, the creditors were pressing, and the roadless father wanted to sell his three daughters for money. When Nicholas heard about it, he found three stockings filled with gold, and sneaked them into the room of the three girls when it was dark.
The three sisters were saved, and the beautiful image of Nicholas also met the Christian nation's demand for dreams, successfully incarnated as "Santa Claus", appearing in Christmas as a white beard, sending gifts and warmth to each family.
From this, we can see that "Santa Claus" has a real-life character archetype, not a fabrication. The warmth and happiness that Santa Claus brings is slightly higher than in real life, but it is completely within reach.
This fits all our definition of a dream: based on reality, slightly higher than real life, but with effort, one can reach it.
There is a saying that goes like this:
Believe in the choice of history.
The reason why "Santa Claus" can be preserved for thousands of years must be that it exists. It brings joy not only to children, but also to adults with hope and warmth.
Therefore, "Santa Claus" looks like a big lie, but it is actually our dream. And dreams are real.
In the dream, we look for the thickness of life, look for the purpose of life.
Here, I would like to share two stories about "Santa Claus", after reading it, we may have a deeper understanding of the lie of conservative "Santa Claus".
In 1897, the New York Sun published an article titled "Does Santa Claus Exist?" Editorial, publicly replying to a letter from Virginia:
Really, Virginia, Santa Claus is real.
After seeing this comment, Virginia was very happy, and from then on, she firmly believed in the existence of Santa Claus, and cheered every year in anticipation of The coming of Christmas.
In Santa Claus's hometown of Northern Finland's lapland province, there are 50 real "Santa Claus" who are rigorously trained and certified.
They receive millions of letters from around the world every year, and they reply one by one, signed by Santa Claus.
Since "Santa Claus" is equivalent to our dreams, keeping the secret of "Santa Claus" is actually guarding the dream, then some people have to ask: Why does everyone have to have a dream?
Next, let's see what dreams can really bring us.
<h1>02</h1>
<h1>Protect "Santa Claus" and protect our dreams</h1>
To help you better understand the meaning of dreams, let me first talk about what we would be like without dreams.
There is a widely circulated term in psychology called the "Seligman effect," which refers to:
When a person or animal is constantly frustrated, he will feel powerless to do anything about everything, lose confidence, and fall into a helpless state of mind.
Martin Seligman
This was proposed by the American psychologist Martin Seligman. To demonstrate this effect, he did a very famous dog experiment:
In 1967, Seligman put some dogs in closed cages and then electrocuted them.
Experiments have found that when the dogs first started being electrocuted, they struggled desperately and tried their best to escape the cage; but after many fruitless attempts, they were finally willing to lie on the ground and accept the pain of the electric shock.
Seligman then put the dogs in another cage. The middle of this cage is separated by a partition, which is high enough for dogs to jump over. There is an electric shock at one end of the partition and no shock at the other end.
After the experiment began, the dogs had been lying on the ground receiving electric shocks, and even if the partition was short enough, they would not jump.
In fact, as long as they jump over the partition, they can avoid the pain of electric shock.
From this, we should already know that the dog has entered a state of "learned helplessness", that is, a hopeless gray and dark state.
Back to dreams, if there are no dreams, we are like the dogs in the experiment, caught in the psychological state of "learned helplessness".
In a life without dreams, we lose the motivation to live, we are insensitive to the hardships of reality, and we lose the joy of exploring anything.
But if we have a dream, just like a magician has a magic wand, we can create a triple realm of life and eventually go to the commanding heights of life.
1. Keep going.
People with dreams, the first state they experience is: they believe that a road has been going, and they do not give up lightly.
In the movie "When Happiness Knocks", father Chris said a sincere word to his son:
If you have a dream, defend it.
When guarding dreams, it is to survive one gray moment after another.
In this realm, the emphasis is on defending and not giving up.
There is no shortage of people with this state, such as Andy in the movie "The Shawshank Redemption", facing the prison disaster from the sky, and resolutely does not give up his dreams; such as the Australian orator Li Kehu, even if born without limbs, still optimistically strives to live.
2. Adjust the road in time.
When encountering setbacks and obstacles, people with dreams will adjust the route in time, find a big road and then continue to run forward.
This is the second realm created by dreams, focusing on stopping losses in time and adjusting routes.
Ma
For example, we have all heard the entrepreneurial story of Ma Yun, a legendary life supported by dreams.
Ma Yun began to adhere to the Internet dream very early, and in 1995 he created the best marketing method at that time, the China Yellow Pages.
The Chinese Yellow Pages are the equivalent of the tangible Internet in real business. But after a year, the virtual Internet began to rise, ma Yun adjusted his thinking in time, turned away from the Chinese Yellow Pages, and embarked on the kangzhuang road of Internet marketing.
The result, we have all seen.
Changing the route in time is actually to better adhere to the dream.
3. There is no end to the road.
This is the third realm of dream creation. Those who can reach this state will find that dreams have no end, and every step is a starting point.
At this time, your focus is: continue to iterate, and go all the way down the road of your dreams.
For example, After China's "book saint" Wang Xizhi became famous, he still practiced words diligently, and every time he finished practicing, everyone said that it was very good, Wang Xizhi shook his head and continued to write.
Every time he finished writing, he had a different experience and a desire to continue writing, for example, on a "yong" word, Wang Xizhi wrote for 15 years.
This triple realm created by dreams is the process of continuous improvement of life. Without dreams, it is difficult to imagine how to go this way in life, just like without "Santa Claus", we can't imagine the joy of Christmas.
Since dreams are so important, how do we guard our dreams and be a person who does not give up on dreams?
<h1>03</h1>
<h1>How do we be people who don't give up on their dreams</h1>
On the road of life, there are many "Santa Claus", and behind every kind "Santa Claus", there is a reason to insist. How to do a good job of perseverance has a very practical meaning in life.
1. Choose a "chair" and sit firmly.
Maybe you haven't found the dream you stuck to, maybe you've found a lot of dreams. Either way, you first need to think about which one is the best "chair" for you.
The reason why the "chair" was chosen is that the goal is unique. We all know that setting more than two goals equals no goals. The only goal is to gather the full strength of life.
The "chair" mentioned here is not what we usually call "chair", and there is a very famous story behind it.
In the 1950s, Lucano Pavarotti, who was preparing to graduate from a normal school, was obsessed with music and had considerable musical literacy, and asked his father, "Am I a teacher or a singer?" ”
His father told him:
"If you want to sit in two chairs at the same time, you might fall out of the middle of the chair. Life requires you to choose only one chair to sit on. ”
Pavarotti thought about it again and again, and finally chose only one chair — to be a singer.
After seven years of hard work, Pavarotti made his debut on stage. After another seven years, he finally took the stage of the Metropolitan Opera.
Like Lucano Pavarotti, we have plenty of "chairs" to choose from, but consider our own competencies before choosing. If you haven't chosen this "chair" yet, think about what you can do.
Some people may ask: I can't figure out what I'm up to.
This is indeed sad. But don't worry, we can make a list of diaries and clarify our thinking:
(1) List things: List out what you do.
(2) Write out the results: Under each thing you have done, write down the achievements you have achieved so far.
(3) Take the maximum value: Analyze each achievement to determine the one that achieves the greatest result as its final "chair".
For example, some people speak English very well, but at the same time love yoga, and love to dance, etc., then we must first list the achievements, such as if yoga has the greatest achievements and has won international awards, then we can make yoga their "chair", the other two aspects can be used as personal hobbies, of course, it will also be of great help to their own yoga.
2. Be a snail and be down-to-earth.
After choosing a "chair", what we have to do is to make ourselves into a snail.
There is a story that says that there are only two animals that can reach the top of the pyramid: an eagle and a snail.
The eagle flew up with its own talent and wings. But the odds of talent are hard to come by.
The snail climbs up step by step from the bottom of the pyramid, it may take 1 month, or 1 year, 2 years, or even climb halfway down by the wind to climb again...
But there is no doubt that the snail, with its shell on its back, has also climbed to the top of the pyramid.
This is the spirit of the snail: step by step, down-to-earth, never give up.
Therefore, to chase your dreams, you must be ruthless in polishing yourself into a snail.
If you feel that the snail spirit is too weak and you still can't grasp the main points, you can remember this sentence in your mind: take one step at a time, believe in the power of time.
The American management accountant McKinsey said:
Time is the soil of all achievements in the world.
As long as we are responsible for doing it, time will naturally achieve it. Of course, this is not a negative response, it does contain a huge optimism. As long as you choose your chair and sit firmly in jail, your dreams may be coming towards you step by step, but you just haven't noticed it.
For example, Zhan Qingyun, who became popular in "Strange Story", you can't deny that she really survived step by step before she became popular, and she herself can't say exactly how far she can reach.
It's just that she has identified the dream path of "constantly seeking knowledge" and insists on going on, even if she borrows 1 million.
Of course, we also saw Zhan Qingyun who successfully walked out.
Zhan Qingyun
3. Learn to let go of attachments that have nothing to do with dreams.
There is a saying that goes:
Life is about giving up and getting perfection.
On the way to pursuing your dreams, you must identify what is useful to you and what can be immediately discarded. Here's a very effective way to think about it.
The idea of conjecture was originally used in psychological medicine to help the elderly relieve stress. But when it comes to excluding other distractions when we chase our dreams, it's a good idea to think.
Specifically:
(1) Imagine. Imagine yourself entering into attachments that have nothing to do with your dreams, and imagine your state of mind when you reach a certain height.
(2) Comparison. Compare the state of mind when entering the commanding heights of one's dreams with the state of mind when entering the heights reached by unrelated obsessions, and weigh which one you prefer, that is, to judge which one is more satisfied.
(3) Reversal. After comparison, most people will naturally return to the right path of their dreams. Because the reason why a dream is a dream is precisely because of the "chair" that we have chosen by weighing it up at the beginning.
For example, on the way to practicing piano and taking piano exams, you want to learn to dance. At this time, you may wish to imagine the heights that two skills can help you achieve, and weigh which one can make you go further, better, and make you more satisfied.
I think that as long as the comparison is done, many people will return to their original dreams.
4. Distinguish between dreams and fantasies.
Finally, we need to distinguish between dreams and fantasies.
The reason why you want to distinguish between dreams and fantasies is because many times people can't distinguish between your dreams and fantasies, thinking that the two are the same thing.
Not really. At any time, there is a big difference between dreams and fantasies, and the key to the difference lies in whether they act or not.
Teacher Yu Dan said:
Dreams are the crystallization of dreams and thoughts. Dreaming is a desire, thinking is an action.
Dreams are based on reality. Characters like "Santa Claus" bring people to fulfill wishes, such as getting warmth, such as getting gifts.
But the utopian only has thoughts, and there is no action to rely on. For example, when we sleep in bed, we think that we can pick up 1 million in bed together. No effort, where 1 million.
So, when measuring whether you're a dreamer or a dreamer, think about whether you've acted on it. If there is no action, it must be a fantasy and should be decisively abandoned.
For example, a college student who has just entered the workplace, if he dreams of becoming a famous enterprise supervisor within 3 years, there is a basis for action, because he has begun to work hard in the workplace, but if he wants to open a company with a market value of 5 million yuan within 3 years, this is a fantasy, because his efforts now are only to serve a good workplace person, not to serve an entrepreneur.
From "Santa Claus" to dreams, we have come a long way, but between "Santa Claus" and dreams, the two overlap and there is no distance.
In the festive atmosphere, guard our "Santa Claus", guard our dreams, and be a positive dreamer.
Dream simple map
epilogue:
"Santa Claus" is not real, but we must not expose it, whether it is for children or for ourselves. Because debunking it means that our dreams are shattered.
For a dream, we should protect it and chase it. Of course, there are some ways we can take to make our dream-chasing road go further.
Please believe that dreams await you in the future.
And you are the dreamer.