Some marriages may not be doomed to go long ~ because they have the "Four Horsemen of Doom" in their lives, and see if there will be any in our married lives? Mentioned in Happy Marriage: Ride

Some marriages may be doomed not to go far

Because they have the "Four Horsemen of Doom" in their lives

See if there will be one in our married lives?

In Happy Marriage, it is mentioned that:

Knight 1: Criticism

Hit the other person, deny the spouse's character or personality, and make a negative evaluation.

For example: "Is there something wrong with you?" "How can you always be so selfish?"

These negative words for the whole person really hurt the other person and reduce the score for your emotions.

Knight 2: Despised

Sarcasm or cynicism is contempt, and swearing, rolling eyes, ridicule, sarcasm, sarcasm, and unfriendly humor are all contempt.

It poisons the relationship between husband and wife because it expresses disgust for people.

Knight 3: Defense

In the process of arguing, people will unconsciously defend, but this method rarely has the desired effect, and the other party may not give in or apologize for our defense, because the defense is actually a way to blame the spouse.

Knight 4: Cold War

Ignore each other and don't respond. Even if you see and hear, you are still like a wall, unresponsive.

The Cold Warrs acted unconcerned about what you said and did.

Marriage may not be like addition and subtraction, with these will be what happens, many families of marriage still exist, but still maintain, that may also have other positive factors.

This is just a reminder that when encountering these situations, you can make some adjustments and communicate in a different way.

In any case, in marriage, it is better to be comfortable and know what you want.

After all, life without 100 points, 60 points, can still be happy.

Wishing you happiness [heart]

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