In the early hours of this morning, Liu Xuezhou, a boy in Hebei province who was looking for relatives, committed suicide by taking medicine in Sanya, Hainan, leaving a suicide note, at the age of 17. A flower season teenager should be a treasure in the eyes of his parents, but he chose the desperate road of suicide, which made us have to feel shocked and sad, this child, how desperate is life!
Let's take a look at Liu Xuezhou's short and unfortunate life: 3 months after his birth, his parents sold Liu Xuezhou to others for the bride price. His adoptive parents died after an accident and illness when he was 4 years old, and he was left to live with the elderly and relatives in the family. Transferred 5 times in 6 years of primary school, often bullied and isolated by other classmates; in junior high school, he was molested by a male teacher and had depression tendencies; later, after attending a college school in Shijiazhuang, he went to a training institution to become a guidance teacher. Touched by Sun Haiyang's success in finding his son, he had the urge to find his biological parents. In December 2021, he recorded a video of his family search, and with the cooperation of the police, found his parents. At this time, the parents had divorced and formed a new family separately. Liu Xuezhou was refused when he was homeless and asked his parents if he could help find a place to live, and blocked WeChat. On January 24, 2022, Liu Xuezhou died of poisoning in Sanya, Hainan.
Some people say that school bullying, indecency and online violence are the reasons why Liu Xuezhou embarked on the road to suicide. In my opinion, these are only external factors, and the abandonment of his parents again is the internal cause of Liu Xuezhou's real despair and suicide. Once, how much Liu Xuezhou longed for the love of his parents, he also thought that his parents loved him, so he embarked on the road of finding relatives. After searching for relatives, he learned that he was not abducted by human traffickers, but his parents were sold for money. Later, when he asked his parents for help finding a place to live when he was homeless, he was rejected by his parents and blocked him on WeChat. The relentless abandonment of his parents stung him deeply, making him feel incomparably sad and a great despair. Even his own biological parents did not love, all along, living for him only hurt and miserable, so what is the point of living?
Psychologists say that because of the natural and close nature of the blood relationship and kinship between parents and children, parents have a vital role in the growth of children. This is not only the parents' raising of their children, but more importantly, the influence and quality of children's personality. What children need most in the process of growing up is love, the love of parents, and parents should pass on and express this love to their children. If parents fail to provide warm emotional contact, children will grow up to be afraid of abandonment, loss, and lack.
From birth to successful search for relatives, Liu Xuezhou has never received the love of his parents. His parents sold him for money, and then abandoned him again for their own little family. To him, his parents have only the evil of human nature, the selfishness of human nature. The abandonment of his parents again became the last straw that crushed him, he was just a superfluous person, he could not feel a little love and warmth in the world.
If Liu Xuezhou's parents had sold him, there would have been an element of helplessness, but after he successfully searched for relatives, he could accept him and love him like Sun Haiyang. Even if it is difficult to remarry, if you can give him a little care and warmth, how can he embark on the desperate road of life? Who doesn't want to live well?
Mill said: Maternal love is the greatest force in the world. For children, the mother's lack of love, or the abandonment of the parents, is also the greatest destructive force in the world.