On the way to parenting, do not do helicopter parents

On the way to parenting, do not do helicopter parents.

Helicopter parent is a new word popular internationally,——— hovers over a child like a helicopter, monitoring your child's every move at all times. I am afraid that the child has something to lose, and I hope that the child will go well and that life will go straight to the end.

"New enrichment" is a common problem in today's families. In addition to spending money and "investing" for their children at any cost, parents also take great care of their children, and they are treated like "princesses" and "princes" everywhere. They arrange all kinds of tutoring and activities for their children that are "good for him", for fear that their children will lose at the starting point... So some people call such parents "Helicopter parents", which literally translates to "helicopter parents", like helicopters hovering over children.

Helicopter parents are divided into many categories, do not know how many you account for?

1. Excessively arranged in life, all of which are covered by food, clothing, housing and transportation.

2. Overly nervous after going to school, look for a teacher every three to five big things.

3. Excessive guidance on homework, and the same as the accompanying guidance correction is not left behind.

4. Over-participation in hobbies and interests, choosing to insist on giving up and want to make major decisions.

5, personal safety is too worried, crossing the road to ride a bicycle is always afraid of accidents.

6. Excessive anxiety in interpersonal communication, always worried about being bullied and meeting bad people.

7, food safety and nutrition are too worried, always worried about children eating unhealthy.

What are the dangers of helicopter parenting?

1. Destroy the parent-child relationship

Each child is an individual. They occasionally get in a daze, play with their phones, have their own privacy and little secrets, and their parents over-intervene and seriously install cameras. If the child lacks the space for freedom, the child will become depressed and rebellious. From the bottom of my heart, I want to stay away from my parents and get rid of the shackles of my parents, and sooner or later there will be problems in the parent-child relationship.

2, let the child can not be independent

The child's independent ability cannot be exercised, and after leaving the parents, he is at a loss, and gradually loses the ability to deal with things and the ability to control life. The growth of children is a process of continuous trial and error, and helicopter education tries to save them from all setbacks and difficulties, which will only make babies more and more unable to adapt to society. That's why there are so many nibbling old people.

3. Stifle children's ability to think

Always arrange everything for the child, they will lose the ability to think, gradually begin to rely on their parents for everything, and when they make their own choices, they are entangled and hesitant, and often miss good opportunities. When encountering difficulties, they are helpless and often solve them by escaping.

4, parents are thankless

In the process of helicopter parenting, the first to be lost are the parents themselves, losing their own lives and spending a lot of time. Pinning all hopes on the child, the child can not bear its weight, become vulnerable, and even blame the parents in turn, and finally evolve into a white-eyed wolf regret.

Most of the "good for you" that parents say to their children is kidnapping in the name of love.

Gibran said, "Your children are not your children." What you can shelter is their body, but not their soul, their soul belongs to tomorrow, to tomorrow that you can't dream of.

Raising children, as the American writer Jessica Lacey said: parents should take a step back and give their children the space to grow and improve themselves, which is conducive to stimulating inner autonomy and allowing them to experience their own sense of competence and presence.

A child is a life, a life that needs love and freedom. Raising children, "Whatever is the best tube." This sentence contains a wealth of educational wisdom. Regardless of whether it is not laissez-faire for children, it is a humane management of children, giving children a certain space for growth, and giving children a democratic and relaxed growth environment.

When the child has freedom in his heart, he is both vigorous and upward, and his heart is stretched; he is both pursued and healthy and happy. Only in this way can children fully display their personality, give full play to their potential, let go of their ideals, and live their own style.

If you want to cultivate excellent children, parents should not be a helicopter hovering over their children's heads, but be an expert who knows how to accompany and know education, and be a wisdom leader behind it.