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Someone said: "The first reaction when encountering an incident hides the direction of a person's life." ”
Life changes all the time, and when problems arise, your reaction represents your mindset.
There are 10% of things in life that you can't control, while the other 90% are within your control. Taking control of your mindset is the best way to change your life.
When you are down, adjust your mindset
"When something bad happens, it is not necessarily necessary to have a bad ending, and if you change your mindset to face it, bad things cannot be regarded as good things."
In life, people inevitably encounter several difficult obstacles. If the mentality is unstable, the wind and rain can crush themselves. At the trough, go against the grain, don't be depressed, don't complain, and life goes against the grain.
Translator Li Jihong shared a past story.
After graduating from university, he wandered in Shanghai for five or six years, and he changed several jobs unsatisfactory. The gap between reality and ideals makes him complain and be bored every day. In the end, he simply resigned to make a living at home on translation and writing.
In such a dilemma, he often lamented that he did not meet his talents, and woke up from anxiety every day.
One of his friends, sensing his predicament, talked to him and later recommended books to him. Li Jihong accepted the encouragement of his friends and stayed up late to read the books, and all the negative mentalities such as anxiety, decadence, and complaints were immediately cured.
After adjusting his mentality, he actively faced all the unsatisfactory every day, and he did not stop translating and writing for a moment.
Later, he translated many literary works such as "The Great Gatsby", "Walden", "Noise and Turmoil", etc., and won several awards.
At a low point, being passive doesn't solve anything. A good mindset is the ladder you climb out of the bottom.
"The moment you change your mindset, your life takes a turn for the better." At the low point, see adversity as a tempering before the transformation, calm your mind, bury your head in hard work, and even the hard days can survive the return to happiness.
When you are proud, control your desires
Aristotle said, "Indulging one's desires is the greatest scourge." ”
Speaking of desire, it reminds me of a group of entertainment stars and Internet celebrity anchors who fell last year due to the expansion of desire.
Among them, some Internet celebrity anchors sit on tens of millions of fans, live broadcast viewing can reach nearly 100 million people; open a company, be the boss; elected as a member of the All-China Youth Federation Committee, selected into the 2020 Forbes list...
These achievements are beyond the reach of many people.
However, endless desire caused the anchor to fall from the top to the bottom.
In just one year, in order to satisfy the increasingly inflated desire, the anchor evaded hundreds of millions of yuan in taxes, and others paid tens of millions of yuan less in taxes. What is even more unimaginable is that the relevant departments have repeatedly urged the payment of taxes, but the anchor is still not completely rectified.
As a result, the local tax bureau ended her scene with a notice of administrative punishment.
Why make mistakes when you know you're doing something wrong? A passage by Zeng Shiqiang is a good explanation: "People cannot have no needs, in other words, people have desires." But people must learn to control their desires, to control their own needs. Because people who desire too much, it is impossible to satisfy. ”
One can strive for higher goals, but one cannot be greedy and unsatisfied. Desire can make or break people.
When you gaze into the abyss, sink in desire, the abyss will return to gaze. When you are proud, properly control your desires and be strict with yourself, in order to go further.
When you are lonely, keep your posture
"On the road of life, everyone is a lonely traveler." Everyone had a fire in their hearts, but those who passed by saw only smoke. There is no real empathy in the world, and no one can always see your fragile heart through your strong exterior.
"Life is like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge", Ji Xianlin is a popular figure who has come from the Republic of China, and is an academic hero in the eyes of the world, and his life is not smooth.
At an early age, he was separated from his mother, sent to the fence, and was alone on the road to school. Fortunately, Ji Xianlin has the ability to deal with loneliness.
The essence of human beings is loneliness, and if they cannot adapt to loneliness, it is difficult to live this life well. A man's achievements are directly proportional to the loneliness he endures.
There is always a way to go in life, there are always some problems to face on their own, and there are always some pains to be healed by themselves. In difficult days, you must learn to rely on yourself, comfort yourself, and motivate yourself. Loneliness is not a consequence that must be endured, but a choice to be true to oneself.
When you are lonely, keep your own unique posture, work hard calmly, struggle alone, and wait for yourself to slowly bloom.
A person's mentality is reflected in the way he deals with problems. Learn to live with him when you are lonely, in order to find the joy of the floating world.