01
Hu Fang stood in front of the window, looking at the vast night outside, very hesitant and troubled, her father was still lying on the hospital bed, but she still made up her mind to wait for her father to divorce as soon as he was discharged.
Hu Fang thought, how did I live like this? Can it still be done? I went through everything in my heart again, thought about the worst result, and felt that this marriage was still indispensable.
Not to mention the feelings, the husband did not do a little responsibility for the family, but also long-term domestic violence, of course, not to Hu Fang, but to his mother.
The personality is also getting more and more strange, especially in the past three or five years, almost every day to find a little thing, and the mother-in-law has a big fight, the family smoke miasma, can not be peaceful.
Hu Fang every day after work, she took the baby to play outside, the daughter is still in kindergarten, there is no homework, after returning, the husband and mother-in-law also quarreled almost, so they washed and slept with the baby.
Many times I thought about divorce, for example, there are three days before the confinement, in order to make the temperature of the milk powder for the baby, the husband pushed Hu Fang outside the door and let her roll, and it was also the third day of the Chinese New Year, when Hu Fang stayed in the hotel for three days.
For example, every year during the Dragon Boat Festival, mid-autumn festival, and Spring Festival, her husband is reluctant to return to her mother's house with her. The in-laws' family and the mother's family are not far away, the father-in-law died early, Hu Fang's brother made a home outside, Hu Fang felt that no matter whose family the New Year's Festival was, they would spend together.
But the husband always did not say a word, Hu Fang asked once, go to my parents' house, or pick up my parents to come to our house, did not expect the husband to jump like thunder, "Don't face, there is nothing to eat, marry the woman out to ah." ”
The result can only be a big quarrel, quarrel to the end of the husband raised his right hand high, this is Hu Fang's bottom line, you still dare to beat me?
Hu Fang was angry, took a lighter and ordered a gas canister, big deal, a pit buried, your dog day insulted my parents, still want to bully me?
The mother-in-law ran to hug Hu Fang and slowly knelt down. Since then, the heart has slowly cooled, no matter what festival in the future, Hu Fang does not ask, directly to accompany his parents, divorce is also on the agenda.
Since then, the husband has not used his hands and feet in front of Hu Fang, but has done so to his mother-in-law.
For example, several of Hu Fang's good sisters had dinner together, and without saying a word, her husband's face changed in an instant, and in front of the people at the table, he pointed at Hu Fang and said viciously, "When I clean up after you." ”
Hu Fang really felt that there was no face, and thought to herself, although I Hu Fang is not a person with a head and a face, but everyone has to face it, moreover, I Hu Fang is not a useless person.
At that time, Hu Fang's work unit was better than her husband's, and her income was higher than her husband's.
This time, Hu Fang's determination to divorce was also determined.
But the daughter is small, this is the main reason for Hu Fang's hesitation, when the daughter is three years old, she will say to Hu Fang: The son of the son is with him, and when he is older, he will say, Mother I also love you, Hu Fang's heart will be soft.
After year after year, the husband is not a person, as air, fortunately, although the mother-in-law's mouth is broken, she is a good hand at doing housework.
02
Why this time? Her father Chinese New Year's Eve suddenly fell ill at night, Hu Fang stayed in the hospital for three days, and her husband symbolically came to see it.
Because of the Spring Festival, the hospital can only do a lot of examinations on the fourth day of the first year, and Hu Fang queued up her father from the inpatient department to the color ultrasound room at seven o'clock, ranking No. 13.
The husband came to the hospital at 8:40, and it was only a 5-minute walk from home to the hospital, and after finding Hu Fang and her father in the waiting area of the color ultrasound room, people asked Hu Fang, "What are you all doing?" Haven't done it yet? ”
Hu Fang looked at him coldly and ignored him, and his father-in-law said: "Many departments of the Spring Festival Hospital have not been working, and they have only started to check this morning, and there are more people." We're on the 13th, and it's fast. ”
The husband walked around in the hallway of the hospital, looking here and looking there. It was Hu Fang's father's turn, and Hu Fang accompanied her father into the Cai Chao room, and her father had just lay down.
The door of the Cai Chao room was suddenly pushed open, and the husband fiercely broke in and shouted loudly, "You come in, why don't you call me?" "Completely disregarded the doctor who did the color ultrasound and the father who was lying on the hospital bed."
Hu Fang thought about being in the hospital and her father was still lying on the hospital bed, suppressing her anger, but still whispered: "If you want to come in, just come in together, if you don't want to come in, just wait outside." ”
The husband roared angrily, and then pointed at Hu Fang: "Tell you not to remember sex for a long time, when I clean up after you, what will I do?" Why don't you call me? Saying, he pushed Hu Fang out of the ground with a push belt.
The father couldn't bear to let his husband get out.
The doctors who do the color ultrasound are estimated to be frightened, Hu Fang only has to take her father's coat to stand outside the color ultrasound, leaning against the wall, Hu Fang is in tears, this is the personal scum.
The Spring Festival is on holiday, the husband did not take care of his father in the hospital for one night, and Hu Fang has been in the hospital for three consecutive days and three nights.
I don't want you to manage it, but the son-in-law should also manage it.
You yell at his daughter in front of your sick father, and you make your father think, so what does his father not come to? What do you do to his daughter? And this is the hospital, so what about at home?
Hu Fang took out her mobile phone and called the students of the Justice Bureau to introduce a better lawyer, with only two requirements: one should be fast; the other should be a baby.
The classmate originally wanted to persuade the ground, Hu Fang said: "If you don't introduce, I can definitely find it, but you are more knowledgeable, and I want to ask you to help find a little more harmful." ”
The classmates saw Hu Fang's resolute attitude and sent a lawyer to call over, and Hu Fang quickly made an appointment with the lawyer for a time and place.
03
Hu Fang was still in her memory, and her thoughts were interrupted by the phone.
The mother went to the hospital to bring food to her father, and casually changed Hu Fang and went home to change clothes and take a bath. Hu Fang's parents' home is in another neighborhood, not far from the hospital, just 20 minutes away.
Her mother called to tell Hu Fang not to come to the hospital, and she stayed in the hospital for one night tonight.
Hu Fang is still not at ease, her mother's health is not too good, her blood pressure is high, she is afraid of resting badly in the hospital, and she is also sick.
Thinking like this, Hu Fang packed up and went to the hospital again, thinking that she was going to tell her father and mother about her plans for divorce.
The three of them sat on the hospital bed, because it was the Spring Festival, there were not many patients, hu Fang calmly told her parents that she wanted to divorce.
Unexpectedly, the mother didn't even think about it and said, "If it doesn't work out, we can't lose a daughter there." The military and the government are not the same. ”
Hu Fang was surprised by her mother's attitude, an old rural lady in her 60s, who actually agreed to divorce her daughter.
The mother continued: "We see that it is also difficult to survive, but you are still insisting, we are not good at saying anything, mainly there are babies, where there are days, noisy all day, who still has a good mood." ”
"I don't know why, the military and government are the same as a patient, when you meet someone who argues with whom, and then kisses people, you will turn your face when you say that you turn your face, unlike a 40-year-old mature and stable person."
"The heart is not bad, but it is very selfish." There are many examples, all for trivial matters, and the military and government are like thunder and lightning.
For example, the baby is hospitalized with a cold, quarrels with doctors and nurses, quarrels with motorcycles and police officers, and quarrels with waiters when visiting a supermarket.
Say that once, in order to buy a house, said that the down payment is not enough, Hu Fang's father gave a loan of tens of thousands of yuan, parents mean that they bought the house themselves, there is not much cash in hand, the loan Hu Fang they themselves to repay, interest parents gave.
When the husband went to withdraw the money, he had to look at the voucher of the loan, and the mother was a little angry at the time: "The monarch does not believe us, ah, now this year, you have no money for a down payment, someone to give you a loan is not bad." We really don't have it now, and we still think that in two years the house will be handed over, and we will give the money for the renovation."
It is said that it was another time, during the Spring Festival, Hu Fang took her daughter and mother to see her brother, and her brother drove them back, and Junzheng took her daughter home.
Hu Fang thought, it is true, after 10 years of marriage, Hu Fang's relatives and friends have not eaten a meal at her husband's house.
In this way, Hu Fang remembered everything, because these things, in her husband's hateful words and deeds, were small things.
After the father had surgery, the in-laws rode only 10 minutes to the mother's house, and the husband did not visit once a year.
Can't go to the Spring Festival, but also force the mother, cook faster, people eat there is still something?
The mother asked Hu Fang: "Junzheng is very busy, 30 years old, are there still things?" Hu Fang said in her heart that people are not willing to stay here.
But I always feel that I have not left, Hu Fang is not willing to be an outsider to say that her husband is half a word, one is to hit him and not to mention himself; the other is that the meat stinks, and it can be better than mentioning it there.
Hu Fang sat on the walking stairway of the hospital and cried, it turned out that she was just struggling to insist, others including her parents felt that she was not worth it, for the baby, the key is that such an environment is really good for the baby?
Hu Fang also sent a message to her brother that she wanted to divorce, and her brother only replied with two words: support.
04
Hu Fang is a woman who, once decided, is a woman who is quick to cut through the mess.
Over the years, Hu Fang has greatly understood that the expenses of the baby and the expenses of the family are all managed by themselves, anyway, people do not say that they do not care, but they do not move, such as the TV is broken, the computer is broken, people do not care, Hu Fang sees that he is in a hurry, it is not that he did not buy this money, he went to buy it.
A good friend hinted to Hu Fang, the family is very powerful, will calculate people, you keep an eye. Hu Fang thought to herself, is there a family, what else to do? Now I understand that I am really penniless.
But then again, which woman gets married and goes for divorce? Even if she had nothing, Hu Fang thought that she would still have to divorce when she got married, and she couldn't spend any more.
Hu Fang does not want to say more than half a word to Junzheng now, everything is entrusted to the lawyer to do, the lawyer asked if there is any evidence of domestic violence? Or proof of payment for buying a house?
Hu Fang said that there is nothing ah, which woman lives a life is running to divorce to find evidence?
The lawyer said: "I tried my best, but the result is really difficult to say. You have to be mentally prepared, many women you don't see her financial success, but psychologically very fragile, some divorce cases have dragged on for several years, people can't stand it, they can't stand it, they all collapsed. ”
Hu Fang said: "Then please help me, I just want a baby, I have a place to live, I have a fixed job, money, a house, it doesn't matter if I want it or not." ”
In fact, Hu Fang is a very proud woman in her heart, she does not like to ask for people, but she must take the baby with her, and her husband's personality is not good, which will affect the baby. Another one, so many years, living is a baby, do not take away the baby, Hu Fang does not know what meaning of her life is.
I just didn't expect the divorce to go so smoothly. The court sent the notice to the husband's unit, and the husband entrusted the person to Hu Fang and said: "Agree to the divorce, but the daughter must stay." And promised that Hu Fang could go to see her daughter at any time, and she could pick her up if she wanted, or she could pick her up for a few days.
Hu Fang did not agree.
The husband's brother-in-law called and said: "I recognize him earlier than you recognize him, you see, I don't go to your house for a year, he doesn't save face, his sister has been married to me for so many years, he wants to scold, saying that I also want to say it." ”
"He has this kind of personality, you lead the baby to it, and you can't be peaceful when he makes trouble, and my mother-in-law always has time to let them lead it."
The mother-in-law also called and said: "It has been 20 years since his grandfather died, the son is like this, the granddaughter is an expectation, please continue to lead the baby." ”
Hu Fang did not waver in all this.
On this day, Hu Fang picked up her daughter to eat out, and Hu Fang asked her 4-year-old daughter: "In the future, let your grandmother cook for you to eat, your grandfather will send you to school, and your mother will help you with your homework after work, okay?" ”
The daughter didn't even think about it: "No, Grandma and Mom don't cook as much as Grandma cooks delicious, and when I grow up and can cook, I'll live with my mom at Grandma's house and cook for you." ”
Hu Fang silently shed tears, thinking about it, but she didn't expect that the reason why she couldn't take her daughter was because the food was not done well.
Hu Fang knew that when she introduced her daughter to her mother's house, they only ate a little bit at each meal, and then they kept saying that they wanted to eat instant noodles.
Hu Fang called the lawyer, and the lawyer said: "I want to say you can promise, you want to get out now, this is much faster than we thought, the baby is 10 years old, you can apply for a change of custody." ”
Hu Fang thought that the most important thing was the baby, the baby did not arrive, why did she want money and a house? Just leave it to the baby, did not mention this matter, the husband did not mention it, it is estimated that people are stealing pleasure alone.
05
In the blink of an eye, the divorce has been four years, and Hu Fang feels that life should not be too happy.
I can also see my daughter almost every day, because I have to give tutoring homework, and my parents estimate that it is inconvenient to stay together, and I will stay back to my hometown more.
160 square meters of large house, let Hu Fang a man-made, sometimes pick up the daughter up, two people in the kitchen to make dumplings, steamed steamed buns, good or not to eat does not matter, the main is to participate.
Go to learn drum kits together, go to the movies together, go hiking together, go back to your hometown to see your parents together, life is simple and happy.
Friends met, went shopping together, ate food, did beauty, stood behind the old lady, and danced square dancing.
And friends also ridiculed, we come out in a circle, but also to see the mother-in-law's eyes, to take the child, ah, you do not want to entrust the child to whom?
Without a companion, Hu Fang was also accustomed to being alone, and enjoyed such a day, cleaning up the room, raising a few pots of flowers, reading the Little Red Book to make some delicacies, and writing a few articles for his public account.
The only thing that bothers Hu Fang is that she still has no money, Hu Fang is bored, the salary is similar, why do others have a lot of savings? Is it true that you can't live a life?
To this end, Hu Fang recently reported for an investment and financial management course, haha, divorced women ask for love, it is better to learn how to make money.
The great aunt's beautiful lady tossed all the way from the provincial capital to the capital, and the words were not surprising and died endlessly, and they were offered with the text.