"Days of Fighting with Mom"
Four twenty-zero
Saturday January 22, 2022 Snow
I didn't pay attention last night, but this morning I got up and looked out the window, wow, a silver coat. The yard is like a thick and loose white mattress, the children can't wait to run out, step on the white "mattress", watch them spread happily on the snow, watch them slide and twist, dumb and laugh, this may also be the fun of pets, they always make my heart full of happiness and joy.
Flowers always slip around, almost fall, four-legged although not easy to "roll over", but balance on the snow also need to master the skill.
Watching them play, I can't help but be a little sad, how good it is to be young, even if it falls, I am not afraid, since I saw a girl fall off a horse and fracture, I dare not ski and dare not ride a horse, last year when it snowed I also built a snowman for them, cut the carrot pointed nose, looking for black buttons to make eyes, this year there is no such idea, the heart is gone, the energy can not keep up, so ah, I remembered a sentence that my mother often said to me, "what age to do anything" Young couples want children, really don't be too late, don't be too old, Although medical technology is now more and more developed, elderly pregnant women are more and more no problem, but the main care of the child's energy and physical strength can not keep up with ah, you see just like the child riding on the neck of the father to the zoo to see the giraffe, the most classic and warm picture of it, this physical work, the age is easy to eat. There are also many grandparents who like to bring grandchildren, but if you have children at the age of 40, the old people are running 70, and they will also have more than enough and lack of strength.
In fact, it is impossible for people to have no regrets in this life, no children, no family, no career, no money, no house... The best way to encounter these problems is to learn to look at it from a different perspective, such as loneliness, learn to enjoy loneliness, loneliness is actually just a feeling of people at a specific time, which in turn can be understood as freedom, and the regret of not having children can be understood as freedom in turn.
Of course, what I want to say most today is that we, in the face of life, we still need a little wisdom a lot of times, and when we need to compromise, we think about how to compromise, and if we refuse to compromise, we can't get along with ourselves.
I now understand more and more that no one in this world can go all the way, and there are many unsatisfactory things in life. Always love to drill the tip of the bull's horn, will only fall into a dead knot, blindly compete, will only add to their own blockage. Sometimes it is not the difficulty itself that traps us, but our inflexible mentality. Learning to turn a corner, the mountains and rivers are exhausted and the willows are dark and bright, often in a single thought.
Learn to turn corners, learn to compromise with life My example is my grandmother Li Lili, she is so famous in the thirties of the big star, when I sorted out her information, I found that she starred in seven movies such as "Sports Queen", "Gadgets", "Wolf Mountain Blood" and so on from 1932 to 1935, that is, during the war, she also starred in the anti-war movies "Lonely Island Paradise" and "Plugged in the Storm", but after liberation, she was first assigned to the North Film Actors Troupe, when the stars of shanghai in the thirties only Grandma and Grandma Wang Renmei came to Beijing. But they are not reused, there has been no drama, after liberation she only played a villain role with only a few scenes in "Wisdom to Huashan", Renmei Grandma also wrote in her autobiography "I lack self-knowledge, always obsessively waiting" In the face of all kinds of unfairness of the movement, Grandma she is very wise, she compromised, she turned, first went to the film school to study, and then stayed in school to become a teacher, teaching her own acting experience to the children, becoming a gardener full of peach and plum.
There is also the writer Shi Tiesheng, who was paralyzed in both legs when he was twenty-one years old. He was the proud son of heaven in Tsinghua High School, who should have had a great future, but now he has become a "wasted man" in a wheelchair. Forced to a desperate situation by fate, after being negative for a while, he finally accepted the reality of physical disability and began to plan his future path: writing.
So at the age of twenty-seven, he began to learn to write from scratch. At the age of forty, he finally caused a wide response in the industry with the article "Me and the Temple of Earth". Later, he successively published "Sick Gap Broken Pen" and "Retreat Notes", which were well-known in the literary world. Fate had blocked one path for him, and he had to use paper and pencil to knock another path for himself. As he himself said: "When there is a gap between the left and the right, there must always be a road to go, and this road can no longer be traveled with legs, so I use a pen to find it." ”
Anyway, I think that if people want to move forward, they must know how to turn, constantly adjust their steps, and slowly adapt to the road under their feet. There is a saying that goes well: "Water to a desperate situation is a landscape, and a person to a desperate situation is a rebirth." "Try to reconcile with life, and you will find that there is no obstacle that cannot be crossed, only a corner that cannot be turned." When there is a storm ahead, turn your head, it is another sunny day.
I find that my problem is always turning, being a teacher, being a model, being an actor, being a company, being a director, writing now, anyway, I think no one's life is always set in stone. No one prescribes which kind of life is the right, you are you, a different rainbow, I hope that friends can live a wonderful life. And everyone, thank you for reading.
