2004-2005 was a few years when the Korean Wave swept across Asia and exploded, and some of them could be seen often in later years, such as "My Name is Kim Sam-soon", which created a 50% rating myth at that time. Although the drama tells the love story of Kim Sanshun and Prince Charming, a girl with ordinary appearance, body shape and family background, it is not conventional, each character is very distinctive, and breaks the routine of the traditional Korean drama vicious female second, and many concepts are still outdated.
The love experience of Liu Xizhen, known as the "most beautiful woman number two" in the play, still has a lot to think about. What three mistakes did she make in her love affair with her first love boyfriend, Zhenxuan, and how did she solve them?
Liu Xizhen, the uncompromising White Rich Beauty. The family has a hospital in the United States, the family is rich, and her parents take good care of her. She is tall and tall, white and beautiful, and her first love in college, Zhenxuan, is a rich and handsome man at the school grass level, and her boyfriend also has a family business to inherit. Because it feels like sunshine when she laughs, her boyfriend calls her smile queen. Simply put, it is the glittering victory group of life.
Originally, it was a natural thing for the couple to get married, but fate made a joke with them. First, her boyfriend had a serious car accident in the car for a long time, and then she was found to have stomach cancer, and her parents asked her to go to the United States for surgery urgently. Her boyfriend's mother asked her to cut off contact with her boyfriend during treatment unless she was fully recovered.
01 Liu Xizhen's love mistake 1: Disappeared for love for three years, and only herself was moved
What a kind Liu Xizhen, she agreed to this harsh condition. She felt that her boyfriend could not forget her so perfect, and she naively felt that as long as she tried desperately to cure herself and come back to meet her boyfriend, their love would continue.
Here, Liu Xizhen made the first mistake of this relationship, that is, to go away to the United States alone and not tell her boyfriend. It seems to be for his own good, but in fact, it is not to consult with his partner to make decisions without permission. So later, when her boyfriend asked her why she abandoned herself, she was really speechless.
It is not advisable to give only unilaterally in a relationship. Because every relationship will encounter various tests, but no matter what the test, both parties must be honest with each other, there are difficulties in the same way, so that it can be long-lasting. Whether it is a man or a woman, do not be stupid to pay but not let your partner know, because many times your effort, the last touch may only be yourself.
The best way is for two people to go forward and retreat together, to build revolutionary feelings in the midst of suffering, and after the storm, your feelings will be sweeter and more affectionate than those of Jinjian. If two people can only share happiness and cannot share suffering, then this relationship is almost over.
You see, later when Liu Xizhen asked, was it wrong that she decided to leave? Her attending physician and spiritual mentor Henry told her the same thing.
02 Liu Xizhen's love mistake 2: too proud, insisting on not explaining in the face of misunderstanding
The first love mistake allowed Liu Xizhen and her first love boyfriend to spend three years without any intersection in pain. When he first met Xi Zhen who returned, his boyfriend was extremely angry. My boyfriend said that after looking for a long time, you heard nothing, and I survived by hating you. She was bitter in the face of her boyfriend's accusations, but insisted on not mentioning the real reason.
In order to stimulate her, the boyfriend said that he already had a new girlfriend, a girl who looked very ordinary in all aspects, Kim San-soon, and had already cohabited (in fact, it was a contractual relationship). Liu Xizhen believed it to be true, turned around and left. Even if she saw it in her boyfriend's tearful eyes, she could only crouch in the garage and cry uncontrollably, while saying to herself that she would be fine.
Henry asks her why she doesn't explain, and she says she doesn't want her boyfriend to be with her because of sympathy. And as long as the boyfriend loves her enough, he should understand her. So even if the boyfriend asked her face later, she still didn't explain, she said, I want you to regret it for the rest of your life.
This is the second mistake she made in love.
Couples, couples get along, there are problems can not be alone in the mind of the blind, sulking has no effect, must be said out, said out of the possibility of solving. In the feelings, what should be explained clearly must be explained as soon as possible, and do not drag mud and water. If the misunderstanding is not explained at the first time, the misunderstanding will snowball like a snowball. In the end, the feelings will also change. So don't be overconfident and think that your partner "should" understand you, there is nothing in this world that should be done, because even parents can't fully understand what you think, and the only one who can speak for you is yourself.
You see, Henry decisively told the truth, and the two lifted the misunderstanding and temporarily reunited. Otherwise, she and her first love boyfriend will only spend the rest of their lives resenting each other.
03 Liu Xizhen's love mistake 3: Self-abandonment cannot save love
When they first got back together, the two looked very sweet, but after a long time, she found that her boyfriend no longer remembered the details of their previous relationship, and the two people always had an awkward relationship, so they complained to Henry: I used to be sparkling, and now with the passage of time, the light has dimmed.
When she discovers that her boyfriend is already in love with Cinderella Kim Sam Soon, she goes to find Kim Sam Soon. Jin Sanshun told her that living in the moment is the most real, only the previous memories are useless, because the memories are not powerful, and the real choice in this love should be the boyfriend, not the two girls.
I have to say that in this game Liu Xizhen is almost bound to lose. She and her boyfriend are proud people, and Jin Sanshun is a weed-type girl who can't die and has great wisdom, and this vitality is obviously infected and changed her boyfriend's life. So no matter how hard Liu Xizhen tries, she still can't keep her boyfriend's heart that is drifting away. After a struggle of thoughts, her boyfriend finally broke up with her. She cried and said that even if it glows now, it will fade, and if you like her now, you will still forget it after a long time, just like me. The boyfriend bowed his head and said that everyone knew that they would eventually die, but they still had to live.
As soon as these words came out, she knew that there was no possibility of redemption. She began to masochistically and go on hunger strike. Originally, there was not much left in the stomach, so I went directly into the hospital and went to half a life.
Here she made another mistake. Because in the face of a person who no longer loves you, it is futile to do anything. One cry, two troubles, three hangings, is really undesirable. It is even more undesirable to go to the people around him, and even he can't control the change of heart, let alone the people around him? Those who have a conscience will only increase unnecessary distress, those who have no conscience, and even wish you to disappear. Self-harm and self-abuse for love is even more unnecessary, because the body is your own, you don't love yourself anymore, who else can you expect to love you?
You see, so the perfect Liu Xizhen is half dead, and the only thing her boyfriend can do is wait for her to get better and send her back to the United States. The heart was already there in Jin Sanshun.
04 Liu Xizhen's counterattack path: let go of the past to get a new life
Fortunately, fate is still not thin for Liu Xizhen. God gave her Henry, the one who accompanied her through her pain and showed her directions.
Three years ago, almost the entire stomach was cut off in the United States, and her most negative energy appearance was seen by the attending doctor Henry, who accompanied her with professional medical skills and generous patience, and accompanied her step by step to recover successfully. Unconsciously, she has long been accustomed to Henry's company, and the first person to find Henry is always troubled, and even unconsciously compares her boyfriend with Henry. She felt herself losing her luster after reuniting with her boyfriend, and Henry told her: You've always been sparkling! Liu Xizhen found out at this time that only in the eyes of people who truly love you, you will always shine. In fact, Henry's attitude to life has affected her, but she is too obsessed with the past and ignores the most cherished people who have always been around her.
Henry looked at her for self-abandonment, and said bitterly, why is everyone around you moving forward, only you are not moving forward? Only move on can people get a new life.
Fortunately, this time, Liu Xizhen had an epiphany.
Painfully, she ate the white porridge cooked for her by her love rival Jin Sanshun, sold her former house, bought a ticket back to the United States with Henry, and said goodbye to her boyfriend and past memories completely.
After returning to the United States, she began to study hard, took the medical license, and fulfilled her dream of becoming a doctor.
At this time, fate gave her another test. Henry had always wanted to go to Africa to become MsfS Anns Frontières and applied for approval, two years to go. He told Hee-jin the news and waited a little nervously for her to respond. Obviously, two years of parting time, everything is not easy to say. This time, she didn't hesitate any longer and said directly to Henry, can you wait for me to be admitted to the doctor, and then I will go with you?
Yes, she didn't want to miss any more time. Henry, for his part, returned her warmest answer.
So this time, she got her true love.
People always have to go through pain in order to grow. You can cry when you fall, but you must get up quickly. Kim Sam Soon said, I believe That Hee-jin must be a good doctor, because only people who have been sick will better understand the pain of patients. Liu Xizhen and Henry will also be happy for a long time, because she can learn from the previous relationship and find the right direction in time.
The beautiful Liu Xizhen deserves the happiness that suits her best. After reading this article, you are the same.